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jess101 wrote at 2010-03-14 03:17:42
Elizabeth I must first say i am so sorry you are going through this.  I know what you are going through i am going through and have gone through some of the same things but my husbands problem was drug abuse. He stopped now I am helping him over come this and he is changing do you think he may be abusing drugs.  If not then i dont think there is a chance of him changing.  

I wish for you the best you will be in my prayers tonight


Theodore wrote at 2011-05-18 10:21:50
First of all, I'm tired of woman making unorthodox suggestion about what's going on in a man head when it comes to situation like this.  I'm not vouching for his behavior, but it's always to side to the story.  Being nice to lure you back into his little trap?? Are you serious? You need to grow up sweetie.  No man wants to abuse his wife.  No man, obvious it's something she's doing to make him so angry.  Are you supportive of him and his desires?  Do you should interests in the things that he holds dearly to his heart?  Are you running off the mouth telling your family business to everybody?  Those are things men dont like.  There is nothing like a nagging wife who really only shows interests in how much your paycheck is.  It's always to side to the story, and the problem I have with so call "women advice" is they only tailored to the woman needs, and not the overall situation in general.  


Shelly wrote at 2013-04-09 20:52:56
I grew up in domestic violence, I had one relationship after another with the same domestic situations. I am married to a abuser. He has gone and got help. Classes every week for two years. He must admit and work to change or he wont get any better. It gets worse if left unattended to. I do individual counseling. There has to be a breaking point for him. My husband grew up in the same domestic situation too we just keep repeating what we grew up in. Sometimes they do it with out knowing its so habit forming.

Once the classes start you see results, they change slow but he hasn't hit me since and is working on the verbal. These are broken people and no one wants to admit they have problems. Lots of patience and forgiveness goes a long way. Church groups help me with that, Jehovah witnesses they are supportive and amazing.  


Shelly wrote at 2013-04-09 20:54:15
I grew up in domestic violence, I had one relationship after another with the same domestic situations. I am married to a abuser. He has gone and got help. Classes every week for two years. He must admit and work to change or he wont get any better. It gets worse if left unattended to. I do individual counseling. There has to be a breaking point for him. My husband grew up in the same domestic situation too we just keep repeating what we grew up in. Sometimes they do it with out knowing its so habit forming.

Once the classes start you see results, they change slow but he hasn't hit me since and is working on the verbal. These are broken people and no one wants to admit they have problems. Lots of patience and forgiveness goes a long way. Church groups help me with that, Jehovah witnesses they are supportive and amazing.  


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Relationship, self-love, domestic violence, personal and spiritual growth, self-examination to define the reasons we have pulled unhealthy people into our lives and how to end this destructive practice.

Experience

Author of, "Whose Face is in the Mirror?" One woman's journey through the nightmare of domestic violence to true healing. Website for battered women and non-profit organization that assists victims of abuse.

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Domestic violence director of The Peace at Home Program. Court approved trainer and speaker on domestic abuse.

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This book was reviewed by The Library Journal

Awards and Honors
Book was chosen as Hay House Publishing "Book of the Year."

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