In the US we send flowers for a funeral service. A very good friend of mine in the Netherlands has died. What is an appropriate response? Would I send flowers, a sympathy card? I am unable to attend the service because of the short time frame.
First, my condolances. It must be sad to lose this very good friend and then not be able to say goodbye.
What I think in this case is indeed to send flowers. Maybe this is obvious but just to be sure; you can order a florist here to send it so that they arrive intact and to reduce the cost.
For instance, Fleurop (www.fleurop.nl) delivers anywhere in the Netherlands. I could not find a switch for English. You will be looking for a "rouwboeket";
The rest should be obvious, their layout is rather logical. Only when you are about ready to order can you fill in text for the riboon ("Vul de tekst op uw rouwlint in").
And I just found this English website for you:
Other than that, a card would of course be nice, for the family to keep at home after the funeral.
Please let me know if I can help any further.