	AllExperts > Domestic Violence
	Search

About Susan Blocker
Expertise
My name is Susan Blocker. I was born in 1962 with a physical disabillity and I am SURVIVOR of Physical, Sexual, Verbal, Emotional and Economical abuse. During the past 11 years via my website "Climbing Out Of The Spiral" I have provided a myriad of online support and counseling services to survivors and victims of abuse worldwide. My knowledge stems from my own personal experiences with childhood abuse and domestic violence. Through my own experience with abuse I've learned many valuable lessons that I am able to pass on to those in need of guidance and support, so that they may begin their "Climb Out Of The Spiral".

Experience
My greatest accomplishment is surviving thirty years of abuse and having the strength to uphold my emotional fortitude so that I can pass my experience on to other survivors of abuse. I am creative founder of a website dedicated to promoting abuse awareness and prevention. Climbing Out Of The Spiral has provided abuse support and counseling services to victims and survivors of abuse world wide since December 7, 1996. Climbing Out Of The Spiral is my most precious achievement.

Education/Credentials
My educatonal credentials stems from "Life Experience".

You are here: Experts > People/Relationships > Marriage > Domestic Violence > my husband doesnt respect me & treat me as i am no one to him!

Domestic Violence - my husband doesnt respect me & treat me as i am no one to him!

Expert: Susan Blocker - 11/5/2009

Question
hi i am married for 8months(arrange marriage).my husband hide many of his family matters from me.treat me as i am an outsider. when i am at my mom's home he call me very rarely never tell me where he is.he many many many a times tells me lie.i am now 5months pregenant,when he get to knw dt i am preganant he say he is no happy but when his babhi talks about it with him he gets agree with it.when he is out he nvr pck my calls but pick his babhi's calls.when he his with his family he ignores me now i am at my mom's house i call him day b4 yestrday he doesnt tlk to me & was out for late night as told by his mom and bhabhi 2mrw mrng he get out of home again and doesnt pck anyone's phn atay awya out for whole nght 2day he calles his mom to tell he is in jaipur he doesnt care for me evn use abusive language with me
i cnt get saperate a my parents cnt tolerate it and i allso love him a lot!

Answer
Hello Bharti:

I am sorry for the problems you have experienced within your home. I imagine that you do love your husband but he still has no right to be verbally abusive towards you and disrespect you.

I am from America our cultures are different and I am unfamiliar with the laws in your country with regard to arranged marriages. Here in America domestic violence is considered a crime. Husbands/Wives (Abusers) are prosecuted and sent to jail (punished) when they cause harm to their wives (spouses).

I did some research and I found that there are several organizations in India that provide support and counseling services to women/men who are being abused by their spouses. Bharti I encourage you to visit the following web site at:

http://www.sawnet.org/orgns/violence.php#India

Please feel free to visit the web site listed above contact the agencies that you feel will be most helpful to you and your current situation.

Bharti please always remember "No one has a right to abuse you in any way. Not even your husband." Your husband should Love, Cherish, Protect and Respect you and your children always. Do Not allow anyone to abuse you in anyway. There is help available please utilize the resources that are available to you within the country of India.

You can also visit the following web site: the National (USA) Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or visit there company web site at: http://www.ndvh.org/

Bharti if I may be of further assistance to you please feel free to contact me again at your convenience.

Best Regards
Susan B. Blocker
Founder
Climbing Out Of The Spiral
http://climbingout.bravehost.com

Add to this Answer Ask a Question