Working through the My Way to OUR WAY method, I offer engaged & married couples help with issues regarding love, conflict resolution, anger management, blended families (married with children), parental issues and sibling rivalry.
When in conflict, you might wonder:
Why does he/she DO THAT?!
I just understand him/her.
I can't get them to consistently start/stop!
Why is he/she so upset?
I'm in a lose-lose situation.
If you're stuck, it's because you THINK you have run out of opportunities. I can help you find more!!
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Experience:
Highly experienced in the area of conflict, I believe that families can take full responsibility for solving their own problems, without the need for a long-term third party. I lead an association of counselors who I train so that they can train families on this method (within 5 sessions) and this has made a major difference for many families!
Education/Credentials:
Registered Counselor #RC00059845
M.S. in Management & B.A. in Communications
Formal Education in: Learning, Mediation and Coaching
Expert: Jessie Upp Date: 4/14/2008 Subject: problem husband
Question I'm 44, my husband is 46 and we've been married for 23 years. I have felt my husband doesn't love me for a good part of our marriage, but he says he does. At this point, I need to lose about 75 pounds. I eat when I'm sad. I went back to work as a nurse and while that is a love/ hate "thing," my husband never encourages my career. I believe he'd rather I not work and he has more of a hold on me. Regardless, I still work part-time. I'm surprised that he has cut me down so much that I've actually been able to go back to work and now be working on my Masters. He is not proud of me one bit. His favorite comment is "I don't know why you keep wasting your time with school and you don't need to work. Most woman would love to be in your situation."
My husband constantly belittles me. Whenever we are around others, he is very insulting. I become quite hurt over it. He then tells me everything "bothers" me. I refuse to have friends with him around as he just finds a reason to cut down my feelings, what I say, etc. That is one reason I like work, I am who I am without him around and actually have a lot of friends at work. I wouldn't dream of bringing them around my husband. I prefer no one to know I have that other side of my life which is quite demeaning. There is a huge sadness in me that he doesn't love me. I know most woman could probably move on, but I have so many years in this relationship along with three kids (16,14,9) that I can't walk away now.
Is there anyway I can change things? I'm trying hard to lose weight, but even that! If I lose weight now, he may treat me better, but you don't pick and choose when you'll love someone so I fear I'll resent him more if he does treat me better when I'm thin. He certainly isn't perfect, but thinks he is. What should I do?
Answer Hi Lisa,
I'd be happy to help! I just have one request before answering questions from Allexpert visitors. I'm not sure if you read it, so I'm attaching the request below. Thank you.
Jessie Upp
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Dear Friend,
All of us have different issues, but there is a definite pattern I am seeing after helping many people. Please first read the following article and let me know you have done so before asking me your question.
