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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Options | 1/27/2012 |
| Q: The past 15 years have been tough living with my mother, we get along perfectly as long as she not ... A: . Hon I am so sorry it took me so long to get back to you but I thought about it and I dont ... | |
| Help me help my Mom, Please | 12/26/2011 |
| Q: My mom is dating a guy in law enforcement and he is physical abusing her, but never leaves any ... A: Honey, I am super, super sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you and I really ... | |
| Emotional Abuse and Confusion | 11/1/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for ten years now. I dated him for five years before we got married in ... A: Honey, I am so sorry that I could not get right to you but I am a Flight Attendant and I was working ... | |
| Do I have an abusive husband? | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: This is my second marriage - the 1st lasted for 4 months. The 1st man was both physically as well as ... A: Hon, Sorry to have taken so long to get back to you but it couldn't be helped. I like to ... | |
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: Hon, So sorry but I have been in the hospital. I care about you but am still pretty weak. Write ... | |
| Love, Abuse, Prison, Stds | 8/6/2011 |
| Q: I am twenty two years old and I feel lost right now. I met Billy when I was 16 and he was 15. At 18 ... A: Hon... Sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you but I was out of town and now I ... | |
| I am stuck | 6/10/2011 |
| Q: I got a restraining order on my boyfriend that is good for a year. After 3 months into the ... A: Hon, I am so sorry that I took so long to get back to you but I am here now and here goes. We ... | |
| regarding my love life | 6/1/2011 |
| Q: i am into a relationship for 2 years,by profession i am a well settled,but my boyfriend is not,he do ... A: Sweet heart please forgive me for taking so long to get back to you, I am terrible sorry and I know ... | |
| help me please | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: My name is Kiran I got marry to my cousin in DEC 2009 and came to USA from Pakistan on spouse visa ... A: I am going to try to be real honest with you as much as possible and also to let you know that ... | |
| Physical abuse | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: As of recently my now ex-boyfriend assaulted me after a party. It was not the first time he hit me ... A: Sorry it took me so long to get back to you Hon. I read your letter and the truth is this. ... | |
| domestic Abuse | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years and just recently left my husband. He was becoming very physically ... A: From experience because I have been where you are and watching or hearing from others, now that you ... | |
| domestic violence and hiv | 11/21/2010 |
| Q: i have recently(march this year) tested positive for hiv and disclosing to my boyfriend of 3 years ... A: Sorry to take long time to get back to you. Your question is hard only because you are vulnerable ... | |
| verbal abuse towards grandparents | 11/18/2010 |
| Q: My cousin has recently moved in with my granparents and is currently going through the prossess to ... A: , As soon as you can get help for your grandparents,,, the Elderly and Children are the most ... | |
| sexual abuse? | 8/28/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I are in the middle of a divorce in AZ. He recently became physically violent. In ... A: I am sorry about taking so long to get back to you but I am glad you wrote. I read your letter and ... | |
| Step Father emotional abuse | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: I would like to know whether I have right to live in my step father's house while my mother and ... A: Hon I believe he will have the right to throw you out of the house because you are an adult and as ... | |
| Step Father emotional abuse | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: I would like to know whether I have right to live in my step father's house while my mother and ... A: Hon that is a hard question and I am not an expert in the field. Now I do know in some states, you ... | |
| I need to know | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: sometimes i feel like im over reacting and others i just think..honestly does anyone deserve to be ... A: Hon I am going to tell you right now, Praise God for the separation and stay away. That is not the ... | |
| is this normal | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: i've been out of it for about 71/2 years. sometimes i feel as if i'm sinking back in i go through ... A: I understand and meds do help but if you don't want it, no one can force you to take it but I do ... | |
| Some questions | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: Sorry to bother you and bombard you with questions but i needed a second interview :) For my ... A: Ok... Lets go down the list. 1. I am a Christian Author/Singer, Songwriter and I am also a ... | |
| abuse | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I know this couple for a few years now, they always look like a very happy couple, but these past ... A: First Mari, Very sorry for taking so long to get to you. Second, men can't take children ... | |
| Is this spousal abuse? | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: and i been with my fiance for almost a yr! it will make a yr this June 29...im also engaged yes i ... A: Sweetheart, I read your entire letter and it was long....lol :O). But that is ok, it let me ... | |
| Do I deserve molestation then? | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: You said that you were disturbed by what I said.That does make me feel like if I was molested,that I ... A: No Corrina you do not and neither does anyone else. I really think that I will not do you justice ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: Well I must admit now.The whole ordeal with the molestation thoughts are not true.I am 13 and I ... A: I don't remember you even telling me about having those feeling for children,,, I hope you will not ... | |
| Emotional abuse | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: As you can see I set up a new email address, one my husband doesnt know about. I pretty much ... A: I am still so sorry for you but I am happy that you really are strong I just don't think you give ... | |
| can we recover? | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: I've known my ex boyfriend and father of my 4 year old daughter for 17 years, we've been together ... A: When a person is on drugs they do loose their minds, to me it opens a door for demons to come in, I ... | |
| Emotional abuse | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I can not provide my email as my husband checks it, so hopefully you can help me without having to ... A: Sweety your husband is only doing what all abusers do. They torment us and then make it seem like ... | |
| Am i doing the right thing ? | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 9 years. After being married for 3 mths my husband, due to low esteem would ... A: So sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you. I felt sad when reading your letter and fully ... | |
| I feel stuck in a 2x2 square without an exit!- HELP | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old girl, with two daughters 3 and 1 from two different partners, I have been with ... A: I am very sorry that is has taken me so long to get back to you, I work long and just was unable to ... | |
| WHAT DO I DO?? | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: I AM 19 YEARS OLD, AT ONE TIME I WAS PREGANT AND LOST MY CHILD AT 3 MONTHS.. MY BOYFRIND STARTED TO ... A: You are very young and not married so you are no obligated to stay in a relationship that doesn't ... | |
| abusive husband | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to an abusive man for 6 years. I recognized as early as the first year when I ... A: I am so sorry it took so long to get back to you but here I am again and thank you so much for ... | |
| abusive husband | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to an abusive man for 6 years. I recognized as early as the first year when I ... A: I pray the best for you, I have been in your position and I know it is hurtful to a point where ... | |
| abusive husband | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to an abusive man for 6 years. I recognized as early as the first year when I ... A: First off I will not ask you to leave your husband because I know that you really feel in your heart ... | |
| what are the answers? | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I have a son ten, just married after year and a half. I'm now living away from husband, he is now in ... A: I truly understand how you feel and your concerns. I don't think so. I don't believe people ever ... | |
| why do I still love my abuser of 20 years? | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: I was married for almost 20 years and throughout the marriage there was yelling, pushing, ... A: It is not weird to have feelings for your ex, my goodness it was 20 years you invested but I think ... | |
| Red Flags | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: I recently ended a relationship that lasted only about eight or nine months. While, I still feel ... A: First of all please forgive me for taking such a long time to get back to you, I travel a lot and of ... | |
| domestic violence?? | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: my daughter is 21 with a daughter of 4yrs. she split from her partner 7 months ago and since then he ... A: I am so sorry for you and your daughter about what is going on with her and I do agree with you that ... | |
| Ground & Pound Style beating | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend beat me this past Thursday. He was drunk. I am a brown belt in Tae Kwon Do & am feeling ... A: When I was married to my spouse about a year, I threw something past him, he swears I threw it at ... | |
| Abuse? | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: Yes I am wondering if I am in a abusive relationship. My boyfriend very moody pouty, if I don't want ... A: Ellis, You are a sweet girl who has a kind heart and wants to believe in people, never loose ... | |
| Abuse? | 6/15/2008 |
| Q: Yes I am wondering if I am in a abusive relationship. My boyfriend very moody pouty, if I don't want ... A: I was sure at what I was going to say until you said the magic words, I am pregnant. You are ... | |
| emotional abuse | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: I think my husband is emotionally abusive. He is always blaming me for things I do not even have ... A: Hon, I am so sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you but I travel a lot. I read ... | |
| verbal abuse | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I have a friend living in Phonix Az. And she is a subject to verbal abuse. He tells her anything and ... A: ,, No it is not leagal for him to leave them there like that and actually they are being held ... | |
| bullied back into situation | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: Last July (2007) I finally said that I'd had enough, called the police, he was arrested and I got an ... A: Your situation sounds like my exhusband and sorry to say one of my ex-boyfriends. Having to lie for ... | |
| Am I being emotionally abused? | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 4 years now and at first, when we were dating he was ... A: What it sounds like is that your husband wants to completely control you and that is no way to live ... | |
| bullied back into situation | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: Last July (2007) I finally said that I'd had enough, called the police, he was arrested and I got an ... A: Omg, I do understand. I left my oldest daughters father 20 years ago and he found her maybe about ... | |
| Question on Your Past | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: When did you first notice your husband/boyfriend was being abusive? Did he try to put himself back ... A: My Husband is not abusive, my ex boyfriend was. No he didnt cae. I was not locked in anything. My ... | |
| Am I missing something? | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: within the last hour my husband called me lazy about 3 times because i wasn't helping him move a ... A: I didn't say divorce him, I said to leave for your safety and your babies. I believe if you can get ... | |
| DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND CHEATING | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship for 10 years and we have had more than a few bouts. This time it ended ... A: No none of this is your fault, if he cheated then he chose to and no it is not your fault period, it ... | |
| is he abusive? | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: my name is kaylen and im 17 years of age.my boyfriend is 21 and we live together.my boyfriend has ... A: Well Kaylen, all I can say is that God is a God of second chances so be it far from me to say anyone ... | |
| is he abusive? | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: my name is kaylen and im 17 years of age.my boyfriend is 21 and we live together.my boyfriend has ... A: Sweety sorry I took so long but I fly alot and cant always get back on time. I just back from ... | |
| emotional and mental abuse | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: I was just wondering if my husband is actually changing and if I really still love him. I've been ... A: Sweety I am so sorry it took me so long to get back to you but I was in Khileen Texas last night and ... | |
| violence | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: When I was married 30 years ago my husband abused me and I took it for 5 years. I filed for divorce ... A: I feel so bad for you, 30 years is too long for anyone to be abused. I hope you get out as well, I ... | |
| I think my husband needs to talk | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: What do I do if my husband wants to change, he hates how he looses control when he's angry, but he ... A: Sorry it took so long to get to you but I travel alot and am mostly gone from home now, so I ... | |
| help | 10/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm thirteen years old and i just lost my grandma ....my dad has always had really big anger issues ... A: Please forgive me for taking so long to get back to you but I fly alot and did not get to your ... | |
| domestic violence | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: what beahaviors instigatethe domestic violence? A: You know at first I wasn't going to answer the question because I don't think anything instigates ... | |
| Will there be an end? | 8/17/2007 |
| Q: I am a victim of domestic violence and had been for 24 years and now that I had built the courage ... A: As soon as I read what you had to say, I truly prayed for the correct answer to give to you. ... | |
| abuse | 7/28/2007 |
| Q: I have recently divorced after a 24 year old marriage. There was much verbal, emotional and mental ... A: First I want to applaud you for the courage of finally walking away. Most women don't do that and ... | |
| Can an abuser change? | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 4 years and been with him for about a total of 6 years. We ... A: Well you are right, it is your decision. I don't know what more I can say except that be careful ... | |
| Can an abuser change? | 5/9/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 4 years and been with him for about a total of 6 years. We ... A: I am so sorry that I took so long but I have been very sick unfortunately. I read your letter and I ... | |
| emotional/psychological abuse of my child | 4/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been divorced from husband who was emotionally/psycholocally abusive to me. We have joint ... A: I really don't have a degree when it comes to this field but I can say the answer to both of your ... | |
| husband beated me then denied in front of police | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: Myself Bhakti and i have been married for almost 4 and half years..and i have a one yr old ... A: Before I wrote this I did pray and ask God to give me the ability to give you sound advice. I read ... | |
| abuse | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: I do not know if I am in the right place for asking this but here goes.. I have severe depression.. ... A: First I want you to know that I am not a professional Doctor but I do have common sense. I felt sad ... | |
| emotional abuse or emotional blackmail? | 3/9/2007 |
| Q: I did get most of my stuff back, but my question now is, why would he even want to be friends with ... A: You welcome Jennifer,,, I am glad that you've made up your mind and left. I think from the outside ... | |
| emotional abuse or emotional blackmail? | 3/5/2007 |
| Q: I had been in this relationship with my neighbor. At first, very charming and sweet. He was going ... A: I did read your letter and was appalled, it does seem manipulative for him to make you see him to ... | |
| domestic violence | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: What goes on in domestic violence court? A: In court during a court proceeding the victim will face his or her accuser. The Accuser will face, ... | |
| Self-Defense | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: its ok to retaliate to repeated domestic violence A: I remember when I was in that situation, I would personally hope that people would leave the ... | |
| Domestic Violence Retaliation is just | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: A Victims Deliberate use of deadly force is a just response to repeated domestic Violence? True or ... A: Actually no, but in the mist of the violence if deadly force is used I suppose a Jury might be moved ... | |
| Injunction | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: My husband of 13 years filed a domestic injunction against me, he comletly lied but he received a ... A: Mrs. Alissa I am so sorry that it has taken so long for me to get to you, and I hope someone ... | |
| routine | 6/21/2005 |
| Q: i cant seem to get a routine in my house! my husband is mental and emotionally scared due to his ... A: As always, I prayed and asked the Lord for the right words in advance. Sometimes it takes ... | |
| Steps to solution | 3/14/2005 |
| Q: I am a freshman who is attending Purdue University North Central. I am doing a research paper on ... A: Absolutely, well for me it was different. I was not married to this guy but I thought that I was ... | |
| what exactly is the problem??? | 8/20/2004 |
| Q: I'm a twenty-two year old daughter who attends college. I only live with my mother at home three ... A: Let me start by telling you this, I am saved and totally in Love with the Lord and I love my Mother ... | |
| adult abuse | 8/24/2002 |
| Q: Please tell me where to find online, information on adult abuse. My older brother started sexually ... A: I looked up some info and this is what I found: 1. http://www.kalimunro.com/ 2. ... | |
| Any ideas? | 11/27/2001 |
| Q: I don't really know if this emcompasses your area of expertise.. but I figured I'd send it because ... A: First off I want to apologize for taking so long, but I downloaded a trojan horse or rather a virus ... | |
Domestic Violence
Answers by Expert:
Sharman Castillo
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions on mental abuse and physical abuse. I can answer questions on sexual abuse for adult women. I can not answer questions on sexual abuse for children because I have never experienced that personally.
Experience
I was in an abusive situation twice. Once for 1-year and 6 months. The other for 2-years and 3 months. I know the cycle of being abused by the abuser and then believeing he will change. Forgiving him or her and then starting over again, with the same abuse.
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