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Expert: Dianne Schwartz
Date: 4/25/2008
Subject: Need help
Question
I am married to an abusive husband. There is no doubt. We have a child involved but I am reluctant to get help (in the form of counseling) because of Social Services. We are in the process of separating our household, however, he is pretty down-right awful to speak with. And I think that I will need to speak with someone to deal with the emotional abuse, which has been horrible. If I were to seek counseling on the behalf of my child and myself what would you recommend that I say? And how would I keep it private? Thanks for all that you do for abused women everywhere.
Answer
Hi Liz!
Call a shelter in your area and ask about a support group or ask if they could recommend a counselor. They would know about a good domestic violence counselor, which is what you need.
Just tell them the truth. He abused you emotionally and it's done a number on you and you need help. You don't even have to give your real name if you don't want to. They will ask you some questions but it's for data to be fed into national banks so they can keep track of dv statistics. Any info they receive is kept very private so don't worry about it.
I'm so glad you are out of this situation. Good for you to have the strength to get out. Just stay strong and don't talk to him unless you absolutely have to and if he starts abusing you, hang up. He can't do it if you aren't there. Let him know that you are no longer his victim and the way you do this is to stop talking to him.
Feel free to email me privately if you need to at whose_face@yahoo.com I wish you the very, very best. Good luck!
Dianne
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