Expert: David Simonsen - 10/19/2009

Question

My parents have been divorced for a while. My mother has just gotten her boyfriend within this year. At first I was happy for her. I met the guy named Paul. He is supper nice but I just feel weird being around him. I always hear my mother talking about him and everyday she is not spending with me she spend with him. It seems like I have a jelousy issue, which I am pretty sure I do. I talked many times to her about this and she just keeps thinking that it's no big deal. I put on a happy face and don't complain but really I always have a feeling that I am being pushed aside. My mother and him plan to go to Italy together over Christmas break. This is what really kills me. It feels like I am no longer that important. I feel really guilty, selfish, and dumb for acting this way. Please help!

Answer
Amanda,
It is unfortunate that your mother's focus is on the boyfriend now. Since you have already talked to her there is not going to be much you can do. I would suggest that you focus on other family relationships and give your mother some room. Hopefully she will be able to see the folly of her ways. If you have siblings, they may be feeling the same ay as you, so maybe you can talk to them.
David
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