Female Masturbation/daughter masturbating


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QUESTION: I have a 13 year old daughter.  She developed early, about 10, and is a sweet girl. Lately, she has been masturbating a lot, almost every night. I can hear her in her room at night. I don't know if f she knows how loud she gets.  I havent' said anythign to her. My question is whether it's normal for a girl her age to do it so much.  Thanks.  Peter

ANSWER: Absolutely Peter! Your daughter is perfectly normal. I was "playing" when I was 8 and full on masturbating at 10, and doing it quite a bit by 11.
I would avoid bringing it up, unless you need to due to company being at the house overnight, but then if you do, make sure to let her know it's natural and OK.
Thanks for your question!
-Ashley

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QUESTION: Ashley,

Thank you so much.  I'm still learning about girls. I was divorced four years ago, my ex had lot of problems, so my daughter stayed with me.  I wsa surprised by her sexual curiosity.  We are nudists. I grw up with nudist mom and dad, so not things are not exactly hidden, but I was still surprised by her masturbating.  Sometimes I think she's not aware of herself, but other timmes, the way she moves around the house, it's almost like she's showing off a little. I just want to help her grow and learn.  Just after her period, she gets kind of squirrely. I've seen her watching tv, pulling at her nipples, like they are sensitive. She masturbates a lot for a few days, just seems kind of horny. Is that normal?

Peter

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Hi again Peter!
Of course we all have our moods we get in for days at a time, even men ;)
I know for me, I'll masturbate more often for a few days, even a week or a month I'll get on a kick of doing it a lot, then I may get too busy or my sex drive will relax a little and I'll slow down for a while. Being 11, her sex drive will likely only speed up for the next few years, so brace yourself, lol!
It's also not uncommon for her to show off a little to you and possibly flirt a little. It sounds like you are the main male figure in her life, so she wants to establish her sexuality, find out if she's beautiful and attractive, and you being there daily provide the easiest way to do that.
I hope that answers your questions. Feel free to correspond with me directly at beachbumchick1@yahoo.com. Otherwise I'll look forward to your next follow-up here.
Love,
Ashley

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I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

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I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

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Church organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

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Class-specific college writing on Developmental and Sexual health

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B.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.

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Dean's list, 8 semesters.

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Family (siblings and my daughter), friends, cousins, and those I've met online

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