Expressing Yourself to Others/Aunt & Boyfriend, how can I help?

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Ok, I am going to do my BEST to explain this. (This may kill ANY chances of getting help, but info about me: I am a 13 year old.)

My aunt Allie is dating this guy, Johnathan. Who's the worst.
1. Suspicious History. (From what my parents tell me, Johnathan was dating another (who was married) girl at the same time Allie and him started dating. Allie & Johnathan “broke up” but got back together WITHIN A WEEK.)
2. Gets SUPER drunk.
3. Suspicious Present ( 2 &3 makes up next block of the story)
About that suspicious present. Four days ago, he got drunk. Allie allowed him to come in the house, but he had to stay in the bedroom to avoid the kids, (& the people I'm closest to, Annie, age 7, and Chase, age 15). He didn't listen, grabbed her, threw her on the bed, and held her down until Chase called the police on him. (Thank Goodness)

I wouldn't be emotionally “volcano erupting” on you expect for how mom is. She's been acting really depressed lately. She's making these calls to Allie. Apparently Allie has made charges against him, but is on the verge of dropping them. Mom is just trying to help out, but these calls just sound more and more desperate each time, some were even scary. How can I help mom feel less like this?

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auntie got to realize she is not a doormat and woman up and get out of this unhealthy relationship for the kids sake and for her own life and sanity,life is short/precious.let's pray for ur mom..
Dear Lord, you are our refuge in good and in bad times. In your infinite mercy, bring peace and comfort to those of us who face days sometimes filled with pain and depression. Help us to realize that through you there is joy and the promise of lasting peace. Help us through the rough times. Walk before and beside us so that we may walk in your footsteps and reach out to you in our journey on this earth. Help us to focus on our blessings rather than our misfortunes, dear Lord. Thank you for hearing and answering our prayers. Amen
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I pray this helps,will pray God touch auntie heart to leave or move on before he hurts her,call police

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communicating,relationships of any kind. One of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself.Fret not I am here to give advice or and ask any questions, some people have a fear of expressing themselves at all. They're afraid to say something that might cost them a friendship. Or they bottle everything up tight and seize up at the mere thought of sharing their true emotions.Tips/advice/ 1.If you have a fear of people, people will avoid you. It's a vicious cycle. You avoid people because you fear that they will hurt you. People see your aloofness, and either think the worst (that you're stuck up), or grant your desire and leave you alone. Then you wonder why it is that no one likes you. 2.When you can't open up to people, people will feel that you are unapproachable. You'll have a hard time getting close to people when you bottle everything up inside. Your relationships will all be shallow. 3.Your inability to express yourself will haunt you in times of trouble. You'll need help, you'll want help, but you won't seek it. You'll hide. So, no one helps you. Then you grow resentful and angry. 4.Another danger is that of isolation. You build walls around your emotions and people instinctively leave you alone. That might be what you wanted at first, but your life will be barren, and empty. Life is relationships. The stronger your relationships the more joy you'll have in life. No matter if it is with your mate, God, children, neighbors, co-workers, friends, relatives, or even yourself, you must learn to express yourself.How to Express Yourself More Clearly and Completely Social anxiety,shyness,low self esteem/confidence,motivation,encouragement ,how to overcome fear,how to express self;how to observe people in conversation carefully,

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Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology; Words have meaning to us. Subtle differences in each word will convey a slightly different idea. Huge and gigantic have subtle differences,our actions[body language/ Words have the power to give life and death...especially in relationships. So it is important that you learn to express yourself. You must learn to convey your thoughts, ideas, dreams, ambitions, hopes and emotions to those that you share a relationship with. Your inability to do so, will damage your relationships.For years I have enjoyed helping people when it comes to any kind of communication

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