Domestic Violence/Abusive Husband

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My husband has hit me in the past (3 years ago). He went into counselling and improved. However, I can see that he is starting to go back to his old ways. I drew up an agreement that he would not put his hands on me again, but he refused to sign it. I would like your view point on why do you think he refused to sign it. What is the first thought that comes to your mind?

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Dear Kittytruelove,

    I read your question and will answer, but first I would like to thank you for asking me. I have a few theories but the first one that comes to mind is, perhaps he is afraid that if he signs it and one day you both end up in court, you would have the evidence you need to prove that he was an abusive person because his signature is on a document supporting the fact. He would be admitting in a legal binding document that he had hit you in the past and that he was promising you, he would not do it again.
    Another reason is (not that I agree). is that perhaps he thinks it's stupid to sign a paper saying he wont hit you. If he does, he does and if he doesn't then he doesn't. If you dont like it leave.
    Or, if he doesn't sign it, he wont be held accountable.
    All I can say is be safe. Take care of you. It has been good so far but dont let it advance, only you can truly keep you safe. I will be praying for you.
         Sharman Castillo

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Sharman Castillo

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I can answer questions on mental abuse and physical abuse. I can answer questions on sexual abuse for adult women. I can not answer questions on sexual abuse for children because I have never experienced that personally.

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I was in an abusive situation twice. Once for 1-year and 6 months. The other for 2-years and 3 months. I know the cycle of being abused by the abuser and then believeing he will change. Forgiving him or her and then starting over again, with the same abuse.

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Life experience, sometimes it takes talking to someone who has been there.

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