Female Masturbation/feelings

Hi, I have been masturbating regularly 2 or 3 times a day since I was about 12, I love this site as it is sooo helpful.  I am now 14 and horny most of the time, recently during gym I have become so horny sometimes I ask to be excused so I can go to the bathroom and pleasure myself.  I am becoming very horny around my friends in gym as I see them change and then when we exercise seeing them in tight leotards and spandex sends me into a state, I feel my own vagina become damp and sensative, the fabric of my shorts is almost enough to bring me off.  When I see my friend stretch and her vagina bulging out of her leotard or spankies I almost shake, rope climbing is a definate orgasm moment and watching my friends makes me almost cum, am I normal, whats happening??

Hi Mel,
Sorry it's taken me so long to respond!
What you are describing is perfectly normal! At your age your hormones are going CRAZY, your body is dealing with these new hormones for the first time, so just like smelling a smell for the first time or hearing a noise for the first time, it seems so much more intense... as your body gets used to them, you'll start to be able to focus on other things and not be so bothered by your horniess. The bad news is that might take a few years ;)
As far as you being attracted to girls, that's normal too at this age. We often say that when your hormones go this crazy, you want to jump anything that moves ;) That's an exaggeration of course, but there's some truth behind it. You may be bi, or even lesbian, but it's way to soon to even try to put a label on it. Feel what comes naturally to you, enjoy it, explore it safely, and don't worry about what you might be until much later in life!
In the mean time, masturbate a lot at home to try and keep your hormones in check a little, and think about if there's anyone you can masturbate with, to learn more about how other girls do it and to explore your feelings, perhaps a sister or good friend!

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.


I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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