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| Subject | Date Asked |
| sister talk to brother | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: My brother is married for 2 months now. I have a good relationship with his wife. Were like sisters. ... A: I understand how important your relationship with your brother and "sister" and it is wise idea to ... | |
| My fiance is embarrassed to show his face around my family after they walked in on us? | 12/9/2011 |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 22, and my fiance Mikey, is 26, and we just got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Mikey ... A: I understand that both of you were embarrassed when they walked in and saw both in the bed. If they ... | |
| Dealing with my parents | 10/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm 15 and I've recently been to the doctor a lot because I've been having a lot of pain but that's ... A: I do understand you love your parents. I still stand by my advice and recommendations from previous ... | |
| Dealing with my parents | 10/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm 15 and I've recently been to the doctor a lot because I've been having a lot of pain but that's ... A: I am sorry to hear that you are in lots of pains. I think you do have a right to see your doctor and ... | |
| Move Closer To Family | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: I am a 35 year old single gay male that moved away from my family in Florida 9 years ago to Atlanta. ... A: I do agree with you having a strong relationship with family is very important. I think you should ... | |
| rights of teen parents | 9/15/2011 |
| Q: I would like to know the best and most credible website to find out the specific rights that teen ... A: I believe below websites are a good place to start researching - depending on your state, usually it ... | |
| telling a child that their dad isnt their dad.. | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: i have a 9yo boy and my husband isnt his biological dad and recently the biological dad his dad ... A: I agree and support with you to wait until he is little bit older and if he have questions then take ... | |
| Gift giving to kids of grandsons girlfriends | 8/13/2011 |
| Q: My grandson just had a baby with his girlfriend. The girlfriend has two other kids. When it comes to ... A: If you met the girlfriend's grand-children for the first time, it is not necessary to include them ... | |
| Relationship Issues | 7/8/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Martin, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now and, for the most part, ... A: I am glad you have a chance to check things out with your boyfriend's permission, it shows that he ... | |
| family rights and fathers rights. | 7/4/2011 |
| Q: if mother leaves her baby with her mother to take care of, and the father shows up afterwards should ... A: If mother instructed caregiver to give the child to the father, yes she can comply but if mother ... | |
| helping my brother (sorry for dragging the question long) | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: for the last 4-5 years my brother has been experiencing continuous amounts of problems in his life ... A: Just be supportive and be there for your brother and if possible, take him to professional counselor ... | |
| Child of an alcoholic | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: The man I am currently seeing is about to discuss his ex wife's alcoholisim with the adult children. ... A: I think it is for the best interests to not tell them if they didn't know about it, keep that way. ... | |
| What should I do if my husband is always opposed to what I do? | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for a very long time, and we have two children who are 1 and 3 ... A: It is truly sticky situation, I know you love your husband and your children very much. My ... | |
| 3 year old behavior | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: Martin, I am concerned about a new behavior with my three year old son. Just before the birth of ... A: It is truly interesting, it is rare that I seen it during discipline. "Enmeshment development" is ... | |
| My two year old is calling her father's girlfriend "mommy". | 12/17/2010 |
| Q: I have found out that my ex and his girlfriend are having my two year old call the girlfriend ... A: I understand your concerns, she is only 2 years old, too young to understand definition "Mommy" or ... | |
| step mom obsessed with step son | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: .. My name is Elizabeth. Im 23 and my husband is 21 right now. Im a very independant and strong ... A: Wow what a story, You are indeed a true brave,strong, and a loving woman, your husband is very lucky ... | |
| Who is what to who? | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: My mother was married once before my father (3 children)...my father was married twice before my ... A: It is a great question, I know it seems little confusing. You are correct, we don't use half ... | |
| Boyfriend's relationship with his ex-wife | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He has been divorced for 3 years. His ex is also in a ... A: You have excellent points about fairness and self respect issue. I find nothing fault in your part. ... | |
| Help | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: Is it normal to have sexual feelings for my aunt. I don't know why I have these feelings for her. ... A: It is real odd that you have sexual feelings for your aunt, were you close with her? It is not ... | |
| my sister's boyfriend is emotionally abusive | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a very concerned big brother. My sister has been in a rocky relationship with her boyfriend for ... A: I understand your concerns with your sister's relationship situation. First thing, she is an adult - ... | |
| Eight years old son sleep with mom | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: My son always wake up early morning around 3 AM mostly. He stood near my bed. I asked him what his ... A: If he said bed feels cold is the problem, try get thicker blanket and flannel sheet or turn up ... | |
| kids sharing a room | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: In the state of VA can kids of the same sex but of different families share a room. My boyfriend and ... A: Yes siblings can share the room without any problem if she spends the night every other weekend as ... | |
| rights of pregnant teen | 11/6/2010 |
| Q: My son's 16 year old girlfriend is pregnant.Her parents are forcing her to use the doctor & hospital ... A: Actually, parents do have right to take care of her because she is considered a minor. She does ... | |
| Not sure how to bring up tricky subject with parents | 9/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old and according to tax laws, my parents cannot claim me as a dependent. However, they ... A: You are correct in regard to tax laws, your parents cannot claim you as a dependent. There will be ... | |
| relationship | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: We have been living together for 15 years in a house we bought together .15 years ago. He has become ... A: If you have a legal document saying that you are 50% owner to that house, therefore he can't kick ... | |
| relationship | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: We have been living together for 15 years in a house we bought together .15 years ago. He has become ... A: I need to know some answers first before I am able to assist you... 1. Are you married? 2. Is ... | |
| Confused about my role...... | 8/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a 39 year old man who owns his own home, works mainly from home or on the road. I became ... A: I understand your concerns, please do remember they are not your children, I do feel you should get ... | |
| family | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: im am 16 goin to be 17 and im having a baby im with the father he is 18 but im living with my mom ... A: Your mother is correct because you are living with her and I assumed you are in high school still? ... | |
| Terrible Step Daughter to Be | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I am currently engaged to a man, after 13 years, with a daughter who will be 24 this year. She no ... A: You are a good and strong levelheaded young woman. You stand up on your own feet which it is good ... | |
| interfering mother | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: i am a 38 years old single professionally successful independent woman. i stay close to my parents ... A: I understand you and how you feel about your mother. Just tell her that you are grown, independent ... | |
| my son | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: i have 3 years old son,our relation is great,he is sticky too much of me which make me the same ... A: It could be a medical issue for your son related to eating issue or some kind of disorder. I ... | |
| How do I deal with my grown stepdaughter. | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: Sorry for a long message, but I really need to vent... My grown stepdaughter (26yo) and her 3 year ... A: I do understand your concerns and I totally agree with you 100% that she needs to support herself ... | |
| Grandmother interfering | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: I have 3 sons - one of which my family (Mother %26 Brother) had a lot to do with his upbringing. He ... A: I fully support you on this 100% and your mother needs to work with you and if she would not, you ... | |
| Grandmother interfering | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I have 3 sons - one of which my family (Mother %26 Brother) had a lot to do with his upbringing. He ... A: I think you are doing what is best interest for your sons. I am not sure about articles that spells ... | |
| Mom living with me is making me unhappy. | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: My mom is 52 and I am a 27 y/o single female. About 6.5 months ago, my ex moved out, and my mom who ... A: I understand your situation and it is making you unhappy, considering her taking up your space and ... | |
| grandparent playing favorites to grandchild | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are troubled by his mother, when she comes to visit, showing much more attention to ... A: I suggest you to keep them busy while your mother in law visits them. That way she will not feel ... | |
| blabbermouth mother disrupting homelife | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: Im wondering what is the best way to deal with a mom that constantly criticizes my family ... A: I think the best way to deal with your mother's issues is to confront her and talk about it civilly ... | |
| Adult Son 3,000 Miles Away | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: My son went in Navy for GI bill, is a teacher. In Navy, he was extremely hard for us to get along ... A: I am very shocked that your own blood son will do this to you. I finds nothing wrong with you based ... | |
| Introducing Myself To My Half-Sister | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: Jerry! I am the eldest adult child (50 years old) in a one-time 2-parent, 2-children nuclear ... A: It is truly wonderful that you indeed found your half-sister (I prefer "sister") instead ... | |
| Adult Child | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: Martin, Ten years ago, my daughter's stepbrother came to live with us while he got his life ... A: No, you are not being selfish. You are entitled to have your own space and your battle with breast ... | |
| spoiled children | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: How can you tell if a child or even an adult is spoiled. How would you deal with an adult who throws ... A: Everyone are spoiled in some time of our lives. It is well expected. It doesn't last. If a child ... | |
| 16 year old stepson hitting a 3 year old | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: i have a 16 year old stepson and a 3 year old son (from previous relationship).Boys do not have such ... A: You need to find out why your older son is hitting on 3 years old boy. It will take both of you to ... | |
| smoking | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: My sisters and I are having issues with my Mom about her smoking. She recently had to go get some ... A: I truly understand your situation. It is difficult decision and choice your sisters and yourself ... | |
| simple question | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: Simrun has some misconception about her husband Mr. Ali, that he has close relation with his ... A: Best way to approach this problem is to talk with her straightforward and clarify the issue in ... | |
| Attention at home | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: Hey Doc, I have been married for 5 years. They have unfortunately been the most sad years of my ... A: I am glad you didn't cheat on your wife. Thank goodness you quickly squashed your thought. I think ... | |
| Family lunches | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: If a family member invites a person over for lunch occasionally should the person/people invited be ... A: No, it is not proper to tell them when they are invited, as courtesy they might will ask you if they ... | |
| bullying | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a ... A: Wow. I totally understand what you are going through everyday. I think you are correct, and your ... | |
| how to instill compassion in a 10year old child | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Martin, I am struggling tremendously with our son. No matter what we do to help instill ... A: It is normal to spoil your child. I think he will benefit to have a mentor "big brother" and he ... | |
| Ready to Have a Child? | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: my husband and I have been wanting to have a baby for a few months. We feel that we are emotionally ... A: Your health insurance should cover medical expenses except your co-pay cost. My recommendation ... | |
| partner married to mother | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: My botfriend and I have been together for 6 years and have a 4 1/2 yr old son. It is expected that ... A: At least your boyfriend sees your issues clearly and know you have hard time dealing with it. That ... | |
| partner marrited to mother | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: My botfriend and I have been together for 6 years and have a 4 1/2 yr old son. It is expected that ... A: I agree with you, it seems unhealthy. It is not normal behavior I expect coming from grandma. ... | |
| sister | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: my sister and i have had a rocky relationship for a long time. she told me everything i did to upset ... A: No, it will backfire on you. Do opposite, forgive her and move on. It is not worth to obsess about ... | |
| Controlling Parents interfering in my marriage | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: We recently moved to the same town as my parents and my husband thinks they are too involved in our ... A: Who cares if your parents knows about it. He is adult and well within his rights to have tattoos ... | |
| Not Fair I DON understand | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old, from Singapore. My mom has been nagging that i spent too much money but she, ... A: If she choose to not listen to you, at least you spoke what is on your mind. You should move on. ... | |
| Not Fair I DON"T UNDERSTAND AT ALL I just want her to OPEN her eyes | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old, from Singapore. My mom has been nagging that i spent too much money but she, ... A: I understand how you feel. You are grown adult, you can do whatever you want about what you spend ... | |
| Would children still love there mother | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: Would children still like there mother if they are informed that their mother does not know identity ... A: Yes children will still love mother no matter what because she been there for them. To inform them ... | |
| Inappropriate for a son to do? | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old, and have been working since finishing college in December last year. My Mom, who's ... A: You are very nice person and who truly loves and cares your mother. No, it is not inappropriate nor ... | |
| Help me | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Sir, i am 23 years old and an orphan.. i grow up with my uncle's family..i have been in love with a ... A: It is good idea to take one step a time and see what happens. It is not worth to worry about stuff ... | |
| Help me | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: Sir, i am 23 years old and an orphan.. i grow up with my uncle's family..i have been in love with a ... A: It is important to follow your heart and not what family wishes you to do. FOLLOW YOUR OWN HEART. ... | |
| Adult Daughter Seeks Visitation with Mother Suffering with Alzheimer's | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: My father recently lost an Order of Protection he sought against me, which was punishment for my ... A: It is serious issue and personal family matter, it is little out of my expertise but refer you to ... | |
| Relationships | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: 2 years ago while planning a family holiday with my partner and her 3 young daughters, my partner ... A: No it is not wrong for you to feel angry and annoyed about her situation. As you said you are just a ... | |
| 7 year old tantrums | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I have a 7 year old boy and a 2 year old daughter. My son is normally a very shy, well-mannered, ... A: Wow..I am impressed you tried to do everything normal mother would do if they were in your shoes. I ... | |
| Relationships | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: 2 years ago while planning a family holiday with my partner and her 3 young daughters, my partner ... A: No it is not wrong for you to feel angry and annoyed about her situation, my question are you ... | |
| My 7yr old keeps running away | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm a single mother of 3. 2 boys, 7 and 5, and a daughter 2. We will call the 7yr old Bob. Bob was ... A: I am so sorry to hear about stuff you went through. I know it is very hard to raise a child who is ... | |
| paternity | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: My fiance has a 4 year old from a previous relationship. He suspects he is not the biological ... A: I am concerned why she gave up temporary custody of him to your fiance in the first place? He needs ... | |
| Family Separation and children | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend has recently left her former husband after a long term domestic violence issue and ... A: It appears to me, you got all answers here, attend counseling center is a excellent idea. You can ... | |
| old boyfriend | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I were recently married after dating for 2 years. During our courting her previous ... A: It is really sad that she does not tell you truth. Trust and Honesty are very important to marriage ... | |
| Father/daughter relationship | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I divorced two years ago and he recently came to town to visit our teenaged daughter. ... A: It is strange, yes but suspicious, no. It depends on the situation, for example, I have a 7 years ... | |
| my daughter | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: it all started about in June of 2008.my daughter just turned three.she had the normal testing ... A: I am so sorry to hear about her. My recommendation to take her to her pediatrician ASAP, and this ... | |
| Child Support | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: I have two children, ages 8 and 9. I am interested in filing for child support but my kids' father ... A: Wow, it is illegal for him to use someone else's SSN. I suggest you to go to your home town County ... | |
| Emancipation | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and living in Missouri with my boyfriend, Jeremy. Jeremy's entire family lives in ... A: I understand your concerns, there is a way out, Parent's will need to see an attorney to obtain ... | |
| Daughter's cook-out | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: I have a 19-yr-old daughter who lives nearby with her boyfriend and 3-month-old son. We get along ... A: I am so sorry that you are feeling down. I think your daughter being disrespectful to you and her ... | |
| Constant Fighting | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm 17 living with my mother and father. Ever since I can remember, my father as ALWAYS had an anger ... A: I am so sorry to hear about your father's anger problem. I assumed any of you tried to attend family ... | |
| Sperm Donor | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: My son just found out he is a xxy male. He cannot produce live sperm. He and his wife have asked me ... A: It is nice of you doing this for your son. If 4 of you seems fine without any issues regard you ... | |
| Teen Needing Legal Advice | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Jerry Martin, I'm searching for answers, and I hope you can help me. This does regard an ... A: I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Emancipation is long process and I think it will be ... | |
| Bad Relationship with my Mother | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: My Mother is a manager at her job and has been for sometime and we always found time for the two of ... A: She may be worried about high costs, everyone suffers high gas prices, high food cost, etc. She may ... | |
| 10 year old daughter disrespectful | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: My daughter is 10 years old and she used to be the model child. Respectful, attentive, and well ... A: She may be jealous because when you have baby, you put all of your attention towards baby, she may ... | |
| Sperm donation/ family ethics | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I was a sperm donor shortly after I graduated college (10+ years ago). I have been feeling guilt ... A: I believe being a sperm donor is great thing and I see no problems with it. Answer to your first ... | |
| Blending two families | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: Martin, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 1/2 years. He has two girls that are 8 and 11 and ... A: I know move is stressful for the girls. It is good idea to all of you sit down and talk about it so ... | |
| Telling my son about it all | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: I am the mother of a five year old. I'm ending a relationship of three years with a man who my son ... A: I am glad everything seems to be worked out fine. He can tell him that he is moving out for good, ... | |
| Telling my son about it all | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: I am the mother of a five year old. I'm ending a relationship of three years with a man who my son ... A: I am sorry to hear about that. I am glad your son is only five years old, it may not impact him ... | |
| break up | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. one day she said she wanted a break. i called her a week ... A: It is normal for girlfriends/boyfriends gets a relationship break for a while. It may not just you. ... | |
| Marriage/Family Problems | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband now for 8 years and we have 3 children together then i have one of ... A: I am amazed with your husband's oldest daughter doing all of these stuff including drugs. You are ... | |
| Defiant Teen | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: We have a very defiant, disrespectful 18 year old daughter. She refuses to follow our rules, sneaks ... A: I am sorry to hear about your daughter. You do not need any of those stress or problems from her. ... | |
| Should I take my wife back? | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: My wife has some personality borderline disorder as I can tell. She did not trusting me when we're ... A: I can't decide what is best for you, however I strongly suggest you consult with an attorney for the ... | |
| Adultery | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: Im married my wife and I have been married for 3 yrs but we've been together for almost 15 yrs. We ... A: Don't do adultery while your married, she will use it as reason for divorce, If you are not happy ... | |
| Mother son enmeshment | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: My gay partner of three years has a twenty year old son from her previous heterosexual marriage. He ... A: I guess there is nothing we can do about it now because you tried to help her, she wouldn't accept ... | |
| Children | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: My 10 year old daughter (almost 11 yrs) tells me Grandma say 'hold your tummy in' or pats it so she ... A: You can just re-assure your daughters that they are looking good and fine. Grandparents need to be ... | |
| Marriage after 10 yrs breaking up due to husband wanting own child | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: My son is divorcing because he wants his own Bioligical child. Wife cannot have more, tried but had ... A: I am sorry to hear that your son is getting divorce. I do understand his wife doesn't want to go ... | |
| Mother son enmeshment | 2/7/2008 |
| Q: My gay partner of three years has a twenty year old son from her previous heterosexual marriage. He ... A: Yes, I would be concerned because he is 20 years old now, why he need her so much? Is he independent ... | |
| Stepchildren getting along | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: My son (age 11) and I moved in with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. At first it was going okay and ... A: I am sorry to hear that your son is having some issues. It is wise idea to attend family therapy ... | |
| Mom's letters from jail | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I am a divorced and remarried dad. I have three children, who live with me. Their mother has a ... A: I agree with you about not telling her about jail stuff, she should have know better than telling ... | |
| Parents | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I am 17 years old and i have a friend who is 10 years older than me. My parents don't want me to ... A: I assumed you are female? I think nothing wrong being friend with her, if they refuse to allow you ... | |
| Emancipation | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: what if i move out without my mom know ing but my dad who lives ina nother state knows is that ... A: Yes it could be called running away. She could have reported you as missing person with the police. ... | |
| Ex Husband's Girlfriend and my kids | 12/15/2007 |
| Q: My ex husband recently moved his girlfriend of a year and a half into his home. He and I share ... A: You are correct about the statement "That is simply something she is going to have to deal with, I ... | |
| emancipation questions | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I just had a child and my mother is in the hospital for cancer.My father is trieng to make me live ... A: No, you can't be emancipated because you are way too young and have no support for yourself (home, ... | |
| Dealing with my nephew | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Martin I have a general question for you. I'm 23 years of age and stay in a 1 bedroom apartment. ... A: I understand the situation and his issues. He is old enough to live at his own and he should respect ... | |
| Grandchild emotional abuse and neglect. | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: My grandson is 6 months.His mother is 19.His father{my son}is 17.I have been helping raise and ... A: YES! You have a right to petition the court for visitation rights or custody in your hometown county ... | |
| Emancipation | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: I have a question regarding emancipation. I am currently 15 and pregnant. I will be 16 in two ... A: No, it is not sufficient to show clause in order to be emancipated. You must state good reasons why ... | |
| MY BOYFRIEND | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: I'M A BEAUTIFUL 19 YEAR OLD YOUNG LADY, AND I'M DATING A 26 YEAR OLD,HE HAS 2 KIDS BY TWO DIFFERENT ... A: You need to trust your own gut feelings, if you feel something fishy or funny - TRUST YOUR OWN GUTS. ... | |
| teen emancipation | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: My 17 year old who has a lifetime of impulse control issues has recently gone to live with his ... A: Yes, you may have grounds to stop him based on "impulsive decisions history" if you can prove the ... | |
| Going "home" | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: My niece had a baby almost 2 yrs. ago - I would LOVE to see her but that involves going back "home" ... A: You are not wrong. It is good thing to visit your niece, if she has family reunion planned, it is ... | |
| Sister In-Law Comments | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: Recently my husband and I visited my sister in-law. Regrettably we had a fight in front of her that ... A: You are correct, it is none of her business, she can question if she witnessed the conversations, ... | |
| Conflict? | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: Good Morning Dr. Martin, My husband and I have been going through problems with respect in the ... A: Yes I agree and concur with you. It is proper and respectful to say hello and goodbye to the heads ... | |
| My family is falling apart | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I have worked for a large engineering firm for the past 12 years. Due to cutbacks, I lost my job. ... A: I am sorry to hear about your job loss, it is understandable you feel depressed due to job loss and ... | |
| parents | 4/16/2007 |
| Q: Maybe you misunderstood my question. We are already married and already living in England. My ... A: There is no point to keeping it secret any longer, and as well why not let your parents know you are ... | |
| parents | 4/13/2007 |
| Q: this might be a long explanation leading up to my question but just stick with me. So about two ... A: I am sorry to hear that your parents are against marriage. It is very common of parents do that ... | |
| My stepdaughter | 4/9/2007 |
| Q: When I married my wife she had a 10 year old daughter who is now 16. The problem is that my wife is ... A: You did a right thing to set up counseling session, it is good idea to keep your appointment, the ... | |
| STUCK IN THE MIDDLE | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: My question involves my whole family.I have an 11 year boy from a past relation. His BIO mother has ... A: There are few ways to save your family. Three ideas to get it started, 1. Family Circle Time or ... | |
| blended family issues | 3/12/2007 |
| Q: We are a blended family of 5 (my 12 yr old son and myself, my fiance and his 12 yr old daughter and ... A: You are correct, it sounds like he shows some symptoms of separation anxiety disorder. He may sees ... | |
| spoiled step-children | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: I am the mother of 3 children ages 2,3,and 6. I am in a great relationship with a new man who has a ... A: It appears you are correct. She should treat everyone the same especially your children. In my ... | |
| help | 2/28/2007 |
| Q: I guess I will start off with me and my sister have sex on a regual time maybe once or 2 times a day ... A: Yes, it would be fine as long both of you agree it will be temporary until two of you found someone ... | |
| tantrums in two year olds | 2/4/2007 |
| Q: I need lots of help. I have a two year old who has a tantrum from apprx 1:30 in the afternoon until ... A: "Terrible twos" are more often than common in children but in your case, it is not that. I feel ... | |
| grandchildren | 1/12/2007 |
| Q: Dr, Jerry Martin, I have a grandson, 18 months, who is the light of my life. He was my reason for ... A: My suggestion is take it real slow with Kayla because it seems to me she is having some issues at ... | |
| kids father | 1/11/2007 |
| Q: how can i get along with him after all the stuff he has put me through? should i just try to be nice ... A: I understand how you feel, he should not call you. He should come out and spend some time with kids ... | |
| kids father | 1/9/2007 |
| Q: my kids father and i were together for four years and we have 2 boys together 2 and 8 months. after ... A: If he pays his child support for the kids, yes he has rights to see kids. If not, you can decide ... | |
| Argument with 16 year old son | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: I would like to get an expert’s take on a situation. Here is what happened. A couple of years ago, ... A: You are not at fault, he is one who broke the promise he made to you last winter. You gave him his ... | |
| my brother in law is a child molestor | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: i guess my question is answered, except i cant help but wonder how to enjoy the holidays while ... A: I understand how you feel about it, however in eyes of law, he was never convicted in the court of ... | |
| my brother in law is a child molestor | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: my brother in law is a child molester, he has molested my youngest niece, child services had taken ... A: It is difficult position to decide. If he was convicted and registered under Megan's Law as a ... | |
| husband caring for mother-in-law | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: about 2 years ago, my mother-in-law had a massive stroke caused her to be bed-ridden and unable to ... A: I am sorry to hear about your mother in law's health. It is understandable for your husband to feel ... | |
| strong-willed child | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: Tell me what you know about strong-willed children. I have what I feel is a some-what strong willed ... A: He is 8 years old. It is expected for him to act out sometimes. He seems likes to spend quality ... | |
| Needy? | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months, and after the first 3 months things started to change, ... A: You can improve your relationship, I know you do love and care about her. I think there are a ... | |
| little sister | 9/5/2006 |
| Q: My mom found out years ago that my sister had some form of retartation and would probably not be ... A: Yes, there are few programs available. You can contact your State or County Office of Disabled, ... | |
| movies | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: Martin My grandma asked me to go and see a movie, which i do not want to see. She is calling for ... A: If you don't feel like seeing a movie with her at this time, you should tell her the truth. You can ... | |
| family responsibilities | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: I have a problem with an older brother who refuses to offer any assistance to my aging mother who ... A: You may be right to talk with your brother about it and how you feel. He may not be able to help ... | |
| Family reunion | 6/28/2006 |
| Q: My family has decided to have a reunion this year for the first time, a formal event and a picnic ... A: You and your wife are not wrong to not attend the family reunion. You can attend family picnic. That ... | |
| Resources | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: I'm a case manager that is facilitating a group on Natural Support Systems. The population that I'm ... A: You can try these professional websites: www.apa.org ... | |
| Family Relations | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: I am 16 years old. I live in Mishawaka Indiana, everyother day my mother and I get into arguements ... A: Legally, you must be an adult - 18 years of age to get your social security. I don't think ... | |
| Depressed step-son | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: I have 23 y.o. step-son. no friends, no job skills, was in college for 5 years, didn't finish d/t ... A: I do agree with you. I believe he is smart and seem have low self-esteem and self confidence. He ... | |
| Family relations | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: I'm interested in the family relations degree and I would like more info about the major such as ... A: Great! I am glad your interested to pursue a degree in Social Services / Social Work. BA degree in ... | |
| responsibilities of children in a mixed family situation | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: My significant other (we are not married) feels that it is my daughter's responsibility as a part of ... A: I can't agree more with you, you stated and explained real clear, he needs to respect that because ... | |
| in laws | 6/5/2006 |
| Q: My husband passed away 4 years ago of a drug over dose. Leaving behind myself and 2 kids. I have ... A: I suggest you to do nothing unless your children ask you something. Once a month visit isn't too ... | |
| my daughter | 5/31/2006 |
| Q: I have four children.Three girls and one boy,my son is the youngest. MY 12 year old daughter 2nd in ... A: I believe she is being very defaint with you and she is a attention seeker. She needs to see a ... | |
| bruised ego | 5/28/2006 |
| Q: i need some sound advice on how to handle my mother. (hopefully specific instructions on how to deal ... A: I understand your feelings, your husband is correct, you should stand up for yourself even she is ... | |
| teenage daughter | 5/26/2006 |
| Q: I am asking this on behalf of my friend. She's been divorced for several years and has been raising ... A: She would need to talk with her parents and grand parents regards this situation because you can't ... | |
| family problem | 5/25/2006 |
| Q: i am 53 years old have a bad heart but all my life my mother father sister and brother has never ... A: You are a good person and very good heart! I guess he did not see that way and he thinks for ... | |
| son believes he's a nerd | 4/11/2006 |
| Q: Martin, I have an eleven year old son who is at the end of grade five. Next year he moves on to a ... A: I am glad he is doing so well in school and has 4 good friends. You can reassure him to ingore his ... | |
| family issues | 3/24/2006 |
| Q: I know that he is drepressed....he lost his father 2 years ago and his mother 6 months ago, he lost ... A: I understand how he feels and etc. I expect that he is down and feel depressed for a while. He ... | |
| family issues | 3/22/2006 |
| Q: I have a problem with a guy that I moved in with 5 years ago. I have two children ages 16 and 11 and ... A: It is shame that he does not help you around the house, if he lived there, he should help. If he ... | |
| Do we force him to do a speech? | 2/18/2006 |
| Q: Martin, I have an eleven year old son who is somewhat shy in certain situations. He was, however, ... A: You certainly can encourage him, however be careful to not push him to do it. It is a good idea to ... | |
| School problem | 2/12/2006 |
| Q: I need some help fast and would appreciate any advice!! A problem arose in a drama class at our ... A: It was very impressive how you handled the situation with your son. The main problem lies with vice ... | |
| my parents! | 1/31/2006 |
| Q: Sorry, I needed someone to talk to. I would appreciate your opinion. My parents were born in ... A: I am sorry to hear about your parents. As you may be aware, you are married now and have children ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/31/2006 |
| Q: My wife is jealous and never wants to leave the house alone. And she never has a happy face. No ... A: I am not certain why your wife is jealous of you? Did you break her trust in some way? Do you hang ... | |
| accepting a child into my life | 1/30/2006 |
| Q: I have always wanted a large family. I gave birth to one child. When he was in high school, we ... A: I think it's in your best interests to listen to your husband, it is not easy to get adoption or ... | |
| Working Young Adults | 1/3/2006 |
| Q: What is a fair amount of rent to ask a child/young adult (20 years old) to pay if they come to live ... A: It depends on the situation and what her needs etc. It is not my decision how much you should ... | |
| stepson causing major marital problems | 12/30/2005 |
| Q: Recently my husband's ex-girlfriend and mother of his son died. We now have custody of the boy, ... A: Yes, I understand how you feel about what's going on with your husband, you are correct he does ... | |
| inlaws again!! | 12/19/2005 |
| Q: I've had it with my relatives, especially my in-laws!! Since I was married, we've been expected to ... A: and you stated "I believe in helping others, but we have always been taken advantage of. We work ... | |
| FIGHTING SIBLINGS | 12/9/2005 |
| Q: MY 7yr OLD DAUGHTER AND 13yr OLD SON ARGUE AND FIGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING, HOW CAN I CALM THIS DOWN AND ... A: It is normal for siblings to fight over minor issues. Most of arugements and disagreements will be ... | |
| Grandchildren living with retired Grandparents | 11/26/2005 |
| Q: We have a 16 yr.old granddaughter(J) that insists on living with us. She has a 23 yr.old boyfriend ... A: I do see a problem here, it seem like you are allowing them to stay there and using you for a long ... | |
| God parents | 11/9/2005 |
| Q: Me and my husband are godparents to out friends daughter. We all have a great relationship but ... A: You do have a right to have a talk with your friend, however please watch your place, sometimes you ... | |
| Grandson | 11/2/2005 |
| Q: I hope this doesn't sound too petty or silly. I have a 19 month old grandson who I am crazy about. ... A: Bailey, You need to remember he is just 19 months, he is too young to really understand or know ... | |
| Problems with son | 10/27/2005 |
| Q: I regularly do not do this but my family is going through a crisis right now and I could really use ... A: Please do remember, it is not YOUR FAULT. It is his own choice which lead to wrong friends and wrong ... | |
| loyalty | 10/3/2005 |
| Q: Is it wrong to feel that your spouse should discontinue a relationship with a person who has been ... A: Murdock, Yes, it will be a mistake to discontinue your relationship just because he was rude to ... | |
| Troubled Grandparents | 10/1/2005 |
| Q: Any suggestions We have a dilemma here where we are enabling our daughter and her husband's ... A: I am so sorry that you are suffering with her problems in regarding her children. It appears they ... | |
| mom question | 9/16/2005 |
| Q: i have a minor problmem, i just turned 21 recently and i want to move out with my boyfreind who ive ... A: I see a solution to this minor situation, if you want to move and live with him, I suggest two of ... | |
| adult step-daughter | 8/28/2005 |
| Q: I need help overcoming an emotional hurdle with my step -daughter. Her mother moved her out of the ... A: She is an adult and not a child anymore, you not need to worry about getting emotional with her. It ... | |
| Pregnancy | 8/21/2005 |
| Q: Jerry, I hope you might be able to help me in some way. Recently,i got married in the Philippines to ... A: I am sorry you are feeling sad about what's had happened with your wife. My question is, does she ... | |
| son's remarriage | 8/16/2005 |
| Q: Dr. Martin, My son and his fiance will be getting married soon. Both have been divorced, he for 7 ... A: It sounded like 9 years old girl is acting out for attention. She is bossy, it tells that she is ... | |
| His step mom is crazy! | 8/1/2005 |
| Q: Martin, I am at a loss as to what to do. I have met the most wonderful man and have been dating ... A: If you love him very much, just be with him and give him full support. I have seen many families do ... | |
| Mom & ex-spouse | 7/29/2005 |
| Q: My mother has remained close with my ex-wife after a bitter divorce. My ex's family would just as ... A: I am glad you are doing great with your children and finace. you not need to worry about your ... | |
| grandaughter | 7/13/2005 |
| Q: How can I advise my oldest grand-daughter , her sister will return from her fathers house , after ... A: You are very welcome, I think you did pretty well for yourself and you even tried to follow thur ... | |
| family relationships | 7/3/2005 |
| Q: how do you know when to leave a relationship and when to stay? especially when kids are involved? A: I am glad you are thinking for your children first. If a person is abusive (hitting/verbally) or ... | |
| childs shoes | 7/2/2005 |
| Q: My daugheter in law insist on buying her toddlers age 3 and 5 (my grandchildren) shoes a size ot 2 ... A: I understand she wants to save money by buying larger shoe to last longer, however I have to agree ... | |
| HELP!!!!! | 6/28/2005 |
| Q: I'll try to make this as short as possible...my husband and I separated almost 2 years ago. We have ... A: I am sorry about your situation, It appears that he used you for his own pleasure. It is really sad ... | |
| my mother | 6/28/2005 |
| Q: i'm in a situation where i feel i must be careful about the well being of my daughter. my mother ... A: You may not be aware, this problem are very common among parents and grandparents. Please do not try ... | |
| mom problems | 6/27/2005 |
| Q: i have a minor problem, iam almost 21 years old, and iam very responsibile and pretty much a good ... A: You can tell your mother to let her know it is time for you to have your own life now. You can take ... | |
| solving a teenagers privliges | 6/22/2005 |
| Q: My husband and I disagree whether or not it is okay for his 17 year old son (Ryan)to use our ... A: Olson, Sorry I took it so long to get back to you, I had some trouble with emails. I do agree with ... | |
| Marriage | 6/20/2005 |
| Q: This is my 1st marriage, my husbands 3rd. It has only been 8 months. I am more passionate & sexual ... A: Time will tell, sometimes he will change and resume back like it was before. he may be moody or not ... | |
| Growing up without a constant father | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: Well to answer your question, I haven't seen my father in 8 months. I guess I have a follow up ... A: Did you write a letter to your father or he communicates with you? You said he was in the military ... | |
| What should my daughter call my partner? | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: I have a 14 month old daughter from a previous relationship and her father is still in the picture ... A: I suggest you to leave it alone and allow her choose what she wants to call him when she is little ... | |
| Growing up without a constant father | 6/11/2005 |
| Q: Are there any physical, social or emotional effects of growing up without a consistant father figure ... A: It depends on each child's point of view, most children are raised by single parent, it could be ... | |
| children who need help | 6/11/2005 |
| Q: There are many programs around to help children, but there are not many to help children whose ... A: It is great that you want to start a program for the children. It is easy, you can form a support ... | |
| Career path | 5/31/2005 |
| Q: Dr. Jerry Martin, You asked me to give you a 5 day reminder about the questions. Thanks JasonDr. ... A: I think the questions are straight and logical ones. 1. I became a marriage and family thearpist ... | |
| Career path | 5/24/2005 |
| Q: Dr. Jerry Martin, I'm a student at Clark College in Vancouver Washington. As part of my career ... A: I will need some time to answer all of your questions within 5 days. I will greatly appreicate if ... | |
| grandparents rights and me | 5/24/2005 |
| Q: Jerry Martin. this problem between me and the grandmother is very stressfull added on to all the ... A: Miller, Thank you for your time to follow up with me. It won't make any difference if both of you ... | |
| father daughter | 5/23/2005 |
| Q: my husband has a sixteen year old daughter that he never says no to. he lets her do what ever she ... A: First of all, it is nothing wrong to show love for the daughter. If he doesn't say no and allow her ... | |
| grandparents rights and me | 5/23/2005 |
| Q: I am 17 and i have a 2 month old. boyfriends mother is saying she is going to take me and her son ... A: Congrats about your baby. You are doing a right thing by telling them to come over to your place ... | |
| two familys becoming one | 5/16/2005 |
| Q: I have three kids but only two are with me a girl thats 16yr old and my son who is 12yrs old. I live ... A: I am sorry about your kids who sees things that you don't want them to see. There is nothing you ... | |
| Visitation | 5/9/2005 |
| Q: I have had gaurdianship of my Niece for the past three years. She is quite settled with us and ... A: LeClair, I have to agree with you about not allowing her to attend the baby shower party due to ... | |
| recent marriage and my soon to 19 yr old son | 5/4/2005 |
| Q: Well after 17 yrs of marriage I found myself divorcing my wife, I took over playing mom and dad ... A: You did very well yourself and you indeed tried your very best raising the children. Your oldest ... | |
| step kids in a same sex relationship | 4/22/2005 |
| Q: they do not care about the realationship. they just have a hard time minding me. my g/f wants me to ... A: Well, my only suggestion is to speak with your gf about it, she needs to tell them to obey you while ... | |
| step kids in a same sex relationship | 4/21/2005 |
| Q: hi i am in a same sex relationship my g/f has two teenage girls that live with us we have been ... A: It is wonderful to have someone who loves you. I see no problem with that. Thank you for your ... | |
| making everyone get along | 3/26/2005 |
| Q: me and my husband have been togeather for 9 years married for 3 we have his ,hers ,and ours i dont ... A: I feel you, If you love your husband, so he do the same, both should sit down and talk about your ... | |
| mother issues | 3/25/2005 |
| Q: I'm 41 with three kids (13,11,6). My relationship with my mother has never been a good one. I've ... A: I am proud of you because you are a great mother who want to do something for yourself such as going ... | |
Family Relations
Answers by Expert:
Dr. Jerry Martin, Jr.
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I will be able to answer any questions in general relation to family and children issues. Please do not ask me regards medications because I am not a medical doctor.
Experience
I have experience with the children and teens in the past 20 years.
Organizations
Certified Member of American Psychological Association - and a Fellow Member of International Society of Counsellors
Education/Credentials
I holds BA degree in Psychology, MA degree in Social Work and Ed.D. degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.
Awards and Honors
I hold numberous awards from state and regionial agencies for excellent community service to the youth and families in the past 12 years.
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