Female Masturbation/Masterbating

Hi,i'm 18 and i been married for 2 years now and i have a loving 7 months baby....it's been like a year now that i been masterbating and ALOT...my husbands work dont permit him to come home so often.i probably spend 2 or 3 weeks alone with my son but i masterbate mostly everyday once or twice at night but i cum really soon even when i have sex with my husband. is that normal...? is it becuase i started my sexual life to soon? How can i control myself?

Hi Nataly!
Cumming quickly is just how your body enjoys sex. There are only a few things you can do to control this, such as when you are masturbating, try to slow down once in a while so that you are either barely touching yourself or stop altogether for a bit. Practice this o that you can make it last longer and longer. You are masturbating frequently because of your age. Your sex drive will probably never be stronger then it is now, so enjoy it ;)
You husband should enjoy the fact hat you cum quickly with him, as most men have trouble holding off orgasm long enough to wait for their partners.
Have fun with yourself! ;)

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.


I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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