Expert: Amanda - 10/28/2009

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QUESTION: Hi, my name is emm and im 18.Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now , and he had to move to the UK for school. He left before we had the chance to have intercourse or do anything sexual, so what we've been doing since he's been gone is talking on the phone for about two months now. We recently started having intimate phone conversations and they make me feel so good, but i feel like i want more than just clitoral stimulation. Ive asked many people this question and i keep getting weird answers, so i figured i would ask an expert.I was wondering if there was anyway i coud squirt without having to insert anything inside my vagina. Ive never used a tampon before because im scared of toxic shock, and ive never tried to finger myself because im too scared ill hurt myself. Sometimes when me and him are talking , and im just about to orgasm (i dont even know if its an orgasm) i feel like im going to pee myself so i just stop touching my clitoris until the feeling goes away. Is that normal or do i have some sort of bladder problem ? because thats also been worrying me too. Please tell me, help me, im willing to try anything but inserting stuff... is there any way??

ANSWER: You cannot squirt without inserting anything into you, but the bladder thing is also normal.  When you masturbate, you build up ejaculate, but not enough to squirt (it only reaches the point of squirting when you stimulate your gspot).  It will make you feel like you have to pee, but keep going because you will have an orgasm.

Hope I helped!

~Amanda

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QUESTION: Thanx Amanda, you helped me quite a bit , but the answer got me more curious hope you dont mind me askin you more ... umm so i guess i have to first finger myself before i can squirt :-S... can i somehow do that without breaking my hymen or is that inevitable if i stick my finger up there? and also that i need to pee feeling means im going to orgasm so i should just keep rubbing my clitoris until i do?

Answer
No, there is not way to stick your finger in you and not break your hymen, but since you are 18, you have already had your period for some time now.  For the blood to get out of your vagina, it had to break the protective cover, the hymen, to come out.  Don't worry about breaking your hymen.

The need to pee feeling does mean that you are getting closer to cumming.  Just keep going and you will probably cum.

Hope I helped!

~Amanda