AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I am a licensed Marriage & Family therapist. I work primarily with teens and families on a weekly basis. You will get the straight truth. I will not pull punches.
Experience I have been working daily with teens and families for the last 6 years.
Organizations AAMFT; AACC; WAMFT
Education/Credentials M.S. in Marriage & Family Therapy
Expert: David Simonsen Date: 6/18/2008 Subject: My mothers sheltering.
Question I have a boyfriend who I love, and is a good person who my parents like. It is summer now, and I barely see him, and miss him so much. So he came over to my house once without my mother knowing. She found out and is not letting me see him anymore. I know i broke her trust, but she forgave me and raised me right, so she should trust me to do the right thing. I miss my boyfriend so much, weve benn together 6 months and hes my bestfriend. How can explain to my mother that I deserve to see him again?
Answer Jennifer,
You didn't break her heart you broke her trust. If she raised you right I am curious why you did the wrong thing. So my other question is why should she trust you now? If you did this out of the blue she is probably wondering how many other things you have done. I suggest you pay more attention to building trust with you parent and less on the feelings related to this foolish boy. Remember he was part of the trust breaking. She can't trust him either. If she raised you right she is expecting you to be with someone who is respectful not only of you, but of her as well. Thus, I suggest focusing on doing trustful behavior with your mom.
David
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