AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I am a licensed Marriage & Family therapist. I work primarily with teens and families on a weekly basis. You will get the straight truth. I will not pull punches.
Experience I have been working daily with teens and families for the last 6 years.
Organizations AAMFT; AACC; WAMFT
Education/Credentials M.S. in Marriage & Family Therapy
Expert: David Simonsen Date: 6/10/2008 Subject: Knife Weilding Mama
Question Once again my mama caught my stepdad looking at another womans behind (this time i saw him looking at the woman as well). My mama let it go for about a week and then sunday she just exploded. She told him that he wasnt working and needed to get a job and his own money if he was going to look at other women. Shes had this discussion with him before but this time she pulled out two knives and threatened to STAB yes i said it STAB him. She went so far as to hold the knife to his neck. I tried to stop her telling her she would go to prison if she murdered him and she screamed at me to move and implied she would stab me as well. I went to my room and locked the doors. After she left the house (in a rage im sure) i made sure to hide all the knives(including the ones she had in her room). This isnt the first time shes gone nuts like this once she even went nuts on me. She choked me when i was 17 because i was venting to my best friend(who else does an only child vent to?) bc my mama ruined Disney world because she spent the WHOLE week yelling at my stepdad bc he was taping one of the street performers. She felt he was taping one particular one too long so she let him have it. Well she overheard (bc she listened in and still listens in on my conversations) us talking about it and she went crazy and started to choke me i had to hit her to get her off me.
Today we went off to go shopping and after we left the grocery store she brought up my stepdad looking at that woman again. She started yelling and screaming and then got quiet and started to play a sermon on the radio. The preacher started to talk about its sinful for women to wear thongs(he also says oral and anal sex is a sin) and she looked at me knowing i wear thongs and i told her i dont agree with the preacher because who care what underwear u have on if no one is going to see it. She got mad and started yelling at me accusing me of bein on my stepdads side.
I try to stay out of her arguments with him but she keeps pulling me in asking me "twinkle didnt you see your stepdad looking at that woman in the store" or "twinkle what do you think" if i say i wanna stay out of it she says im on his side and against her. She thinks either you are for her or against her. Shes super paranoid as well. She swears that my stepdad is casting curses on her and putting things in her colas. She even implied at one point that I her own daughter was involved.
I think shes finally gone completely over the edge. I can not move bc i have not found a job. I also live in a rural area in the south and i have no car my mom wont allow me to drive hers and she will only take me to look for a job when she feels like it. All my friends are 2 or 3 hours away (the one thats the closest has no car either). Just yesterday my mom refused to take me job hunting because she was "too upset with my stepdad to drive" so heres my question : Aside from running away to become a stripper/pornstar ...how do i deal with living in such a toxic house hold?
Oh yeah one more thing when i went to the doctor when all this first started he said my blood pressure was high for someone my age and he said that bc i was not over weight(i weigh 103 at 5'1 lol) it was stress i told my mama this you think she tried to make home less stressful NO she just says "well blame your stepdad its his fault
Answer Kia,
Not sure what you want me to say. This is an unhealthy situation and you simply need to leave or call the police when your mom pulls a knife on your SD. I would suggest maybe going into the military. They will give you a place to stay food to ear and job skills. Not sure why you mention becoming a stripper, but I would imagine the military would teach you much more. You also would make close friendships with a variety of different people. Most importantly you would be out of your moms home.
David
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