Expert: Laura Giles - 5/17/2009

Question
I ve been married for 6yrs and I ve 2 childern. for those 6yrs, i ve never felt like one with my hubby, i ve been abused bot physically and verbally and in so many ways. our sex life is nothing to write home about and we ve been seprated for 8months now after he beat me up and personally took me to my parents house which he has done courtless times. our childern were divided between us. Now he has called me just 2days ago that he still loves me. that i should come back. what should i do? I live in Africa and a Nigerian.

Answer
Dear Ebony,

From the information you provided, there seems to be no good reason to return to your marriage. Why go back to an abusive, unhappy situation?

I think you should live your life without him, be successful, be happy, and move on. If you want the pain to be behind you, don't pick it up again.

Sincerely,

Laura Giles