Female Masturbation/Orgasm and Massagers


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Hello. I'm 13 and I've been masturbating for a month or so now and I don't know if I've orgasm yet. I get this really strange feeling like I have to pee, and I'll try to keep fingering myself but I get tired and can't continue. Sometimes my legs even go numb. I tried masturbating with the faucet and it I felt those same feeling, but also couldn't stop squirming and shaking. My back also arched slightly. I'm not very vocal about anything, so I haven't made any noises. Am I getting close? I feel like I'm not relaxed enough. Do I need to be more relaxed?
Also. I was wondering if you knew of any good massagers for masturbating. I've sorta kept this to myself because I'm sorta ashamed that I do it. I know I shouldn't, but am. So can you recommend so massagers that aren't too expensive that I could find at a dollar store or target?

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Hi bella!
Two things:
Most importantly, your mind has to be in the right place to reach orgasm. You can stimulate yourself all you want but if your mind isn't there, it won't happen. You need to be very mentally turned on. Tease yourself with thoughts of things that turn you on before you even begin masturbating. These thoughts can be anything from specific people you like to things you'd like to do with them or see them do, to just random sex acts.
If your mind is there, your body will follow. You can also watch porn or read sex stories online. Don't expect results right away but keep practicing!!
As far as massagers go, any of the cheaper ones will be fine. There's no specific brand or type I can recommend because they're all a little bit different depending on where you live and where you go, and there won't be much to chose from at a dollar store, so just get something that looks like it would work for you, fit between your legs easily and no sharp edges ;) If no one is looking, give it a little try in the store ;)
Good luck love!!
Ashley

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I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

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I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

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Church organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

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B.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.

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Dean's list, 8 semesters.

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