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| Subject | Date Asked |
| On Holiday my Boyfriend punched a wall instead of me... | 10/16/2011 |
| Q: Im writing to you because I don't know what else to do. I feel very confused... last week while on ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I hope that this message finds you in peaceful spirits. After reading ... | |
| re: my son & my husband's bad temper | 9/7/2011 |
| Q: I need help to guide me. I don't know if what my husband is doing crosses the lines of what is ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and your conc earn for your child. YES the harsh punishment that your ... | |
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. With regard to your question "What should I do to help her overcome ... | |
| Past abuse interfering in current relationship? | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: Alright, well, I'm 24, and I've been with my fiance Brendon (He's 25) for about 3 years, now, and ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. You've experienced a lot at such a young age. But you made the right ... | |
| how to deal with a woman in a relationship whos been batter???? | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: My question is... How do u deal with it... I find myself reading more an more about the situation... ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. When it comes to healing from abuse I truly wish there was a magic pill ... | |
| father and son need help domestic violance from mother please help my friend he's a good father | 1/11/2011 |
| Q: January 10, 2011 To Whom It May Concern: I need help someone please help me. I have a friend that ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. First I'd like to say this. "You are a very good friend." Your friend is ... | |
| problems | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: Ive been dating a guy that is 19 now for 2 years. He has been begging me to have sex with him and i ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. YES you did the right thing. No one has a right to force themselves on ... | |
| Is my relationship abusive? | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: my name is Rebekkah and I'm at pretty much a breaking point in my life and could just really use ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. To answer your question "Are You In An Abusive Relationship?" YES, you ... | |
| legalitys | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: someone stole 50 $ frome my mom and dad being the only one under 18 thay have been taking it all out ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. Unfortunately I am unable to assist you because your situation deals ... | |
| Abuse | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: I left my common-law husband of 7 years about 3 months ago now. I thought I was doing ok but all ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. As a fellow survivor of domestic violence I truly relate to your ... | |
| how to handlle this | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: Susan, Thank you so much for your time. My family has a problem that I am not sure how to handle ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I am so sorry for the situation concerning your nephew, his wife and ... | |
| Should I stay or should I go? | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm two years married to my husband, we don't have children yet and in general he is a good husband ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. To answer your question. YES, (In anger) when someone forcefully grabs ... | |
| My Sisters Relationship | 9/20/2010 |
| Q: her partner controls who she sees and what she does. They constantly argue and it got very nasty ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I do understand your frustration and concern for your sister. Most all ... | |
| Mental and verbal abuse | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 years. We have four young children together and I have two ... A: My name is Susan and I thank you for you inquiry. After reading your question I must start off by ... | |
| marriage | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: i want to know if i am in an abusive relationship with my husband. Everytime he gets mad he called ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. To answer your question, YES you are in a very abusive relationship which ... | |
| restraining orders | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: if you get a restraining order in one state does it work in any state? A: I appreciate your inquiry. To answer your question, Yes. If you have a valid restraining order that ... | |
| verbal abuse | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: Is it possible to get charged or arrested when a parent or guardian verbally abuses his children? My ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I am sorry for the hurt that you and your sister are experiencing. ... | |
| child abuse | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with a man who was very abusive to me emotionally -everything but hitting ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I want you to know that I relate to some of what you might be feeling. ... | |
| A SERIES OF QUESTIONS FOR MY CANFAM PROJECT | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: I had a choice between a survey or two interviews with expertise on spousal abuse, i have decided to ... A: I do appreciate your inquiry. However I choose to utilize my volunteer time by helping victims of ... | |
| Can my abusive husband be changed? | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband since 2004. Before and during our marriage he was Very abusive. ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I am sorry for all that you have gone through and I am also sorry for the ... | |
| Help | 4/21/2010 |
| Q: I have looked at all the local and National sites and no one has intimate guides or mentoring on how ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. You presented an interesting question. In my own personal opinion I ... | |
| abuse | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: My husband isnt close to being a normal husband but he also doesnt fit any of the given signs of a ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I am sorry for the emotional pain that you and your children are ... | |
| violence | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: im suffering a lot from my husband behaviour.it is our first year of marriage,my husband having two ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and I am so sorry for the emotional pain that your husband has placed upon ... | |
| Daughter's Domestic Abuse | 3/13/2010 |
| Q: My daughter lives in another state with her 6 month old son and her abusive husband. He has abused ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I do respect and understand your concern for your daughters safety. ... | |
| foster home abuse | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 years old and i was the abused child i kept it quiet out of shame.My foster father beat and ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I am sorry for the emotional stress that you have been experiencing due ... | |
| scared and confused | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 14 years, have 2 amazing and wonderful boys and love my husband, but ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and I do hope that you and your children are safe an well. NO, you are not ... | |
| i need some help | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: ok so i was in an abusive relationship with a boyfriend (with whom i lived) for a little under a ... A: I hope that you are doing well this day. I am sorry for the abuse that you suffered at the hands of ... | |
| communication | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: how do i have a discussion or ask a question without husband becoming agitated and violent? what is ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. Hmmmmmm unfortunately your question is kind of difficult to answer in a ... | |
| Can we get through this. | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: Here is my situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years, we now have a 2 1/2 ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and I am so sorry for the pain that you are enduring at the hands of your ... | |
| Domestic Violence | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are dealing with a situation that has grown to the point that we no longer know what ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I understand your concern for the safety of your daughter. What can ... | |
| my husband doesnt respect me & treat me as i am no one to him! | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: my husband hide many of his family matters from me.treat me as i am an outsider. when i am at my ... A: I am sorry for the problems you have experienced within your home. I imagine that you do love your ... | |
| Will I lose the kids if I report? need help | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I need help and stumbled across this forum. My husband and I have been best friends since ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I am sorry for your pain and suffering. I'd like to first start of ... | |
| domstic violance | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 18 years, throughout the marriage we have had some rocky times. He has done so ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. In honesty Dawn there's truly not much that you need to do because the ... | |
| DV Victim Assistance & Compensation | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: I was in an abusive relationship in Las Vegas, NV. I was finally able to escape the house to call ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I am sorry for all the bad that you have experienced. Because there ... | |
| physical,mental,emotional abuse | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I beleive i am getting all of the above from my partner and i cant and dont know why!.Im a good ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and I am so sorry for the pain you and your daughter are experiencing at ... | |
| Does this sound like abuse to you? | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: When my husband and I fight, he often calls me a f..in' idiot and sometimes he breaks some of my ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. To answer your question YES what your husband is displaying is a form of ... | |
| i amsolost | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: my husband and i had another altercation a few weeks ago after in and out of this relationship for ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and I am do sorry for all that you have gone through. I know starting a ... | |
| domestic violence | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: the wife and i had started arguing lead to place i hit her police were called i went to jail for 27 ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. However it's kind of hard for me to truly answer your question because ... | |
| my daughter | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I have a 21 year old daughter who lives or lived with me until last night.for years she has ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. The article listed below may be of great help to you. Please take in ... | |
| Any organizations to help | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: I am a victim of domestic violence.I dont want to stay with my husband.I have one year old kid,USA ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I am sorry for your situation. I researched the organizations that ... | |
| Is it me causeing him to be abusive? | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years now we have 2 kids one mine from a previous relationship and one ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I want to assure you that you are NOT in any way responsible for your ... | |
| How to love again | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I used to be in a horrible relationship. I've had broken bones, have scares, low self esteem. He ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. YES, you were in a very abusive relationship but am happy to know ... | |
| Issues of Domestic Violence | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I am a victim of well two decades of domestic violence. I got involved with the gentleman when I ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am terribly sorry for your suffering at the hands of your husband. ... | |
| Abusive Relationship? What should I do? | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a really bad temper. He calls me hateful names when we argue. Stupid f**in Bi*** is ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I understand that you love and care for your husband BUT Kally you're ... | |
| Physically and Mentally abusive husband | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for less than two years. This is his third marriage. Past wives ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am terribly sorry for the abuse that you are suffering at the hands ... | |
| Abuse | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I too have experienced abuse but mine has been all my life. 40 years. I'm still in the abusive ... A: I thank you for your kind words and for wanting to reach out to other abuse victims. You are well on ... | |
| Abuse | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: I too have experienced abuse but mine has been all my life. 40 years. I'm still in the abusive ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am sorry for the emotional pain you are expreriencing. But I am glad ... | |
| Is there hope? | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old. I've been with my husband for 6.5 years. 4 yrs dating and 2.5 years married. First ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am sorry for the upsetting times you are experiencing with your ... | |
| daughter in denial about mental/physical abuse | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: How can i help my daughter who allows an abusive ex partner in and out of her life. He has lost her ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I understand your concern for your daughters safety. It's unfortunate ... | |
| Domestic Violence | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I broke up with my ex four months ago, he was physically and mentally abusive to me.We moved out of ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. It's kind of difficult for me to answer your question regarding why ... | |
| Father Rights | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: My kids went with there mom to a shelter one night after me and her broke up. I've been trying to ... A: Because I am not familiar with your particular situation I can only give you a generalized answer to ... | |
| conflicts with mother | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25, my mom is 51. I was born out of a bad relationship, my father cheated on my mom and they ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I've read your question several times and from my own personal ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. After reading your question I too was disgusted. My advice to you is ... | |
| Verbal abuse | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: How can you get your ex boyfriend who you just had a baby with leave you alone? He sends text ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. My first suggestion to you would be to contract the The National ... | |
| Helpp | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help me on this i met my husband at 15years old he is also the same age as me we ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I imagine it is all confusing right now. The fear of being alone can ... | |
| help me please | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I need help. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend used to hit me before i got pregnant and than he ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am not sure if you are living with your boyfriend. If you are you ... | |
| family denial and enabling abuse | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: I was violently thrown to the pavement by my estranged husband in front of our child yesterday. My ... A: I am so sorry for the abuse that you've had to endure at the hands of your husband and I am also ... | |
| verbal abuse | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: my husband that is love so much lied and said a man called his phone an was looking for me and i am ... A: I am sorry for the abuse you have suffered. Based on what you have shared with me you have done the ... | |
| dillemma | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been in and out of abusive situations but this one i eem to be blind to. my boyfriend confue ... A: Unfortunately you may not be able to help your boyfriend realize that he is indeed abusing you ... | |
| bully or not..? | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend and we’ve been seeing each other for 4 months. We’re having long distance ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and for sharing your concerns about your boyfriend and his behavior. ... | |
| depression causing domestic abuse? | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 34 years old and have struggled for several years with depression. I am on my third marriage ... A: I thank you for you inquiry. To answer your question. There is no excuse for a person to abuse ... | |
| Phyical Abuse | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: I had a abuse problem in the seventh grade with this boy name Tyquan Harris. He used to hit me a lot ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. The first thing I suggest especially if you are still a minor (under ... | |
| domestic violence | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: My ex-boyfreind recently went to jail for a second domestic charge. we have been together for two ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. To answer your question from my point of view it appears to me that ... | |
| Angrier husband after epilepsy diagnosis | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: I wanted to write to you because you understand disabilities. I was diagnosed with Epilepsy in ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am sorry for the problems that you are experiencing within your ... | |
| abusive man | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 weeks pregnant with a very abusive man. He is verbally, emotionally and sexually abusive. ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding to your inquiry. I'd really like to assist you, however your ... | |
| Can he change? | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for five and a half years. And for the first five years everything ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. Now I will not suggest to you that you should leave your husband ... | |
| successful working women and husband's jealousy | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Many women are well educated and career oriented in Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. In reply the answers to your questions are listed below. 1- What is ... | |
| Was I right to end this? | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: I am hurting right now and need someone to talk to who might understand. I recently made the very ... A: I hope that this message finds you at peace today. No I don't mind you contacting me again, that's ... | |
| Was I right to end this? | 7/4/2008 |
| Q: I am hurting right now and need someone to talk to who might understand. I recently made the very ... A: My name is Susan and I thank you for your inquiry. Without hesitation I must start off by saying ... | |
| Am I in denial about this relationship!? | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I recently moved away from from home town to go to school far from home. I come from a very loving ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. Hmmmmmmm after reading your e-mail for me it's plain to see that NO ... | |
| emotions and seperation | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband smashed a glass of wine over my head. This caused me injury and him to be put on a ... A: Sometimes a person can become immune to physical abuse to a point where they shut down emotionally ... | |
| How do I get past Domestic violence? | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: My father used to beat the holy hell out of my mother. They both hit me until I got bigger. My ... A: I thank you for your inquire. Healing from Childhood abuse and or Domestic Violence takes time. To ... | |
| Should I stay, leave, try counseling | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 17 years with 2 children (10 and 6). About 7 years ago my husband gave me ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am, sorry for the situation that you are experiencing with your ... | |
| My brother emotionally abuses me when I try to visit my elderly father | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: My brother, age 53 abuses me. I'm a 54 year old woman. He lives and cares for my aging father who is ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. I am sorry for the emotional stress and pain that you are going ... | |
| Husband and cult abuse | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: My husband would bring my pets in the house and kill them in front of me. I was most terrified when ... A: I thank you for contacting me with your concern. I am terribly sorry for the pain you have endured ... | |
| Abuse. | 9/9/2007 |
| Q: My brother sometimes grabs my arms and pushes me against a wall when he's angry. He also used to hit ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. YES your brother is abusing you in a physical way. When someone hits ... | |
| Abusive Father | 9/8/2007 |
| Q: I am 14 years old and I live with my brother who is 11 and my parents. We moved into Canada 4 years ... A: I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Please understand that what happened was an ... | |
| seperated husband says god changed him | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. He has been physically abusive including pushing ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. However it is difficult for me to answer your question with regard to ... | |
| I Think I'm in an Abusive Relationship | 8/17/2007 |
| Q: I’ve been wondering a lot lately if I am in an abusive relationship. I’ll give a quick list of facts ... A: My name is Susan and I thank you for contacting me with your inquiry. First I must say that you took ... | |
| mean hubby | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years, but together for 7. He's is 24, and I am 25. This is ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. You took the first BIG step in realizng that they way your husband ... | |
| My friend is in a abusive relationship | 6/18/2007 |
| Q: I know a girl who's boyfriend hits her. He doesnt hit her everyday, but at the sametime shes not ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. If your friend is being abused by her boyfriend and she has been with ... | |
| help to help others | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: I suffered abuse as a child,it wasnt torture my father loved me, and i wasnt sexually abused.We were ... A: I thank you for your inquiry and I hope that this message finds you well and in good spirits this ... | |
| surviver looking to help | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: I think it is amazing how you help people after being a victim of abuse yourself in the past. I too ... A: I thank you for your inquiry regarding assisting victims of abuse/domestic violence. I myself ... | |
| effects of domestic abuse | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: i recently married the man of my dreams. and i love him. but i am haunted by the physical, verbal ... A: I thank you for your inquiry. The various affects of abuse can follow us throughout our lives. One ... | |
| Am I creating this behaviour | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: Susan, is the problem mine and am I worrying about nothing. I have been with my ihusband 2 years and ... A: I thank you for contacting me. After carefully reviewing your inquiry. I believe that you and your ... | |
| Emotional Abuse | 11/11/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for a year. He has custody of two of his three kids. The oldest lives ... A: I thank you for your inquiry regarding emotional abuse. To answer your question, YES your boyfriend ... | |
| self defense | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: its ok to retaliate to repeated domestic violence A: In certain circumstances retaliation may save a victims life. On the other hand retaliation may ... | |
| Am I being emotionally abused? Should I stay? | 8/31/2006 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 4 years now. During that 4 years he really doesn't like to ... A: Yes if you feel you are being emotionally abused and if the relationship is making you unhappy you ... | |
| How to make it stop. | 1/10/2005 |
| Q: Over the past two years my husband has choked me, pulled me by my hair, raped me and emotionally ... A: I thank you for contacting me. I do appologize for the delay in replying to your request for advice. ... | |
| domestic/emotional abuse | 8/11/2004 |
| Q: i left an emotional abuse boyfriend afer 10 years, first i felt sorry for him and thought i could ... A: I thank you for contacting me regarding your situation. First I am sorry for the emotional abuse you ... | |
| domestic violence | 7/28/2004 |
| Q: My husband was recently arrested and taken to jail by a police officer who happened to be driving by ... A: I thank you for your message and I am sorry for the emotional turmoil you are experiencing. I've ... | |
| How can I forget all the abuses I 'd experienced? | 6/19/2004 |
| Q: I am separated with my husband--who abuses for almost 10 yrs, he left, i feel relieved, but he took ... A: Yaochaun Yin: Hello I thank you for your inquiry. I am terribly sorry for the emotional pain you ... | |
| domestic violence | 5/13/2004 |
| Q: How do you prevent domestic violence? A: I thank you for taking time to send me your question regarding domestic violence. The best way to ... | |
| abuse/family relationship/love | 4/30/2003 |
| Q: I am 44 years old, have been in an abusive, controlling relationship for almost 15 years. I have ... A: My name is Susan. I thank you for your inquiry. I read your story and first I must say my heart ... | |
Domestic Violence
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Susan Blocker
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Expertise
My name is Susan Blocker. I was born in 1962 with a physical disabillity and I am SURVIVOR of Physical, Sexual, Verbal, Emotional and Economical abuse. Since 1996 via my website "Climbing Out Of The Spiral" I have provided a myriad of online support and counseling services to survivors and victims of abuse worldwide. My knowledge stems from my own personal experiences with childhood abuse and domestic violence. Through my own experience with abuse I've learned many valuable lessons that I want to pass on to those in need of guidance and support. Please allow me to help "YOU" begin your "Climb Out Of The Spiral".
Experience
My greatest accomplishment is surviving thirty years of abuse and having the strength to uphold my emotional fortitude so that I can pass my experience on to other survivors of abuse. I am creative founder of a website dedicated to promoting abuse awareness and prevention. Starting December 7, 1996 Climbing Out Of The Spiral has has been a leader providing Abuse Support and Counseling Services to victims of abuse World Wide. Climbing Out Of The Spiral is my most humble and precious achievement.
Education/Credentials
My educatonal credentials stems from "Personal Life Experience".
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