Family Relations/how to relate or deal with family issues
my question is how to relate to and deal with my family with the following issues below, do you have any suggestions on that sir?
Hello, I'll give you a brief history. Since my grandmother passed who was like the glue to the family all hell has kind of broke loose in my family. I have been accused (unjustly) of hiding insurance policies, to setting the family house on fire (unjustly again)none of these things i do or have done. Now to my family i appear well off because i work hard, pay off my debts, i dont have any kids, and now im engaged. Which is something alot of my immediate family hasnt experienced. And i am ALWAYS there for them whether its financial, an event, holiday, time to help move u name it. and i never treat my family funny in any kind of way at all. and i dont act uppity as they say. but they tend to always have something negative to say, or state that i think im better than them and my life is perfect and i dont have any problems.
one reason i dont talk to them alot is because of their negative comments mostly, so there is a trust issue with them for me. one of my cousins even went as far to tell me that i make her feel too poor to be in my world! Im so confused because while im not perfect at all, i KNOW i dont act funny around my family nor do i demean them in anyway.
its so confusing because im always there for them. my aunt even told me that my mom and grandma who have been deceased since 2001 and 2007 felt like i was ashamed of them. She tells me this months ago, and im like huh? especially when all my friends and people who are close to me knew how i felt about my mom and grandma who raised me. its really hurtful, and now and how its been for a while i feel so uncomfortable around them and i dont want to be that way, but know how they talk about me, i dont know what else to do.
thanks for listening
Hi, Ryan, well there are hundred, if not thousands of possibilities. I won't pretend to know what is going on with the other people in your family. That is really what is needed to come up with a complete plan.
However, I do know this - that people often go 'crazy' when someone dies. They do and say things that they normally would never do. There's probably a lot of 'reasons why' they do this. Partly it's because they become very emotional, and when people are highly emotional, they stop thinking.
So, if this is partly what is going on with them, then I would just ignore it, like you ignore a barking do. The reason is because they may not really mean the things they are saying.
If it still bothers you, then you might consider going away from them until they can get themselves under control.