Female Masturbation/way to masturbate


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I'm almost 13 and masturbate quite a lot but not always to orgasm.  The other evening in the swimming pool with dad we were the last ones in and messing about, he was holding me around the middle and kind of ducking me under which was fun, after a bit I began to feel tingly in my vag, as dad was lifting me up and down the fabric of my swimsuit was pulling tight over my vag which I really liked, it made my outside lips tingle and swell up and show through my swimsuit.  When we changed I was still tingly and wanted to touch, all night at home I was tingly and when I went to bed I put my swimsuit back on and squirmed about and made the material tight over my vag to get the nice feeling.  Each time I go swimming with him I try to get him to play with me so I feel nice, sometimes I use the noodles between my legs too as they feel nice, is this ok?

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Hi Penny,
What you've described sounds fun and harmless! Answer a few questions for me ok? Do you think your dad knows it feels good sexually for you when he plays in the pool with you? Has he ever caught you or seen you masturbate? When you masturbate after playing in the pool with him, do you think about him or fantasize about him? Has he ever touched you sexually?
Get back to me and we'll go from there ok?
With love,
-Heather

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.

Experience

I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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Volunteered for one year at a local soup kitchen which also counseled clients. Worked one-on-one with clients as a Volunteer Life Counselor there, finding solutions to financial, shelter and clothing needs.

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G.E.D. acquired. Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from a Central Oklahoma University.

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I have helped many friends, my own sisters, college roommates, my friend's brother, a few men and women online.

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