Family Relations/Non helping husband
I do not know if this will be a gripe to you or a question but here it goes. Let me start off by saying that I love my husband very much. We have a lot in common and usually get along quite well.
We have 4 young men. 5 year old twins, 2 1/2 year old, and a 9 month old. I am a stay at home mom and have been for about 3 years. I do most of the work around the house, I take care of the children and my husband, I also help my husband with chores outside the house. Splitting wood, stacking wood, or whatever need done.
I am a tired mom. He knows this, recognizes it, and yet when I ask for help or he see's that I am frustrated and need help, he either mocks me, tell's me I can do it myself, or just leaves because I get an "attitude" with him.
It's not even like I ask all the time. I ask only when I have had enough and need a break. This is the most important question I have right now. I do believe than my marriage is unhealthy because of other issues. I just wish I could get what I need from my husband when I ask for it. Any advice?
I really think you need to sit with your husband and have a clear conversation about what you are feeling. Don't make it about what he is or isn't doing. No guy I know of can really resist a wife talking about her feelings and the hurt she has. If a guy resists that conversation then they are usually very self-centered. I have a feeling that when you do try to talk with him it's in the middle of things and not staged in a great way. If he is unwilling then I suggest you seek out a therapist who can help you process this much better than I could in this online forum.