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I am 13 and have a really high sex drive. VERY! I almost never have time so I've tried hypnosis before I went to sleep but it doesn't come. I'll get very aroused but it just fades off. Especially when I'm fingering my self. I've heard of someone using a hotdog but is it safe? What household items can I use to get SOAKED!! I need quick but VERY effective. I also can't seem to get my body to embrace it. After I start to get close, my body will just stop feeling it. My fingers don't seem to be doing the job. When I was much younger, I would shove stuffed animals in my pants so that th were bulging and I would try to force them into me. It felt good but when I tried it again the other night, I just felt disappointed. That made me wonder if I was just going in the wrong places. My clit doesn't seem to be doing anything for me. Please help me!! The longer I wait, the more things that I want to see if it would help me orgasm by shoving up there! It might sound creepy but just thinking tht I can't orgasm the more stressed out I get!

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Have you ever had an orgasm? It may be that your body is just not ready. Give it time and keep practicing.
Most importantly: keep focusing on the thing that turned you on in the first place, not trying to orgasm. A lot of times women start out masturbating thinking about a hot guy or girl, or looking at porn or something, but then as they get closer to orgasm they start focusing on their body and thinking "why can't I cum," and that distracts them and removes the thing from their mind that got them aroused it the first place.
As far as things to insert, I would say stay away from hot dogs, as they can easily break off, and have many bacteria unless they are hot... in which case you'd get burned.
Young girls often try hairbrush handles, vibrating toothbrush handles, baby carrots, things like that... just make sure whatever it is you wash it first AND after wards, and do NOT put food back for other people to eat after you've used it ;)
I hope this helps!
-Heather

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.

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I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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Volunteered for one year at a local soup kitchen which also counseled clients. Worked one-on-one with clients as a Volunteer Life Counselor there, finding solutions to financial, shelter and clothing needs.

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G.E.D. acquired. Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from a Central Oklahoma University.

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I have helped many friends, my own sisters, college roommates, my friend's brother, a few men and women online.

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