Female Masturbation/Menopause

Hi I an 53 and my wife 50. she is going through menopause, she has no desire for sex of any type, I still desire her but she wont touch me or anything. She says if I am horny then I can wank but she isn't interested in watching or even helping. I am being as concerning as I can in her needs but have nor had an orgasm for several months and it I very frustrating.
Any ideas.

Hi Robert

It's really in her hands. Most women do stop having some sexual drive after menopause, while others still do sex to satisfy their partner. If she says she does not want sex at all, ever, you need to talk to her about having an open relationship. As a man you need sex and it's not fair.  

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I can answer any questions related to female masturbation. I have had a psychology practice in the state of Florida for the past ten years. I deal with, but not exclusively, females who have or are dealing with many types of sexual changes. There are NO questions that are wrong to ask about masturbation. I take every questions seriously, and will help you in anyway I can. Please feel free to ask anything, and know you will get my best advice and judgment. I have included a photo of myself on my profile. This is so you can see who you are talking to. :)


As previous stated, I have practiced over ten year in helping teen and adults overcome numerous sexual anxiety, questions about masturbation, and sexual desires --- all of which were done on a clinic level.

I have a Maser's Degree in Human Sexuality from the University of Miami. I also have a Master's Degree in Psychology from the Florida State University.

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