Female Masturbation/How to masturbate?


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Hello, I'm a young woman (24) having trouble orgasm through my vagina. I have still not climaxed with my fiancee and it's getting him depressed, as if he is doing something wrong. Normally I stimulate my clitoris with a pillow to get off, but now I'm trying to figure out how to use my vibrator to climax so I can do that with my fiance. It's weird, but I'm not sure how to use it the best way I can to well climax (with fiance). Any tips?

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You know the old saying, practice makes perfect!
It may be months, or even a year before your fiance can bring you to orgasm, and it may not be in the way that either of you think. Try different things and see what feels best. Have him lick you, insert the vibrator, and of course try different sex positions. In the mean time, while you practice, you should still be getting an orgasm with your pillow. After all, he's your fiance, you should feel free to achieve orgasm by whatever mean necessary in front of him. And if he is truly supporting of your pleasure and not just his, he will want you to. :)
Love, Asley

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Ashley Morgan

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I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

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I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

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Church organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

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Class-specific college writing on Developmental and Sexual health

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B.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.

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Dean's list, 8 semesters.

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Family (siblings and my daughter), friends, cousins, and those I've met online

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