Female Masturbation/female orgasm


Question
Hi, I was wondering what I can to help achieve an orgasm. I'm 19 I never had one, when I finger my self I get all shakey and I feel like I have a headache times and I never really finish.

Answer
Hi Alex,
this is a tough one as all women are different and some women really struggle to reach orgasm. The best advice I've ever received about this is that your number 1 sex organ isn't your clit or your pussy, it's your brain. You need to be really turned on, and don't focus on reaching orgasm, only focus on whatever is turning you on, such as a fantasy or video or story. Don't set a time limit, don't have any expectations, and make sure you're comfortable and private. Just focus on the feelings and the stimulation. The more wrong the fantasy is, a lot of times, the more it turns us on and the better chance we have of cumming.
Try that and good luck!
-Ashley

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Ashley Morgan

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I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

Experience

I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

Organizations
Church organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

Publications
Class-specific college writing on Developmental and Sexual health

Education/Credentials
B.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.

Awards and Honors
Dean's list, 8 semesters.

Past/Present Clients
Family (siblings and my daughter), friends, cousins, and those I've met online

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