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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| childhood | 2/3/2012 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: Does this sound normal to you or abusive, possibly mentally unstable? These are all things my ... A: You are 22 now. What happened to you by your parents was in your child hood. Since then you have ... | ||
| my 73 yr old mom | 1/31/2012 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: I have a mom that has a manipulating personality. I've never asked this kind of question so feel ... A: Michelle, thanks for your question. If I may paraphrase your question, you are asking 'how to not ... | ||
| sister talk to brother | 1/26/2012 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: My brother is married for 2 months now. I have a good relationship with his wife. Were like sisters. ... A: I understand how important your relationship with your brother and "sister" and it is wise idea to ... | ||
| Parents keeping secrets from me and themselves- please help on situation | 1/25/2012 | David Simonsen |
| Q: Hey. So I have to give you a bit of background information before i ask my question. i am an only ... A: Carolina, I wouldn't approach it. They are adults and have reasons for the way they act. So let's ... | ||
| Smoking parent | 1/22/2012 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: My Mom is a smoker. Her Mom just died from lung cancer. She has had heart issues and her doctor has ... A: I'm confused - in your initial question, you stated "My sisters and I ... have gone to my Mom's ... | ||
| Smoking parent | 1/22/2012 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: My Mom is a smoker. Her Mom just died from lung cancer. She has had heart issues and her doctor has ... A: Caroline, thanks for your question. Some possible responses: (BTW, not all of these you will find ... | ||
| What can I do about my couch potato parents? | 1/7/2012 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: I'm 19 years old, and I have two brothers who are 2 and 4 years. For a while now, I've been feeling ... A: I really appreciate your concern for your brothers. It shows how caring and matured you are. ... | ||
| What is going on here? | 1/6/2012 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: Why does every time this girl sees me in class she looks at me and starts laughing. But when I look ... A: Jon, thanks for your question. You asked, essentially, "why do other people do the things they ... | ||
| Dad, Stepmom & Grandchildren | 1/2/2012 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: I asked how to keep my Dad in my life and his Grandchildren's life during the rift with my Stepmom ... A: I appreciate your concern for your children, dad and the whole family. You are quite right in asking ... | ||
| wedding family issues | 12/22/2011 | Dr. Gitanjali Sharma |
| Q: Ill make this long story short. My fiance and I were working on are wedding plans. Hey mother wants ... A: James, Good thing is your own father is minister. For you her uncle is unknown, same way for her ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: Julie, thanks for your question. Most people think their fantasies are 'weird', or unusual, or ... | ||
| The Grandparents!!!! | 12/14/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: I live with the in-laws and my fiance and I am a proud parents of a four month old... I am a stay at ... A: Danielle, There are several options you have. One is to get married and move into your own place ... | ||
| My fiance is embarrassed to show his face around my family after they walked in on us? | 12/9/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 22, and my fiance Mikey, is 26, and we just got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Mikey ... A: Jamia, If you are unable to talk about this incident with your parents and Mikey is unable to deal ... | ||
| My fiance is embarrassed to show his face around my family after they walked in on us? | 12/9/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 22, and my fiance Mikey, is 26, and we just got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Mikey ... A: I understand that both of you were embarrassed when they walked in and saw both in the bed. If they ... | ||
| incest | 12/7/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: Is it incest for a women to divorce her husband and then after ten years get together with her ex ... A: dawn, thanks for your question. Incest is defined as "Sexual relations between people classed as ... | ||
| My parents vs my husband | 12/5/2011 | Lisa Tyler |
| Q: I am caught in between my husband and my parents and need your take on the following, as I feel too ... A: I hope I can answer your questions and give you a new direction to take in this situation. I won't ... | ||
| granddaughter growing up/changing | 12/4/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: I would just like some help in not feeling teary when I see my granddaughter change as she becomes ... A: Janelle, Change is a difficult thing! I imagine there may be some of your own stuff from the past ... | ||
| My relationship with my father | 12/2/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: I am Yuss, I have 17 years old and a Palestinian. I am at the last year at school. I have to study ... A: Yuss, this sounds like something you should sek counseling for. Try to find a mental health ... | ||
| My Mother. | 11/27/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: Simonsen, People tend to judge the "child" when it comes to parents, if there is a problem. That's ... A: Beth, If what you are saying is true, then I think cutting off or at least limiting contact is the ... | ||
| My mother | 11/27/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: Borkosky, My problem is my mother. People tend to judge the "child" when it comes to parents, if ... A: Beth, thanks for your question. You asked, "My question is: I have decided to no longer have her ... | ||
| Family Dog | 11/22/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: I am asking this question because I've been having some problems with my younger sister. I am 21 and ... A: I agree with you that this is a sticky situation. However, I don't think that it's really a question ... | ||
| Brother/family issue. | 11/21/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: I am a single mother, with a 3 year old daughter. I live with my parents so that I can stay home ... A: I would advise you to stay at home with your parents as they also want the same keeping in mind your ... | ||
| My mom wants me to live nearby forever | 11/21/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are in a serious long term relationship and we plan on getting married in two ... A: Anissa, If you are unable to simply leave with the man you will be making vows with then you ... | ||
| adult son | 11/20/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: My 35 year old adult son still lives with me. He is a very unpleasant alcoholic who has never held a ... A: Oz, What has caused this is the inability of you to kick him out when he first had the behavior. You ... | ||
| Giving Exciting Blowjobs | 11/18/2011 | Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D. |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for about a year now and our sex life is so boring! My husband ... A: Susanna, thanks for your question. It seems as though you may know the answer to your question. That ... | ||
| Dealing with my parents | 10/8/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: I'm 15 and I've recently been to the doctor a lot because I've been having a lot of pain but that's ... A: I do understand you love your parents. I still stand by my advice and recommendations from previous ... | ||
| Dealing with my parents | 10/8/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: I'm 15 and I've recently been to the doctor a lot because I've been having a lot of pain but that's ... A: I am sorry to hear that you are in lots of pains. I think you do have a right to see your doctor and ... | ||
| Move Closer To Family | 10/3/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: I am a 35 year old single gay male that moved away from my family in Florida 9 years ago to Atlanta. ... A: I do agree with you having a strong relationship with family is very important. I think you should ... | ||
| Dealing with my mom. | 9/25/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: Recently, I've started having a lot of problems with my mother- we became inseparable 4 years ago, ... A: First of all sorry that I am so late in responding your query. I understand your problem. I will ... | ||
| rights of teen parents | 9/15/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: I would like to know the best and most credible website to find out the specific rights that teen ... A: I believe below websites are a good place to start researching - depending on your state, usually it ... | ||
| telling a child that their dad isnt their dad.. | 8/17/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: i have a 9yo boy and my husband isnt his biological dad and recently the biological dad his dad ... A: I agree and support with you to wait until he is little bit older and if he have questions then take ... | ||
| Gift giving to kids of grandsons girlfriends | 8/13/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: My grandson just had a baby with his girlfriend. The girlfriend has two other kids. When it comes to ... A: If you met the girlfriend's grand-children for the first time, it is not necessary to include them ... | ||
| step children | 8/7/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. He has two adult children from previous marriages. ... A: I would just say that take firm stand and ask your husband to be on your side. I can understand your ... | ||
| step children | 8/5/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. He has two adult children from previous marriages. ... A: As you have mentioned--- "Neither were happy we were getting married and neither was happy about us ... | ||
| Family Feud | 7/31/2011 | Jan Harrell, PhD |
| Q: This is so long of a story, but to try and make it short. My parents use to be a big part of my ... A: Kim - What a painful situation! And so unnecessary, if everyone would think about what is the ... | ||
| Feeling alienated from Family, sorry it so long | 7/25/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: I am a 49 yr old woman with a 3 yr old and a husband. We are a happy family, but when it comes to ... A: I went through your whole story thoroughly. Sorry to know about your situation. This is really quite ... | ||
| Relationship Issues | 7/8/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: Dr. Martin, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now and, for the most part, ... A: I am glad you have a chance to check things out with your boyfriend's permission, it shows that he ... | ||
| family rights and fathers rights. | 7/4/2011 | Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr. |
| Q: if mother leaves her baby with her mother to take care of, and the father shows up afterwards should ... A: If mother instructed caregiver to give the child to the father, yes she can comply but if mother ... | ||
| blended family | 6/25/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: My 21 year old son stills lives at home. While he does work it is not enough for him to move out on ... A: You certainly need to counsel your son to be on his own. You can take him to a counselor. In this ... | ||
| Family problem | 5/31/2011 | Shashank Shekhar Pandey |
| Q: goodafternoon I am a working woman. i have one daughter, one year old. Morning to evening my ... A: I appreciate your decision of quitting the job for your baby. In fact, it is essential for a mother ... | ||
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Answers by Expert:
Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.
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Expertise
questions framed similarly to 'what are some ways to respond when someone does/says X' are best. Questions posed in the form of 'why does my father do/say Y', or 'how would you diagnose my mother when she does/says Z' are difficult, if not impossible, to answer. I will probably reframe your question to fit the first question (what do I do). Nay question regarding any family member is fair game. Some of the most difficult are in the area of step-parenting and divorcing families.
Experience
I've been a licensed psychologist in Florida since 1994. I've evaluated and/or treated thousands of patients.
Organizations
American Psychological Association
Florida Psychological association
National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology
Publications
www.bruceborkosky.blogger.com
Education/Credentials
Psy.D., Miami Institute of Psychology, 1993
M.CS., U. of Dayton, 1984
B.A., Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978
Awards and Honors
Award for Years of Dedicated Service, Palm Beach County Legal Aid Society, 1999
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