AboutSusan Blocker Expertise My name is Susan Blocker. I am 45 years old, born with a physical disabillity I am SURVIVOR of Physical, Sexual, Verbal, Emotional and Economical abuse. During the past 11 years via my website "Climbing Out Of The Spiral" I have provided a myriad of online support and counseling services to survivors and victims of abuse worldwide.
My knowledge stems from my own personal experiences with childhood abuse and domestic violence. Through my own experience with abuse I've learned many valuable lessons that I am able to pass on to those in need of guidance and support, so that they may begin their "Climb Out Of The Spiral".
Experience My greatest accomplishment is surviving thirty years of abuse and having the strength to uphold my emotional fortitude so that I can pass my experience on to other survivors of abuse. I am creative founder of a website dedicated to promoting abuse awareness and prevention. Climbing Out Of The Spiral has provided abuse support and counseling services to victims and survivors of abuse world wide since December 7, 1996. Climbing Out Of The Spiral is my most precious achievement.
Expert: Susan Blocker Date: 4/25/2008 Subject: emotions and seperation
Question My husband smashed a glass of wine over my head. This caused me injury and him
to be put on a perpatrators course. We have decided to seperate. I feel totally un
emotional about the whole thing. I feel that I dont have any feelings. He says he still
loves me but wants to separate because he is worried he will do it again and that I
will be abusive. I still love him and cant get my head around it as this was not an
isolated incident. He has kicked and slapped me in the past as well as thrown glass
bottles at me(small miniture bottles). How can I love someone like this and how can I
feel so unemotional about what has happened and the separation. We have been
married for 17 years so I should feel something. Not even relief comes to mind. I feel
like I did when my dad died. I feel dead inside and empty. Any ideas to why and will I
go mad or am I already mad?
Answer Hello:
Thank you for your inquiry. Sometimes a person can become immune to physical abuse to a point where they shut down emotionally almost as though they are no longer able to feel what's going on around them. This is used as a way to cope with bad things that may be happening.
Unfortunately it's hard for me to truly determine exactly why you feel the way you do. Only "YOU" can decipher your true feelings. There are several ways that may help you to work out your emotions, one of which involves supportive counseling by a professional therapist specializing in domestic violence issues.
Because of safety concerns sometimes it is best that couples separate temporarily until the issues of abuse is resolved.
NO you are not going mad. I just strongly suggest that you consider looking into participating in a support counseling system. It is important to seek out an adequate support system for yourself.
You might consider contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
I also invite you to visit my support web site Climbing Out Of The Spiral at:
