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ok, so I'm a 19 year old, full time college student and, in the "prime baby making" age. I'm going to be sexually attracted to the opposite sex. I've come to accept that. But lately my mind has been going out of wack when it comes to sexual things. I've been fantasizing more than ever and masturbation is on my mind almost constantly. I found out that this is called lust,so I've tried to figure out how to stop it. So I've made a big and drastic  decision, I've decided to quit masturbating. I tired other alternatives (I'm a spiritual person) like praying about it  and all but it just doesn't seem to be working. So I decided I might as well just quit masturbating all together. I can't come up with any other solutions. I mean I don't want to do it, but I can't come up with a better idea. One of my biggest reasons for quitting is, is that I want to be fair to my future husband. Though I have not met him yet, I know he deserves a wife and a sex partner who tried everything she could to stay pure for him. And staying pure is a big thing for me. (But that's kind of hard to do that when every website I've gone to, except for a few, end up being porn websites. Which doesn't make anything better for me.)
Can you come up with any better alternative than just giving up completely? I started masturbating, 2 years ago, in hopes that I would figure out how to orgasm during intercourse. I heard that it would make things easier on a man while you two were having sex. But now I do it for stress relief, boredom, and getting to sleep. Your answer would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

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Hi hun-

Is your question alternatives to masturbating? If so, you are in the wrong group. We are here for the most part to answer questions about masturbation, not detour them. We do have a spiritual section on here that might help. There is also a section about abstaining from sex, which also might be of use to you.

If I am wrong or if you do have a question about masturbation, my name is Angie and I would more than willing to help you.  

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I can answer any questions related to female masturbation. I have had a psychology practice in the state of Florida for the past ten years. I deal with, but not exclusively, females who have or are dealing with many types of sexual changes. There are NO questions that are wrong to ask about masturbation. I take every questions seriously, and will help you in anyway I can. Please feel free to ask anything, and know you will get my best advice and judgment. I have included a photo of myself on my profile. This is so you can see who you are talking to. :)

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As previous stated, I have practiced over ten year in helping teen and adults overcome numerous sexual anxiety, questions about masturbation, and sexual desires --- all of which were done on a clinic level.

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I have a Maser's Degree in Human Sexuality from the University of Miami. I also have a Master's Degree in Psychology from the Florida State University.

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Because of the sensitivity of the issue, I would never release names of pasts clients.

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