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What cani use to safely masturbate. I am 12 years old.

Hi Amanda,
Well there are quite a few ways to masturbate. First try just using your fingers and rubbing your clit. At your age it will probably feel better just to rub around your vagina and your clit (A little nub at the top of your slit). It will take some time and practice to figure out what you like best.
If you want to insert something, be sure it's not sharp, or too hot or cold, and make sure it's clean.
Your fingers work great if you wash them and trim your nails. Other things you can use are hairbrush handles, baby carrots, small cucumbers, and electric toothbrush handles for make-shit vibrators.
Remember to keep them clean, and if you use food, don't put it back for others to eat of course ;)
Have fun sweety!

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I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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