Female Masturbation/grand daughter

QUESTION: Hi, my GD has just turned 11 and when she spends time with us I notice her straddling and humping a lot of things, she still likes to sit astride my thigh but I feel her pressing down on it and rubbing her self along it as we watch TV, she mostly wears jean shorts with tights under, they look very tight and show the shape of her private area, whe she sits they ride up and I can see her sex bulging each side of the tight denim, any advice pleaee??

Can you be a little more specific on what you would like help with? Are you asking for help in talking with her about being more private? Or with perhaps bringing it up to her parents? Or in not noticing so much, or perhaps even helping her?
She is just beginning to feel a lot of pleasure, and just hasn't learned to hide it yet. Do you believe she masturbates using her hands in private, or have you caught her doing so?
Does she ever flirt with you or any other boys or men, or tease them, or do you believe for now it's just about the pleasure with her?
Do you have unlimited access and are you trusted completely with her? Are you involved while she is partially clothed or naked such as bath or bed time? Does it turn you on when she grinds or to see her sex?
Please answer these questions and we'll go from here

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QUESTION: Thanks for the reply, she does masturbate with her hands, I have seen her several times but she doesnt know, she usually rubs through her jeans on lies on her front and humps, she does flirt with me esp when we are alone, we change together at home and in private cubicles at the pool so I see her naked and partially clothed, and yes it turns me on when she rides my thigh and I also admit I like seeing the shape of her sex through her shorts swimsuit or panties.

Hi again Jim,
It sounds like she is turning into quite the young lady! You will need to be careful here, but I wouldn't see anything wrong with talking to her about masturbation, and giving her some advice that you've learned through the years. Make sure she knows it's OK and that she can do it when she is with you. it is up to you if you are OK with her doing it in front of you.
She sounds very in-tune with her body and fun to have over at the house.
Have fun and good luck!

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.


I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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