Female Masturbation/Orgasm?


Question
Hi TD,

I love the feeling when i am masturbating, but i cant have an orgasm. It feels good when i do it and I have no problem getting wet, and feel like I am close to having an orgasm but it never comes. My legs get all tense and I feel like I'm close but I just keep getting wetter. Do you have any suggestions to help me have an orgasm?

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I prefer to send mail back and forth on private.

Please tell me your age as that will help a little.  Also tell me a little more of what you are doing and thinking about.  Just remember that your brain has to connect to down there.  Sometimes trying to hard wont work.  But I know it can be frustrating.

Would you consider a massager/ vibrator?  Brookstone at the mall has some good massagers that work well.  Amazon has them also

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I can not think of a question that would be beyond my experience. I have interviewed and worked directly with hundreds of women to overcome issues in both masturbation and sexual intercourse. My techniques that I advise are proven to work and can change a woman’s whole experience with orgasms. I work directly with women one on one to help them work through their questions and frustrations. As a sex therapist I draw the line at intercourse with my clients, but women feel comfortable with me working with them one and one because they know there will be boundaries

Experience

Since all males think they have all the answers I want to be accurate here- I have studied and interviewed several hundred women to get the knowledge to help in most every situation. Most of the help is with orgasms and how to achieve them with or without stimulation other than a penis. My research shows that most women have some mental and physical blocks that just need opening up to understand what is going on down there. Some need stimulation from fingers or toys and many may start that way but progress to not needing outside stimulation at all. The goal for many women is to have an excellent orgasm with just intercourse. This is not always possible and hence women get frustrated. I have a lot of experience with working with women to get through barriers and try different techniques. I have made huge progress with most every client. It changes their lives.

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I do not belong to organizations

Publications
I published an article about 10 years ago

Education/Credentials
I am a college graduate. I have made it a hobby of sorts for over 35 years. So many women are frustrated with their orgasms and many never know how intense a really good one everyday can be. I know what I am talking about and you will see it in my answers. I make sense out it all.

Awards and Honors
No awards except positive feedback

Past/Present Clients
I have such a long list of clients that I would take up this page.

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