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iv been out of an abusive relationship for 4 years i was in that relationship for 20 years. i am now with the most caring and unselfish man you could posibley meet but im still scared like i cant go out on my own. cant talk to any one untill i know them well i dont wont to be scared any more and dont know how to get help or how to feel safeplease can you help
Hi Alison,
I certainly understand your concerns. When you spend that kind of time in an abusive relationship, it changes you and you get conditioned to respond in certain ways to certain things. The best thing I can recommend to you is to find an abuse counselor and invest in yourself. Often, abuse counselors can be connected with women's centers or domestic violence organizations if you have them available. If not, you can contact hospitals in your area to see if they have anyone they refer to.
Abuse counseling will help you immensely and I strongly encourage you to invest in yourself that way. Abusive relationships destroy your identity, they destroy your self esteem and you need other people to help get that back. You are worth investing in Alison.
Blessings, Kriss
www.livingwellcc.com
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Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP
Expertise
I am able to answer questions with regard to problems that result from emotional abuse or physical abuse in both dating and marriage relationships. Having been in an abusive relationship for many years, I know first hand the feelings, the questions and the doubts we go through as we try to make decisions about our lives. Often victims of abuse have deep faith based concerns regarding staying in these kinds of relationships which I am able to address as well.
Experience
My background started as a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship as well as having family members who were victims of violence and physical abuse. I have gone on to become a professional counselor and I work with abused women.
Organizations
American Mental Health Counselors Association,
American Association of Christian Counselors,
International Association of Prayer Counselors
Publications
I currently maintain a blog at www.livingwellcc.blogspot.com. I also have links and currently written articles on my website at www.livingwellcc.com. You can also follow me on TWITTER @livingwellcc, or on facebook at Living Well Counseling and Consulting. My writings have appeared in The Good News Northwest and the North Idaho Business Journal
Education/Credentials
Licensed Professional Counselor,
Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor,
Certified Rehabilitation Counselor,
Certified Natural Health Professional
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