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Hi,I want to ask if there anyway a man could make his girlfriend  or wife squirt without tearing her hymen? if Yes how? if No, how can he make her squirt during her first sexual intercourse in the middle of process?
I've seen a lot of defloration videos but I've never find any woman there squirting?
I am asking this because in my community having pre-marriage sex is forbidden. And women of my community believe that first night of marriage is like a piece of heaven. So that puts a lot of pressure on man to satisfy her in that night. And that's what I intend to do with your help of course.
Thank you

Hi Frank,
My advice is to relax and enjoy it. You can talk with your betrothed about how things aren't always like they are in gossip or in tales, and it may take you two some time to adjust to each other and really "perfect" your love-making... but that you will work hard and be a good listener to her needs and that you just want to enjoy your wedding night with her.
What I'm trying to say is, often the wedding night is not amazing, often it's awkward and both of you are unprepared and the sex is not as good as it could be, because you two don't know each other's bodies yet.
There is no one magic piece of advice to make a girl squirt, and squirting is not mandatory for a woman to feel pleasure. Many women orgasm without squirting. Be patient, listen to what she likes, and be there for her, and it will be magical for both of you.

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.


I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

Volunteered for one year at a local soup kitchen which also counseled clients. Worked one-on-one with clients as a Volunteer Life Counselor there, finding solutions to financial, shelter and clothing needs.

G.E.D. acquired. Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from a Central Oklahoma University.

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