| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Emotionally Abused with Toddler in Home | 11/19/2009 |
Q: I am young and scared. I am 22 years old and a mother of a 12 month old beautiful baby girl. I have ...
A: First of all, you HAVE TO tell your parents how he treats you. The silence is what allows the abuse ...
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| Need help. Will I lose the kids if I report? Is there another way? | 11/2/2009 |
Q: I need help and stumbled across this forum. My husband and I have been best friends since ...
A: I want you to go back and read what you just sent me and ask yourself if this sounds like a rational ...
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| domestics around my daughter. | 10/23/2009 |
Q: I am the mother of a 9 year old daughter. Her father and I have joint legal and physical custody. ...
A: You really need to talk to a domestic violence advocate in your area. If your judge is willing to ...
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| Psychological Abuse | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Laura, Yesterday you answered a question for me about domestic violence in my family with my sons. ...
A: If you like your therapist and think that he/she is helping, I would ask that person to review your ...
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| Psychological Abuse | 10/11/2009 |
Q: I asked my husband to leave the home 8 months ago. We were married 24 years. He is now living with ...
A: You seem to have a mental health emergency on your hands. If your son is suicidal, your first task ...
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| verbal abuse in front of children | 9/14/2009 |
Q: I have 3 kids w/ex-husband. He is a great dad, we get along. His live in girlfriend of 4 yrs and he ...
A: You can always petition the court for a change of custody. If the girlfriend is being abusive, you ...
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| recent charges filed...afraid | 9/12/2009 |
Q: i had been seeing man for 6 months..who told me that his ex-girlfriend had falsely filed charges on ...
A: YES! You did the right thing by protecting your safety and possibly the safety of others. Had other ...
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| abuse | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I know that abuse and arguing in a home has a negative impact on our children. I have been going ...
A: You cannot be held legally responsible for abandoning an abusive home. You are not stuck. This is ...
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| charges of assault on a female by my boyfriend | 6/8/2009 |
Q: I have been in a relationship for 2 years now off and on. I have 3 children that I am raising. My ...
A: He ONLY pushed the refrigerator door on you and hit the fridge? ONLY? You both need treatment. You ...
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| marriage | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I ve been married for 6yrs and I ve 2 childern. for those 6yrs, i ve never felt like one with my ...
A: From the information you provided, there seems to be no good reason to return to your marriage. Why ...
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| Should I leave him? | 5/11/2009 |
Q: Long story. Thank you for taking the time to read this! My boyfriend and I have been together for ...
A: Your question is, "Should I leave him?" If the relationship is abusive, unhealthy, and not likely to ...
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| Mental Abuse | 4/24/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 13 years. we have two children they are 10 and 7. I have ...
A: My advice is to speak to your local domestic violence advocate to create a safety plan and a plan of ...
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| Abusive Marriage | 4/17/2009 |
Q: I've been married for five years and the entire time I have been a victim of emotional and verbal ...
A: My advice is that you leave. The reason is, if he leaves, he will most likely just come and go at ...
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| He Will Not Forgive | 4/7/2009 |
Q: My husband and I were having problems. I became friends with a male co-worker, and I confided in ...
A: If you want to move forward with your husband, the best thing you can do is to try to understand ...
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| Abusive Husband | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I have been in an abusive marriage for two and a half years. I have 2 daughters (13 & 10) from a ...
A: Take the house. Move in a direction of health. If your husband does the same, you can reconcile at ...
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| child survivor of child abuse in an abusive home | 3/1/2009 |
Q: I want to speak to women with children in abusive relationships as I am a survivor of an abusive ...
A: Your goals are excellent! Best of luck with that. My suggestion is to let your local domestic ...
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| divorce | 2/26/2009 |
Q: Ok I've been in a relationship with my husband. Then we got married and have been for three years ...
A: My advice is to do one thing at a time. Think about what it is you really want and commit to ...
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| Leaving an abusive relationship. | 2/18/2009 |
Q: I am a 21 year old married, full time student, mother.My husband and I haven't even been married a ...
A: Please check out this website: http://www.domesticviolence.org/violence-wheel/. It will help to ...
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| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ...
A: >>>>> 1. Do you think I should have a discussion with him and ask him about his blog? Absolutely ...
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| How much should I put up with? | 2/5/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 4 years, and have two children. Since the birth of my first child 4 years ...
A: Your question is, "How much should I put up with?" You should never put up with so much that your ...
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| sucking a boy's dick | 12/31/2008 |
Q: .. i'm a girl and i'm 12 years old and i'm in grade 7. i was molested a year ago but i didn't know ...
A: I agree with the other advice you have gotten. Tell your parents. While you may not think that this ...
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| Domestic Violence | 11/19/2008 |
Q: I have been married since July 3, 2007 to a Staff Sargeant in the Army National Guard. He left for a ...
A: I am surprised that you haven't been contacted by your local domestic violence advocate or Victim ...
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| Domestic Abuse/Court/Future | 11/11/2008 |
Q: There is a lot of background to our relationship, including a few incidents of being pushed, ...
A: I am sorry that you and your children had to endure this experience. You have the absolute right ...
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| Drunk abusive husband | 11/1/2008 |
Q: I guess like most ppl i already know the answer deep inside but maybe need validation? I have been ...
A: You have two difficult to resolve problems: alcoholism and domestic violence. The statistic is ...
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| bully or not..? | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I have a boyfriend and we’ve been seeing each other for 4 months. We’re having long distance ...
A: This is not a healthy relationship. Your boyfriend shows a lot of signed of at least being ...
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| Am i doing the right thing? | 10/5/2008 |
Q: "I have been married for 9 years. After being married for 3 mths my husband, due to low esteem ...
A: It's never too late to leave an abusive relationship. Nine months of no hitting is not a lot ...
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| domestic violence | 9/21/2008 |
Q: I have been with my parter for three years and for two and a half years he has been beating me ...
A: The only way you will survive is if you leave without telling him. He would not permit it. Victims ...
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| Abuse | 9/16/2008 |
Q: I am 18 years old and I am currently in a long distants relationship with a guy of now 3 years. He ...
A: Abuse robs you of your self-esteem. That's why you can't help yourself. This man has brain washed ...
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| confused | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 3 1/2 years up until last week, in this time he has come at me with ...
A: What you describe is typical of the domestic violence experience. PLEASE continue to stay in contact ...
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| Stay/Divorce | 8/29/2008 |
Q: I have been married 19 years to the same man. Have been mentally abused the whole time. I pretty ...
A: My advice is to find a domestic violence support group and start attending that. That will help you ...
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| My custody rights. | 8/15/2008 |
Q: 10 years ago, May 1998, in Southern California, I fled in the middle of the night to a domestic ...
A: I can understand your point of view. Nobody wants to put their children out there to be hurt. Nobody ...
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| My custody rights. | 8/15/2008 |
Q: 10 years ago, May 1998, in Southern California, I fled in the middle of the night to a domestic ...
A: You already have "legal custody" of your daughter, but her father still has rights. The only way ...
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| Mentally Abusive Husband | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 7 years to a man who one minute is sweet and loving and the next, tells me I ...
A: My advice for your husband is to consult with a LENS provider. LENS is a technique that helps people ...
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| filing for divorce/separation during time of protective order | 6/16/2008 |
Q: I saw another message & noticed you are in VA. I hope you can help me. My husband assaulted me 2 ...
A: Virginia does not recognize a "legal separation." You can, however, file for spousal and child ...
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| Thinking about the future. | 4/5/2008 |
Q: My fiance and i just had our 3 issue with domestic violence. This time it ended up with him getting ...
A: Oh! Okay. Gotcha. Thank you for the clarification. Yes, DCF has the power to lift any conditions ...
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| Thinking about the future. | 4/5/2008 |
Q: My fiance and i just had our 3 issue with domestic violence. This time it ended up with him getting ...
A: Given the facts of your situation, I am really surprised that you are asking me whether or not your ...
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| I need a good suggestion | 1/7/2008 |
Q: I am a 17 year old living in Texas. I am pregnant of 8 months. Not too long along my boyfriend and I ...
A: Your question is, "I still try to make something out of this relationship for my childs sake?" after ...
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| simple assault and court behaviour-urgent help required | 12/15/2007 |
Q: On 12 Dec after coming from office at 6.30 P.M, I told my wife get ready and we will go out for ...
A: >>>> 1. My wife knows that she got hurted from stairs earlier before I lighly slapped her on cheek ...
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| simple assault and court behaviour-urgent help required | 12/14/2007 |
Q: On 12 Dec after coming from office at 6.30 P.M, I told my wife get ready and we will go out for ...
A: >>>> Court hearing is on coming Wednesday. Can we both go together or not? Yes, you can go ...
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| My husband got a temp. order of protection and I want my husband to come home !!! | 10/23/2007 |
Q: The court order a temp.order of protection- meaning he cant come home,cant call me or see he's ...
A: First you should read the protective order to see what is says. If it's an emergency protective ...
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| plese help me | 10/21/2007 |
Q: I am 17 year's old,and was dating a 25 year old,he has a bad criminal record,and we fight alot ...
A: You are not going to like my answer, but here it goes... First, I don't know what state you are ...
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| How do abusive people seem to have the victom accused | 10/16/2007 |
Q: I was in a verbally abusive relationship for about a year. We all know they start out as the love of ...
A: Your situation is not unique. That's what batterers do. They are very skilled manipulators. ...
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| Request for an interview | 10/15/2007 |
Q: Would you please answer the following questions as part of a research project? I was told to ...
A: >>> 1. Why do you focus more on these areas? (Choice, job mandated, because of the victims’ needs, ...
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| Temporary restraining order | 10/3/2007 |
Q: I live in VA and was given a temporary restraining order for family abuse. Spouse dramatized the ...
A: No, you do not need a lawyer to represent you in a protective order situation. Juvenile and domestic ...
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| No One in Charge | 9/19/2007 |
Q: I’m in a sexual assault survivors group with someone who is being encouraged by the crisis center to ...
A: The advice for any victim/survivor of abuse is always going to be individual because no one has the ...
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| ADULT ABUSE CHARGE | 9/14/2007 |
Q: my wife and i had a dispute 6 months ago and she call the police and got a tro. she did not pursue ...
A: I can't help you. Sorry. You need the advice of an attorney. I am not sure about the laws in your ...
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| Protection for my child | 8/30/2007 |
Q: On August 23rd my husband slapped our child who is 14 because he was sticking up for me. See my ...
A: >>> 1) How soon do I need to file or can I still file an order on what he did to my son? I am not ...
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| when you really don't want to leave... | 8/27/2007 |
Q: I know that if your husband hits you, even one time, you are being abused and should leave. I am a ...
A: I want you to know that my response is coming from a the perspective of a domestic violence ...
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| filing charges against my step sons step father | 8/18/2007 |
Q: We are in a custody fight for my step son . His step father has threatened him tonight for the ...
A: Unless you are talking about threats in conjunction with stalking, threats of non-lethal violence ...
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| My son was abused | 8/14/2007 |
Q: I am an expert on here and I ask a favor of you, do not be polite, do not worry about spelling and ...
A: Sounds like you've been pretty proactive, but just in case you or your attorney haven't thought of ...
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| MEAN HUSBAND | 7/9/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years, but together for 7. He's is 24, and I am 25. This is ...
A: You are a typical battered woman. Battering isn't simply about physical abuse. It's about emotional ...
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| abuse | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: You cannot drop the charges because you are not the one who took them out. If the crown is pursuing ...
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| abuse | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: I don't know if the court or the military is trying to get you back to Canada under some pretext or ...
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| abuse | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: I really can't say what will happen in Canada. My experience is based in the USA. It seems rather ...
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| abuse | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: I am not familiar with Canadian law, but in VA the state also takes out the charges for domestic ...
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| abuse | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: >> My life is good but all of my hopes and dreams have been shattered. I will never have a 40th ...
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| Dom Viol Advocate | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I see on your profile that you are a Domestic Violence Advocate. If you could give me some general ...
A: Hey! Glad to have you aboard! Just locate your closest domestic violence agency and volunteer. ...
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| abuse | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: Please realize that abusive men are very charming. They are very good at showing their sweet side. ...
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| abuse | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I was involved in an abusive relationship for 14 years and would not have left(most likely) if my x ...
A: >> My questions are about court and what to expect Every locality is different so I don't know ...
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| What's next? | 6/3/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years, married for 7. We have an amazing 7 year old daughter. I ...
A: Sorry that you find yourself in this position. It sounds like you are doing all the right things for ...
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| alot of questions~ | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I went thru the most painful experience and my ex. is still hurting me and haunting me. I was in a ...
A: I am sorry that I cannot help you with this. You need to talk to an attorney. You have done all the ...
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| File a complaint against a mediator | 5/21/2007 |
Q: Ms. Giles, I was recently involved in a lawsuit that was sent to mediation. During the mediation, ...
A: Arbitration is binding. Whatever decision the arbitrator came to is the same as if you were heard in ...
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| File a complaint against a mediator | 5/20/2007 |
Q: Ms. Giles, I was recently involved in a lawsuit that was sent to mediation. During the mediation, ...
A: There are several odd things about your case. 1) Certified mediators are supposed to screen for ...
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| Immigration and DV | 5/3/2007 |
Q: I'm currently involved in a dv case. I was wondering if you have any advice or information about the ...
A: Unfortunately I am not an expert on immigration law. I believe the answer varies from state to ...
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| what can my husband expect in court after charged with abuse? | 5/1/2007 |
Q: I recently had to call the police after my husband left me with a bloody nose and lip. I bonded him ...
A: I am not sure about Michigan laws or procedures, but many states have a "First Time Offenders" rule ...
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| What do I do from here? | 4/24/2007 |
Q: I started dating a man who was physically and verbally abusive. In December he gave me a black eye ...
A: Please see your local domestic violence advocate for specific information on where to go, what to ...
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| husband beated me and denied in front of police | 3/28/2007 |
Q: Myself Bhakti and i have been married for almost 4 and half years..and i have a one yr old ...
A: If your husband has a lawyer, you should get one too. You should also call your local domestic ...
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| mental abuse | 3/23/2007 |
Q: My daughter 22 is dating a guy 21 who I believe is mentally abusing her thru manipulation. Last ...
A: Your daughter is DEFINITELY being abused, but it is her choice to be in that situation. Until she ...
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| domestic violence emotional support/leaving | 12/15/2006 |
Q: Single female, early 20's, no children. I'm living with someone who's verbally/physically abusive. ...
A: I am sorry I cannot answer your question with any specificity because I am not aware of what your ...
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| Criminal action | 11/23/2006 |
Q: I have red that in the 1970s most states allowed wives to bring criminal action against a husband if ...
A: I am sorry. I am not an expert on the evolution of domestic violence law or how it is handled ...
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| Verbal Abuse and Custody | 11/23/2006 |
Q: Today I filed for divorce from a verbally abusive relationship of 5 years. We have a 22 month old ...
A: You should be looking out for the best interest of the child, not your rights nor your husband's ...
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| Filing Charges | 11/10/2006 |
Q: "If you can take out charges with the magistrate, that may also be another possibility." What do ...
A: A magistrate is an appointed person who has the authority to hear evidence and take out warrants. If ...
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| Filing Charges | 11/9/2006 |
Q: Mother got the crap beat out of her about a week and a half ago. Her Ex that lived with us one night ...
A: I am very sorry to hear about your experience. You really have to get in touch with a local ...
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| how to leave a vebal/mentally abusive relationship when there are kids involved | 11/5/2006 |
Q: i am 29, and i currently live with my live in boyfriend of almost 9 years. he had three children ...
A: I am sorry that you didn't like my response, but that is the best one. I cannot tell you what to do ...
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| self defense | 10/17/2006 |
Q: its ok to retaliate to repeated domestic violence
A: That depends on what you mean by "retaliate." If you are planning to hurt someone, that's ...
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| Need Help on Protective Order | 8/9/2006 |
Q: Ok in actuality I have a number of things I need to ask. But at this time My first issue that I need ...
A: Sorry your question is a legal one, and I am not an attorney. To answer you would be practicing law ...
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| Verbal abuse after divorce - in front of kids! | 8/8/2006 |
Q: I filed for divorce from my ex 3years ago and went through hell and back during our divorce due to ...
A: The answer to your questions are yes, you should get another protective order and yes, you should ...
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| AM I BEING ABUSED or SETUP | 7/21/2006 |
Q: I assume a person would be reported to Police if they were being Physically Abused in some shape or ...
A: I am not in a position to define the behavior of you or your wife based on the small bit of ...
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| Am I being Abused or Setup ??? | 7/20/2006 |
Q: My wife Visits Police & makes false accusations of being Abused. Eight months later she revisits ...
A: A couple of possibilities come to mind. 1) Perhaps you are blind to your own behavior and you are ...
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| verbal abuse | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I have had a problem since I was married to this man. When we were married he would put me down ...
A: Since there is only one formal complaints of abuse, there is no track record by which the ...
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| court | 7/6/2006 |
Q: my worries about shared parenting is that he has done this in front of the children and I'm afraid ...
A: The best thing you can do is ask your counselor if he/she will testify to what is in the best ...
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| court | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I filed DV charges on my husband and during the first 2-2 1/2 weeks I was a complete basket case. I ...
A: You need to find your local domestic violence advocate and talk to her. If she is not helpful, ask ...
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| domestic abuse legal advise | 7/6/2006 |
Q: my husband and i are are getting a divorce as soon as i can get a lawyer to view all my papers and ...
A: The first thing you need to do is hook up with a LOCAL domestic violence advocate. I don't know the ...
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| Can abusers change | 5/18/2006 |
Q: I have lived with my boyfriend now for 11 years. He started out wonderful, very caring, fun, and ...
A: It's always possible for people to change, but I know that there isn't a "anger management" class ...
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| support group | 10/12/2005 |
Q: Hi, My name is Eve. I have started a support group for woman who have suffered abuse, divorce, etc. ...
A: I don't have a means for referring people to you (no links page). I also don't know you, don't know ...
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| Domestic Violence and Clemency for Women who Kill | 7/2/2005 |
Q: My best friend has been convicted of voluntary manslaughter for killing an abusive husband. We are ...
A: I wish I could help you, but this is not my area of expertise. Sorry. I would suggest looking for an ...
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| Getting personal freedom and safety | 4/2/2005 |
Q: Respected Sir/Madam, I am 25 years old unmarried girl. My country is INDIA. My parents and ...
A: You say that you are Indian. Are you living in India? If so, I am not aware of what the law is or ...
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| afraid to call police because of own warrant | 2/18/2005 |
Q: My friend has left an abuser boyfriend and is being stalked. He has threatened to kill her and her ...
A: I can't guarantee that she won't also be arrested for her outstanding warrants, but it seems that ...
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| Book research | 1/19/2005 |
Q: I am writing a story and need some general info on abuse. What I am interested in is the counseling ...
A: Sorry, I am not a doctor and don't work in an ER. I know that doctors are supposed to report ...
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| CHILD ABUSE | 1/4/2005 |
Q: ME AND MY SON HAD AN ALTERCATION IN WHICH HE PUNCH ME IN MY STOMACH. MY HUSBAND GRABBED HIM, IN ...
A: Your story is unclear. Who was hit with the bat? Your husband or son? Behavior problems is not an ...
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| leaving and a protective order | 11/17/2004 |
Q: Are there a large amount of women who are able to escape abuse situations? How do they do this? Do ...
A: I don't know about "large amounts" of women. I know that women DO escape abuse. There are many ways ...
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| femicide | 10/6/2004 |
Q: I am writing an article on pregnant females that are killed by their husbands, and I was just ...
A: Domestic violence is about power and control. Abusers feel powerless and the way to have more of ...
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| arbitration | 9/15/2004 |
Q: I am from Michigan. According to Michigan law, victims of domestic violence are not to enter into ...
A: I agree with the advice that trying to overturn the arbitration through appeal is an expensive and ...
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| psychological abuse and custody | 8/23/2004 |
Q: I am 1 year into divorce proceedings, which I filed for. I spent 14 years in a verbally abusive ...
A: Rather than try to force *him* to have an evaluation, why not take your daughter for one? (Sounds ...
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| Leaving an abusive spouse | 5/11/2004 |
Q: I am right in the middle of leaving a relationship that has been abusive and continues to be ...
A: Yes, you can say that you are still scared of him and in need of protection even though you went ...
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| RO violation | 4/4/2004 |
Q: I am a new mother of a 5 week old little boy. After several years of progressively increasing ...
A: The answer to your question is going to be specific to your state, so I really don't know how to ...
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