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About Dianne Schwartz
Expertise
Relationship, self-love, domestic violence, personal and spiritual growth, self-examination to define the reasons we have pulled unhealthy people into our lives and how to end this destructive practice.

Experience
Author of, "Whose Face is in the Mirror?" One woman's journey through the nightmare of domestic violence to true healing. Website for battered women and non-profit organization that assists victims of abuse.

Organizations
Domestic violence director of The Peace at Home Program. Court approved trainer and speaker on domestic abuse.

Publications
This book was reviewed by The Library Journal

Awards and Honors
Book was chosen as Hay House Publishing "Book of the Year."

You are here: Experts > People/Relationships > Marriage > Domestic Violence > Is it abuse?

Topic: Domestic Violence

Expert: Dianne Schwartz
Date: 5/6/2008
Subject: Is it abuse?

Question
I am divorcing a man who has made 2 false DSS reports against me (the ending is I am a fit parent and case was closed unfounded). He has faxed our daughters doctor and teacher saying I am crazy, unfit, "bipolar", a drug dealer and such. I have been accused of victim of munchasen syndrome by proxy (I know I spelled that wrong, sorry) which has proven to be untrue by the specialists in my daughter's care. I am a stay at home mom with 2 girls (one of them is handicapped) so he was the one making money when I was living with him. He would give me 10.00 to last 2 weeks and I would have to justify where I spent the money. He told me I could not leave the house and threatened to call the police to say I abandoned my children if I left the house. Every time I do not agree with him he is always threatening to call DSS again on me. I know this is aggravating but is it abuse?

Thank you.

Sheri

Answer
Oh my word! You are sooooo confused. Yes, this is abuse. Mental, verbal, emotional and financial.

You need to call your local shelter and get out of this situation and fast. Your girls will suffer along with you as they grow older and can understand that you are basically a prisoner in your home.

Your husband sounds very mentally unstable and a horrible control freak. They can be dangerous when they feel their victim is going to leave so you must do it safely. I know it isn't everyone's idea place to go (a shelter) but you would be safe and they can provide resources to help you in many ways. You just need to plan and do this carefully and safely and a shelter will help you to do this.

I hope you remain safe and don't have any further problems with him. I believe you should take out an order of protection on him. Not that they always work but if he ends up spending time in jail for breaking the order, it could be a wake up call.

Please stay safe! I will be sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.

In Peace,

Dianne Schwartz

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