Female Masturbation/daughter


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Hi, a question please regarding my 13 year old daughter Kez.  I have one of those power washers for the car and drive way etc and recently Kez has asked lots of times if she can wash the car or drive or anything.  When it works the water pipe gets a little warm and throbs a little, I noticed she likes to have the water pipe between her thighs and up against her crotch, is she getting a sexual arousal from this, we live in a quiet lane so there is never anyone else about.  I noticed she spends ages with it and is often flushed in her face, she usually wears tight ski pants or lycra shorts and has the pipe right against her crotch.

Thanks just curious

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Mick,

     Yes, it is very possible she is getting arousal from this. It is important to know that it is normal for her to do these things. I recommend you talk to her about it. Bring it up slowly and keep re-enforcing its ok and normal. Judgement is the last thing she needs to feel.. I think it is important that young girls have someone they can talk to about these feeling though so they don't end up acting out on them in an inappropriate way with a partner. Her hormones are telling her body she is ready for the physical feelings, but her mind is not ready for the emotional feelings which is why masturbation is a great tool to help relieve some of those pent up feelings safely.

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Q&A Example: Question: My boyfriend and I are not seeing eye to eye on the topic of masterbation. I like touching myself and he believes masterbation is gross. Is it wrong? And if not how much is considered unhealthy? Answer: Felicia, I am sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time with this. First let me say masturbation is not unhealthy, on the contrary self stimulation can be very healthy. I am sure he believes its gross due to the way he was taught to view sex. There are many places online such as Web Md where you and your boyfriend can read about the benefits of masturbation. I would make it about exploring together and getting to know your boundaries. Communication is the key, and it is very important that he feel comfortable enough to view the topic with an open mind. Masturbation is very good for reducing stress, which can reduce head aches as well as mood swings. Keep in mind that to be overly indulgent, as with anything can be a bad thing. It is not wrong to explore your body and to feel pleasure, as long as you are doing it in a safe place and being respectful to those you share space with. Some religions say it is a sin. That is not for me to dispute, you have to know where you stand on the issue. If it is ok with your belief system, then don’t worry. Open a line of communication, sort of an anything goes “family meeting”. Explain your point of view, but also be willing to hear his. Help him find his comfort level and be willing to compromise. Maybe the next time you masturbate you can use his hand instead of yours, by placing your hand over his and guiding it to the right place. Then you are exploring together and he is learning what you like at the same time. I hope this has helped, Good Luck.. MissPammy =)

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