AboutDr Taher Kagalwala Expertise I am a father of two girls, 12 and 8 in 2002. Also , I am a Pediatrician, and have been advising parents about parenting all the time.
Question Thanks for your quick response,
I'd like to ask one more point: How should we behave them as they get along.
Should we just let them do what they want, or should we protect the little, or completely seperate...
Because the older is jealous a bit, she sometimes threat, harm, or deceive the little.
Thank you so much,
Hayri
Salaam aleikum Dear Dr.Kagalwala,
It's nice to read you're also father of two girls.
My situation is the same but we have some difficulties to manage the older one.
She's so sensible and I'm afraid, have been very much affected by our relations with his little sister.
We do try to protect the 3 years old, sometimes from her(6 years old). Because she is jealous about the little and tries to give her harm sometimes.
Maybe we have protected the little one too much and this kept the eltern so stressful.
I recognize our protective behaviour of the little has kept the older limited.
Now she has started to squeeze her teeths and I'm very worried about this .
I also want both are in balance.
I'm going to be very happy if you have some advices for me to have both in balance.
If you need more informations about the currents status or some point please direct questions to me to clarify it.
Thanks,
Hayri ÖZTURAN
Bursa/Türkiye
Answer Giving them independence and controlling the younger one from harm can never be done together because the moment you protect the younger one, the elder one remembers it and keeps a tally of how much you favour the younger one. If you dont protect but have strict rules about what is not permitted, things will be a little better, but problems will still keep occurring. There is no easy solution, my friend!
