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I'm doing well with being assertive, though I'm still working on it. My problem is that I overthink things and get myself worked up over them, big or small. I've wanted a pixie cut and a nose stud for years now, and only recently have I mustered up the courage to ask them about it. Everybody loves my long, curly hair, but what's the point in having it if everybody but myself is happy with it? I want to express myself and my style, but my parents aren't letting me because they're afraid I won't like it. I've done the research, gathered photos, and even have gotten a professional opinion from my friend's mom who is a gair styleist. She was enthusiastic about how nice it would look on me, and I've seen the way she can manipulate curl with layering. My problem is that I can't throughly express myself or get the gall  to say it face to face with my parents. They are preventing me from growing as a person and wxploring myself. They seem to think I do everything to be different, or for attention, when it's really the exact opposite. I hate attention. I'm really half tempted just to cut it up myself so that we have to get it done. I cut my own bangs thinking that it would help me love my hair, but it didn't help at all. I'm too much of abpeople pleaser to really do what I want to do when it comes to adults. How can I express my thoughts to my parents verbally, what can Si say, that might help them understand that I really want to make this change for myself so I can boost  my self confidence?

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believe in yourself and do not be a people pleaser.If you're a "people pleaser," then people are always taking advantage of you. You're also probably not getting what you want out of life. Stop thinking about what would make others happy and focus on what you need. It's time to shift the focus from others to yourself. After all, it can be difficult to improve your own life when you're too busy accommodating others.Learn how to say "no". Don't make up excuses — give your reasons for not wanting something;•There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, and it doesn't have to mean you're making a demand. Simply reminding people that you're an individual with your own preferences is a big step forward.Do something for yourself. Do one thing you have been wanting to do, but feel afraid someone else will not like. Heck on 'em. Do it anyway!
•Dye your hair, get that new look, have a treat that you enjoy, go on holiday, or go see that movie you like but nobody else wants to see!

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communicating,relationships of any kind. One of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself.Fret not I am here to give advice or and ask any questions, some people have a fear of expressing themselves at all. They're afraid to say something that might cost them a friendship. Or they bottle everything up tight and seize up at the mere thought of sharing their true emotions.Tips/advice/ 1.If you have a fear of people, people will avoid you. It's a vicious cycle. You avoid people because you fear that they will hurt you. People see your aloofness, and either think the worst (that you're stuck up), or grant your desire and leave you alone. Then you wonder why it is that no one likes you. 2.When you can't open up to people, people will feel that you are unapproachable. You'll have a hard time getting close to people when you bottle everything up inside. Your relationships will all be shallow. 3.Your inability to express yourself will haunt you in times of trouble. You'll need help, you'll want help, but you won't seek it. You'll hide. So, no one helps you. Then you grow resentful and angry. 4.Another danger is that of isolation. You build walls around your emotions and people instinctively leave you alone. That might be what you wanted at first, but your life will be barren, and empty. Life is relationships. The stronger your relationships the more joy you'll have in life. No matter if it is with your mate, God, children, neighbors, co-workers, friends, relatives, or even yourself, you must learn to express yourself.How to Express Yourself More Clearly and Completely Social anxiety,shyness,low self esteem/confidence,motivation,encouragement ,how to overcome fear,how to express self;how to observe people in conversation carefully,

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Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology; Words have meaning to us. Subtle differences in each word will convey a slightly different idea. Huge and gigantic have subtle differences,our actions[body language/ Words have the power to give life and death...especially in relationships. So it is important that you learn to express yourself. You must learn to convey your thoughts, ideas, dreams, ambitions, hopes and emotions to those that you share a relationship with. Your inability to do so, will damage your relationships.For years I have enjoyed helping people when it comes to any kind of communication

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