AboutChardonnay Nicole Thomas Expertise I am someone who is highly experienced in the fields of Domestic Violence and Abusive
Relationships. I have been in my share of abusive relationships and I have also studied this field. I feel that it really takes someone who has been there and been abused to really understand what other women go through. I have been in unstable relationships that involved physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. At that time, I felt as if there was no way out, but there is. I didn't think that I could make it, but I did, I didn't think that I could be strong, but I was. There were times when I was constantly being put down and my self-esteem was lowered. I know that you do not have a good feeling about yourself when someone who claims to love and care about you tells you that you are worth nothing and will never be anything out of life. I had to get away from that. I wanted my life to be positive, and now it seems to be. I still have days when I think about what I've been through and I feel melancholy, but I know that I'm okay now. I know now that I am strong and that I can make it through anything. I no longer allow people to disrespect and mistreat me, that doesn't sit well with me now. My standards of how I should be treated are much higher than they used to be. I feel that women especially, should always aim for the best, and never, ever settle for less than you deserve, because if you do, then you get what you settle for. I'm here to offer my expert advice to women who have experienced domestic violence and other forms of abuse throughout relationships. Remember, there is hope, so don't give up on yourself;
BE CONFIDENT and BE STRONG.
Experience I have been in several abusive and unhealthy relationships that have given me the life experience that I have today. I am no longer ashamed to share my views and personal stories on how I survived domestic violence. I persevered through so many negative situations in my life, including abusive relationships, by having faith, and using the strength that God gave me. I learned a long time ago that life is not fair, and there is nothing that anyone can do about that; but we only have one life, so therefore we need to live it the best way that we know how. If people only realized how little time we do actually have here on this Earth, many people would not take so many things for granted. Tomorrow is not promised, but I know that if I stay on the right path towards life, everything will turn out okay. When I look back on my past, it's the good things that give me a more positive outlook on life; different times in my life where I was doing different things/activities. Some of my credentials and greatest accomplishments are throughout Dance and Music. For almost ten years I was a classical dancer. I excelled in Ballet, Jazz, and Pointe, but Ballet is my first love and always will be. I received awards, trophies, and numerous certificates throughout my years in dance. I also used to participate in an Orchestra where I played the violin. I received many certificates, awards, and medals throughout my time playing. I have also made The National Dean's List for the year's 2001-2002, and 2002-2003; as well as The National Scholars Honor Society in 2003. Not only that, I have volunteered with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) in the past, and will continue to do so in the future.
Organizations American Psychological Association—APA;
American Psychology-Law Society—AP-LS;
House Rabbit Society—HRS;
International Association for Correctional and Forensic Psychology—IACFP;
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence—NCADV;
North Georgia House Rabbit Society—NGHR
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Science Degree in Psychology, Concentration: Psychology Applied to the Workplace, Walden University, Expected: 2010
Awards and Honors Hope Scholarship Recipient, 2005;
The National Scholar's Honor Society, Inducted 2003;
National Dean's List, 2001-2002; 2003-2004;
Georgia Music Educator's Association, Band-Orchestra, 1991-1992; 1992-1993;
Conference Presenter-Clayton State University and The National Archives' Civic Engagement Student Research Conference, Title of Presentation: "North to the Future: The Candidates, Highlights, Factors, and Essential Outcome of the 2008 Alaska U.S. Senate Race"
Question hello there. i got a restraining order against my ex bf in early july and i have not been able to serve him the papers yet. The police/sheriff have tried to serve him 6times at his work and 3times at his home and they can never catch him there. I really need to get this restraining order because he knows where i live and i feel like i am in danger. i have also tried a process server and they have had no luck at his work nor his home yet. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to get the restraining order papers to him? Could I mail it to him or certified mail to him or drop it on his front step? I just do not know where to find him because he works at starbucks and his schedule is never set in stone, it varies from day to day and i'm not sure if he is with someone else now and he is not home much anymore and just comes home late at nite. i do not know. it has been stressing me out a great deal with many bad nights of sleep. Can you please help me on what I can do to get this restraining order to my ex boyfriend? also I stay in California and the court date is next wednesday so I really need to get the papers to him right away or I will have to start all over again which I really do not want to do. Start all over again meaning try again trying to serve him. Please help and I hope you understand my question. Thank you.
Answer Flower,
This is a situation that is best handled by the court. What you can do is let your lawyer, if you have one, and the judge know that you do fear for your life and they will intervene. Also, I would recommend talking with the sheriff as well. Also, if he works at a certain place, then the court should be talking to his manager to try and find out when exactly he will be at work or it may be that he has gotten another job and and/or left the last one or he may be doing this on purpose, so who knows? What you do not want to do is try to handle this bu finding him yourself, do not do that and do not contact your ex in any way. You want the law to be on your side so do not do anything that will interfere with that. I realize that you are afraid and upset, but you will get through this. If your ex does not want to spend time in jail or prison, he will eventually get the message.
Make it a Great Day!
All My Very Best,
Chardonnay Nicole Thomas
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