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| Subject | Date Asked |
| abuse?? | 2/8/2012 |
| Q: Here is my story. I was a single mother of twin girls (age 3 ½). I was single because their father ... A: You can't fix this unless your husband decides to grow up. He sounds like he's resentful because his ... | |
| domestic abuse | 11/15/2011 |
| Q: I was wondering if it were common for a victim of domestic abuse to actually grab on to the abuser, ... A: I know you are hurting and confused right now. Yes, it is very common. It is a form of ... | |
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: Let me explain how abusers work. They will watch and listen for anything a person doesn't like about ... | |
| Mental Abuse | 8/8/2011 |
| Q: In a second marriage where a man is given all the love, looked after more than his first wife, why ... A: He didn't suddenly become an abuser with you, he was always that way and rest assured his first wife ... | |
| frequent teasing by sisters | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: I am 15 years old and i am going to be stage of puberty. In my family i has two older sisters ... A: I'm so sorry you have experienced such horrible treatment. I would tell your sisters, "What the ... | |
| mental harresment from husband | 6/11/2011 |
| Q: i got married 3 months back to my sister's in-law family guy, from the day of marriage he is ... A: Ramya, You have married a man who hates women. He isn't going to stop harassing you regardless of ... | |
| First Domestic Violence Charge | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I had a fight a few weeks ago, he called the cops and when they came they took him to ... A: Here is my email address so we don't have to continue to go through this site with everyone reading ... | |
| physical and mental abuse | 4/22/2011 |
| Q: My daughter is 28 and i had to move in with her last year after returning to the US due to divorce. ... A: Since you don't want to leave I'm going to suggest seeing a therapist and your daughter's health ... | |
| Angry mother | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I am a thirtysomething female who has just moved back to my hometown after 8 years living and ... A: My favorite phrase is: If it doesn't feel good, don't do it twice. It might help you in this ... | |
| help me please | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: My name is Kiran I got marry to my cousin in DEC 2009 and came to USA from Pakistan on spouse visa ... A: I'm so sorry but I don't deal in legalities involving immigration or green cards. You should ... | |
| I don't know if it is the right relationship for me | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend 2 years already. We are deeply in love but the thing is that i feel that ... A: Run! I'm serious. Sounds like he is intentionally trying to sabotage you. You are out of focus ... | |
| QUESTION | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: MY BROTHER GOT A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CHARGE BECAUSE HIS WIFE & HIM GOT IT AN ARGUMENT WHICH LED TO ... A: Your brother needs to have his own attorney to represent him in court and to protect his rights. For ... | |
| financial abuse | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: I left my immature, abusive husband a few months ago. It took a while to get out of the fog and ... A: I was recently watching a documentary on a very famous person who said: It's not what you are; it's ... | |
| Why can't I let go of my abusive husband? | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I have spent 3 years with this man. He started out a dream come true... everything I have ever ... A: Someone who can't let go of a relationship that is clearly destroying them has deep control issues. ... | |
| Past Abuse | 1/11/2011 |
| Q: my name is Kristen and I am looking for help online and I am hoping this is the place to do ... A: You have been conditioned to expect and reflect abuse. In a way, you have PTSD. Is there help? ... | |
| Confused | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 7 years and we also have kids has made my choices even harder. I ... A: I feel this old flame is making you believe life would be better with him but in reality, you will ... | |
| problems | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: Ive been dating a guy that is 19 now for 2 years. He has been begging me to have sex with him and i ... A: Girl, you've got nerve and that is a good thing! Other women could learn from you! I wouldn't give ... | |
| controlling mother | 12/15/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29yr old mother of 4.I have a mother who did not raise me but,was still around through my ... A: Call the domestic violence shelter in your area. If you don't know where to find one, call: ... | |
| Racial abuse from partner | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: my life has turned upside down. My partner and I have been together for 18 years. It was really ... A: Okay, thanks Joan. Cultures run very deep and it appears your partner might be feeling pressure ... | |
| Out of Control | 11/2/2010 |
| Q: My son is 20 years old. He lives at home here with me and his stepfather of 15 years. I have made ... A: I fully understand what it is to attempt to make up for the pain our children saw when young but you ... | |
| Mother and daughter | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old who still lives at home. I've try to move out and my mom makes every threat she ... A: Sara, find the number of your local battered womens shelter and call them for a safe way to get out ... | |
| left with NOTHING | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: I WAS IN A 6 YR RELATIONSHIP WITH MY EX. WE RECENTLY HAD A BABY GIRL 6 MONTHS AGO. HE DECIDED HE ... A: The subject heading you wrote is--left with nothing. Actually, you now have a chance to live an ... | |
| Is this the signs of an abusive relationship? | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm two years married to my husband, we don't have children yet and in general he is a good husband ... A: Yes, this is physical abuse whether he's going through a difficult time or not. There is no excuse. ... | |
| is he an abuser? pls help me decide | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28 years old been married for 8 years and have two little ones. my husband is mexican and never ... A: Eli, you are with a man who becomes violent when provoked so why are you provoking him? You are both ... | |
| can an abuser love? | 8/25/2010 |
| Q: I am a 34 year old mother of 4 but do not have custody of any of my children out my sacrifice for ... A: Wow, you've really been through it and before I forget I want to say that we are never into ... | |
| my abusive husband | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years together for 21 he has always had a really bad attitude but he has ... A: Suzanne, you feel bad because you're being treated horribly and also, you are allowing someone to ... | |
| how to explain domestic violence | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: I recently left a long term relationship. We had 4 kids and were seen as an ideal, stable, churched ... A: Oh...I see. The victim has no options...only the abuser does. Interesting. And, what exactly, is ... | |
| how to explain domestic violence | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: I recently left a long term relationship. We had 4 kids and were seen as an ideal, stable, churched ... A: Christians are the first to kill their wounded. It's sad but true. And, I'm sure your husband is ... | |
| HELP! | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: First off i think im going crazy i need help urgently. I was in a relationship with a guy about 3 ... A: Julia, try to look at him from an outsiders viewpoint, which is...what a loser. What a pig. What a ... | |
| Is my relationship abuse? | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for a little over two years now. We live together. I want to know if he ... A: Here's the problem, Kim. I don't care why he does what he does...I care about how it makes you feel. ... | |
| Is my relationship abuse? | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for a little over two years now. We live together. I want to know if he ... A: If you aren't bipolar, you might be crazy if you stay with this guy. Men like him make women like ... | |
| single adult ministries | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: Dianne I am a 59 year old Bible college student with a project involving ministry to single adults, ... A: Before I forget, my emails is: whose_face@yahoo.com so we can continue a discussion because this is ... | |
| domestic violence allegations | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: A worker at St Josephs center filed a false report alledging that i was a victim of domestic ... A: Yes, you have to let them into your home and if you refuse, it will cause a lot more trouble. Just ... | |
| dv assault | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: I recently called the police on my husband (Utah)and he got a ticket for dv assault, My question is ... A: Nellie, He will have to appear before a judge in about 14 days and probably pay a fine but that ... | |
| Can abusive people change? | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 25. I think first I should give you my background in domestic violence. From the ages 3-18 my ... A: You are stuck in a pattern and honestly, it doesn't matter what he or they, did to you but why you ... | |
| abuse | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: A: If you call one of the shelters in your area, they can direct you to a counselor that will help you. ... | |
| emotional abuse? stay or go? | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: My husband (29) and I (28) met via the Internet. He is from Tanzania and was living in Texas at the ... A: There are no redeeming qualities to this man or the marriage. You are losing yourself bit by bit. ... | |
| Daugher out of control | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: my adult son, his girlfriend and my adult daughter are living together in my deceased ... A: Aurea, e-mail me your address and I will send you a copy of my book. I know it will help you. ... | |
| My boyfriend is mistreating me, should I leave him? | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: When in high school I decided to go out with someone and we have been together for about 4 years. He ... A: I don't feel that the two of you are good together. You can't control or try to change another ... | |
| Sister is victim of domestic abuse and police are not interested... | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm 34 and my sister's 29. We're from Yorkshire in the United Kingdom. Recently she told me she'd ... A: I've had other women from the UK complain about the laws regarding domestic violence. I'm going to ... | |
| Help | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been living with a man for 3 years. I have phyiscal and mental disorders. However, I am ... A: Call your local shelter for battered women and see what resources they can give you. They are ... | |
| What to do with a daughter? | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I feel stuck in a situation and have no idea where or how to move forward. Our daughter ... A: I understand your worry and frustration and rather than give all the advice I have in my book as my ... | |
| Will I lose the kids if I report? need help | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I need help and stumbled across this forum. My husband and I have been best friends since ... A: Jess, He isn't going to change. All abusers blame their victims or are defending themselves. His ... | |
| stress / lonliness / grief | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: What are some hints as to how a survivor of domestic violence can deal with stress and loneliness ... A: It's tough, isn't it? Find a local support group (call your local shelter for battered women) and ... | |
| What should I do about this marriage? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I have felt many times that I should leave my husband. I sometimes feel that it was a mistake to ... A: Stacy, If you let this man take care of your child, you should have your parental rights taken ... | |
| Teenage Daughers | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: I am a mother of two boys and two girls. I have been divorced for 5 years. When I got divorce I ... A: You stop being the rescuer for your children. You say no and stick to it. They don't respect you ... | |
| Domestic violence after relationship ends | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: How do I stop the violence and isolation since the marriage ended? I was abused during the marriage ... A: For so long, the justice system didn't believe the women so now, it's gone the other direction. You ... | |
| do I have to name my abuser? | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: I was told by my abuser that if I left him he would kill me. He mentioned that if I ever file a ... A: Every shelter has different rules, depending on where you live. Call your shelter and ask them. Talk ... | |
| do I have to name my abuser? | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: I was told by my abuser that if I left him he would kill me. He mentioned that if I ever file a ... A: If you file a report, you have to give a name. If you want to just move forward and know he'll leave ... | |
| now what do i do? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a abusive relationship and it has been going on for the last 18 months.My daughters ... A: The intelligent part of you is saying leave this guy in the dust and never talk to him again. You ... | |
| anger | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Today is the anniversary of my split with my husband of 7 years, it is also my sons 5th birthday. ... A: I'm so glad you asked this question because it's very important and I hope any victims reading this ... | |
| I am violent | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: Why do I feel so alone? Am I so alone? Recently, my husband was arrested in a domestic violence ... A: Abuse is a learned behavior so you aren't a freak but you really need to go into therapy and find ... | |
| tryin times =( | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: im a single parent of a 3yrs old. my son father & I r not in a relationship. but what im goin threw ... A: Christina, sometimes we have to make a choice so we can have a normal life and be happy. You said he ... | |
| All about me | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I had a hard start when we first were dating when I was 17 we would fight and ... A: Let him laugh about you going to counseling. As a matter of fact, find a therapist but don't tell ... | |
| Your book has inspired me | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: For 5 years I was in a violent relationship and reading your book has inspired me to write about ... A: Several things about telling your story: Who is going to be your reading audience? Christian, ... | |
| Emotional abuse? | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: My ex and I have managed to stay friends for over 14 years after a divorce. He knew that I was ... A: Not really emotional abuse, Kathryn. It seems like he just needs to move on or perhaps, has found ... | |
| Verbal Abuse | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: What to do? I have been married for 6 years, and I thought as many do I could change my husbands ... A: If your best friend was going through this, what advice would you give her? This man is going to ... | |
| is it abuse? | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a very confusing situation and I am not sure if it is any kind of abuse. my husband and I ... A: Tamara, I know you're scared (been there) but I also know that temporary fear is better than living ... | |
| is it abuse? | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I have a very confusing situation and I am not sure if it is any kind of abuse. my husband and I ... A: You need to sit down and seriously consider if you want to spend the rest of your life this way ... | |
| Help | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I've only been married to my husband for a short while and I am really scared. I don't know what to ... A: What kind of religion does your husband practice that allows men to treat their wives this way? ... | |
| Finance | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: I've read your book, "Whose Face is in the Mirror". Your book does not address how to leave when ... A: It sounds like you are doing very well. Good for you! Another good book is, Men Who Hate Women and ... | |
| Son's situation with domestic violence & OTHER (i.e. drugs/alcohol) | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: my son lived with his girlfriend for 1 yr. the 1st 9 mths were "fine", the last mths were filled ... A: As a mother myself, I understand your feelings but I'm afraid I'm with your husband on this. Men can ... | |
| Finance | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: I've read your book, "Whose Face is in the Mirror". Your book does not address how to leave when ... A: Some of it depends on where you live because different states have different laws but the most ... | |
| my husband cheats on me , hits me and calls me names | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: i have been married for two years with no kids,i am 23 years and still in colledge(finals) and also ... A: Mercy, He showed you who he was before you married him and has shown you who he is after so what do ... | |
| Domestic Violence | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: I have a question about domestic violence. My husband and I are ordered by the court to stay away ... A: It depends on the judge, how your husband responds, the local laws and basically, what kind of mood ... | |
| domestic violence and confused | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: I am one who has been leaving the same guy for over ten years and can't seem to break the cycle. I ... A: First of all, he is not a nice guy. Nice guys don't do what he does so stop making him sound better ... | |
| verbal and physical abuse | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I met my husband when I was 14 and he was 15, we got married in 2005. My husband hit me the first ... A: Isn't it strange what we settle for? "at least he's not hitting me." Do you understand how you are ... | |
| Will I want to marry someone because of sex? | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: Well I am 13.I can say that I learned about sex at a very eary age.When I was six,I had a crush on ... A: Corinna, You need to see a counselor. Ask your mom to arrange it for you before it's too late. I'm ... | |
| Teenage Love | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: Our daughter has been in a relationship for the last few months with someone who was originally her ... A: It's nearly impossible to predict the future but you do have to be very careful with this. I often ... | |
| Domestic Violence | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: My i am a student from Tennessee. I was recently assigned a research paper and I decided to research ... A: I am going to send you to other resources for your answers because my office doesn't keep or quote ... | |
| i'm not sure | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 5 years, and have a preschooler. My husband was very controlling and ... A: They don't change if they are allowed to continue with the abuse. They get away with whatever their ... | |
| Does this make me a bad mother and is this a cause for a divorce or something? | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: I have no way of knowing what your husband or any person will do. "As a man thinketh, so is he." ... | |
| Does this make me a bad mother and is this a cause for a divorce or something? | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: Corinna, Please find a therapist in your area that can help you dig through all of this. You sound ... | |
| two abusive relationships | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: I was married for 18 years until the abuse became far too much. As I had two young children it ... A: I could write a book on this topic...oh wait, I already did! I understand you not wanting to repeat ... | |
| abuse | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: My 16 year marriage broke up 3 years ago and i jumped straight into a serious relationship with a ... A: You need validation and support. I found a site for you that I thought might help or at least be a ... | |
| Married 21 years today. Confused. living with an abuser | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: Today, October 1, 2008, makes 21 years married. My story is one of mental, emotional and physical ... A: Oh Stacey, of course you're confused because you're being conned. He's conning you and you are ... | |
| Am i doing the right thing? | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 9 years. After being married for 3 mths my husband, due to low esteem would ... A: You're the only person he's been with because there are very few women who would put up with being ... | |
| successful working women and husband's jealousy | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Many women are well educated and career oriented in Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their ... A: I believe it is a cultural problem. No doubt, your ancestors(female) didn't work and weren't ... | |
| Is this okay? | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: My question is does a husband have a right to force himself sexually on his wife even if she says ... A: Carla, this can be complicated. It depends on your culture. In America, it is expected to have sex ... | |
| domestic violence | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: i am a 43yearold woman who has survived domestic violence. I was with my abuser for over 20 years ... A: Call 1-800-799-SAFE and ask for a shelter in your area. They will be very helpful and are able to ... | |
| I just want to wake up and act with clarity and "right-doing" | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: My spouse and I married quickly after double rainbows, shooting stars, and a baby on the way. When ... A: Call 1-800-799-SAFE and get the name of your local shelter. They will offer you a safe place to live ... | |
| Is it abuse? | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: I am divorcing a man who has made 2 false DSS reports against me (the ending is I am a fit parent ... A: Oh my word! You are sooooo confused. Yes, this is abuse. Mental, verbal, emotional and financial. ... | |
| I doubt the severity of my situation | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: I will have been married four years in June. We have a 3 1/2 year old son. I am planning to ... A: You are doing what most abused women do--minimize the abuse. If we don't have bruises, we aren't ... | |
| Need help | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: I am married to an abusive husband. There is no doubt. We have a child involved but I am reluctant ... A: Call a shelter in your area and ask about a support group or ask if they could recommend a ... | |
| Sexual abuse or my fault? What should I do? | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: I met my father when I was 10. I was in foster care and he didn't know that I existed until he got ... A: Your question is so very important that I wanted to put you in touch with another friend and author ... | |
| filing domestic charges on someone | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: my family went to get our stuff per our court orders and I was pushed and hurt by my husband/ex. ... A: You probably aren't going to like my answer but it comes from experience so trust me on this. Let ... | |
| domestic violence | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: "Hi I need some advice. I have been married for 17 years. Until recently my husband and I got on ... A: What are you being punished for? Trust me, he's punishing you for something whether it's real or ... | |
| I don't know if I can keep doing this. | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: I am not sure how to start this. My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. We have 2 ... A: Your husband needs to grow up! What a big baby. It bothers me that something that could have hurt ... | |
| where do we go from here? | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 24 y.o. and have been married to an Israeli for about a year now things are usually great he ... A: Is it a custom for an Israeli man to act like he's still single and go out with friends one night a ... | |
| HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | 1/24/2008 |
| Q: i live in colorado, recently my parents and a judge put an order of no contact out on my boyfriend ... A: Christina, You are a minor. Your parents are responsible for you. I don't know why they took out an ... | |
| Is it Domestic Violence? | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: When I first met my partner I thought he was kind and thoughtful. Although I remember being stunned ... A: Please, please, please buy a copy of my book and read it. All battered women (yes, you are one of ... | |
| Loneliness | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: I am a 70 year old woman. I have 4 children that are all 50 y/o or almost. In March of this year ... A: Your email made me so very, very sad and I want to start off by telling you how sorry I am. I find ... | |
| verbal abuse from xboyfriend how to keep child from being exposed | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: I was recently involved in an abusive relationship. Not physical but verbal. It started off only ... A: Dawn, I would try to make him pay your attorney fees. Let's hope the child support division does ... | |
| verbal abuse from xboyfriend how to keep child from being exposed | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: I was recently involved in an abusive relationship. Not physical but verbal. It started off only ... A: Dawn, You need to hire a good attorney...now! I doubt if just pushing him will bring about rough ... | |
| talking with your abusive spouses parents | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: do you have any advice for how to talk with your estanged abusive husband's parents on why you left ... A: If you haven't spoken to them in five months, I see no reason to offer any details and by the way, ... | |
| healing | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: Could you please give me a list of concrete ways to heal from an abusive relationship specifically: ... A: I'll tell you what I did because it worked for me. Read every book on domestic violence that you ... | |
| Mother/daughter conflict | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: My 26 year old daughter and her 5 year old son are living in my home. She disrespects me through ... A: Make her take on more responsibilities. Pay her own bills, etc. Yes, she knows that you won't kick ... | |
| Mother/daughter conflict | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: My 26 year old daughter and her 5 year old son are living in my home. She disrespects me through ... A: This is what I believe is happening. Her living with you at her age makes her feel useless and she ... | |
| help | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: OK I did it. I left my husband of 8 years. I moved into a 2 bedroom apt. We have 3 kids together- ... A: What you are feeling is normal. All battered women go through it but don't think that his not ... | |
| trying to date after an abusive marriage | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I divorced 4 years ago. He was emotional abusive. He pushed me a couple times but ... A: "He only punched holes in the walls and threw things at me" Hi Sandy...the above statement shows me ... | |
| what do i do now? | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: I was with my ex for a year and I moved out of our apt 6 mths ago. He became abusive pyhcially and ... A: Brandi is my daughter's name! Okay, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Almost all victims do ... | |
| Spouse who abuses alcohol | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: I am a 29 yr old mother of 3 wonderful children-7,6,& 2. My spouse is 31 and we have been together ... A: I know you are confused, hurt and angry right now. I'm sure the question...if he loves us, why ... | |
| How do we tell the abuser we're leaving? | 5/14/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year, and it has been very turbulent. I can't ... A: Sandra, There is no way to tell how an abusive personality will respond so I suggest you meet him ... | |
| Do victim's lash out too? | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating this man who has been abusing me emotionally and mentally for the past year and ... A: Christina, Yes, victims will lash out. A lot of times they want to but are afraid of being abused ... | |
| Please help!!!- Mother being abused | 5/2/2007 |
| Q: I grew up watching my mother suffer physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. As a result, she has had ... A: Leah, you can't force someone to do what is best for them. Your mother is so deeply enmeshed with ... | |
| relationship advice | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: My partner of 3 years recently told me he would like to end our relationship. We started out as flat ... A: I know you must be hurting and feeling very confused right now. I know many people who were raised ... | |
| What should I do? | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: I am in a dilemma. I am married for 12 years and have 2 children. I do not consume alcohol or smoke ... A: I'm not sure what you mean by thrashing you but will assume it was verbal abuse. I feel that it's ... | |
| Accused of abuse--a trend against US men | 3/23/2007 |
| Q: Just recently a law was passed in the USA to assist foreign women or immigrants who marry American ... A: No, I have not heard of this but it does sound like a scam. How awful for the unsuspecting spouse. ... | |
| abuse | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: I do not know if I am in the right place for asking this but here goes.. I have severe depression.. ... A: When we are raised around the threat or actions of an abusive person, it's like always waiting for ... | |
| DV assault | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: I am currently involved in a DV case with my girlfriend. She was highly intoxicated and punched ... A: I feel the only option would be for your girlfriend to appear in court on your behalf and explain ... | |
| my spouse | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 5 yrs and I have three kids. I have been seperated from my husband ... A: You are so confused! If you could look at this situation through your best friend's eyes, what would ... | |
| Spousal abuse | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: I am currently getting a divorce from a woman who in my estimation is mentally ill. I have been ... A: I found this site for you: ... | |
| Abuse | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: I'm 14 and live in Florida. How can I help stop child abuse? Brianna A: First of all, if you ever witness child abuse, report it to the police. Second, call a local child ... | |
| Domestic Violence in a Marriage | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: I can't believe I'm actually doing this, writing an email to you. It's the same story that you have ... A: It's difficult to reach out and admit you are a victim of domestic violence, isn't it? I remember ... | |
| is husband crossing the line | 10/22/2006 |
| Q: I have a problem with my husband of 8 years. I have taking antidepressant meds in the past and there ... A: I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. This is emotional and verbal abuse and is designed to bring ... | |
| Can this marriage be saved? | 8/22/2006 |
| Q: I'm 26, have been married only 5 months. I met my husband while traveling in Israel, and had known ... A: I want to ask you an important question. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? What hopes do you ... | |
| Divorce | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: In January of 2006 I left my husband of a little over a year because he was beating me... I have a 1 ... A: First of all, congratulations on what you've done to better yourself and the future of your child. I ... | |
| Is an Abusive Relationship a one-time occurence or Ongoing & habitual incdents | 7/18/2006 |
| Q: I understand if someone lives in an Abusive Relationship , it is comprised of Ongoing, reoccuring or ... A: There are other issues than abuse here. It seems the two of you are very unhappy in this marriage ... | |
| domestic abuse | 5/29/2006 |
| Q: Three weeks ago my partner left after I ended up in hospital. He was violent, in that he strangled ... A: You're probably going to find this hard to believe but your question is very common with battered ... | |
| Your Book | 4/11/2006 |
| Q: I saw part of your story from your book "Whose Face in The Mirror?" on Ask Damaris.com. I work for ... A: If it's from my book, I believe you need to get a release from my publisher, Hay House. The contact ... | |
| husband filing for divorce /i was abused | 2/5/2006 |
| Q: my husband says i abandoned him ..he was very controlling and threatned suicide and tried to hurt me ... A: Your heart breaks for the dream you had of a perfect marriage. We all want that but then, we choose ... | |
| Comment | 9/7/2005 |
| Q: I just read parts one and two of you book last night and wanted to tell you what a wonderful book it ... A: What a nice message. I always appreciate it so much when I know my words have helped another. And, ... | |
| verbal/physical abuse by my alcoholic/drug addict boy friend. | 8/10/2005 |
| Q: On July 12, 2005 of this year I fled in fear and anger from my boyfriend of 22.5 years. I was very ... A: I'm sorry you're going through this. I thought about you last night before responding because it's ... | |
| options for housing for an abused mom/family | 11/16/2002 |
| Q: ..my sister just put her hubby in jail because he was threatening her and physically abusing her. ... A: I'm so sorry that your family members are going through this. Since a shelter isn't an option, you ... | |
| Drugs and Lesbian Domestic Violence | 9/22/2002 |
| Q: I hope maybe you can provide some insight regarding my friend and her erratic behavior. I'm a ... A: Robert, Why would you want to be involved with such a dysfunctional woman? It is clear (from an ... | |
| Personal Opinion | 2/23/2002 |
| Q: I'm trying to understand a girlfriend after a bad once loving relationship. I've made an inventory ... A: When I read your description of this young lady, I couldn't help but notice that most of the ... | |
Domestic Violence
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Dianne Schwartz
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Expertise
Relationship, self-love, domestic violence, personal and spiritual growth, self-examination to define the reasons we have pulled unhealthy people into our lives and how to end this destructive practice.
Experience
Author of, "Whose Face is in the Mirror?" One woman's journey through the nightmare of domestic violence to true healing. Website for battered women and non-profit organization that assists victims of abuse.
Organizations
Domestic violence director of The Peace at Home Program. Court approved trainer and speaker on domestic abuse.
Publications
This book was reviewed by The Library Journal
Awards and Honors
Book was chosen as Hay House Publishing "Book of the Year."
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