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hello, thank you for taking your time to answer my question. i have had some doubts about some things and i decided to ask an expert. so me and my friends talk about sex a lot, and during conversation, we came into the subject of "getting wet." my friend says she gets really wet and i thought about it and i don't get that wet. is there a lack of something in my body? because i find i don't really get that wet, even when i masturbate.
i have a vibrator that i use to masturbate but i actually stopped using it because i felt that it would decrease my sensitivity from my clit. i haven't used it in about 3 months. can i regain more sensitivity on my clit? i feel that in order to masturbate i have to rub my clit really hard against the carpet, while other people just use their hands. I'm a little concerned about this.
are there any other ways for a female to masturbate, any other creative ways maybe? i am 22 years old, if that helps. i just feel like i might also have to rely on lube but i feel like I'm too young to use lube. anyways, thanks again for you help, and i hope to hear from you soon!

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The usual way to get wet is to find something that turns you on, like your partner's touch or your partner's voice, or even your own touch, or something non-personal, like photos or videos, music, scents like candles.  Whatever works for you.  It might be a matter of taking more time to get ready to masturbate than you're doing now.  

It would be worth trying a little touch of lube if that could help you get aroused by touching yourself in a way that would make more sense for you.

I advise against masturbating prone.  Masturbating prone is a proven cause of sexual dysfunctions in males and there is evidence that it is also bad for females.  See more at http://www.healthystrokes.com.

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I have been answering questions about female masturbation, male masturbation, and other areas of sexuality for over 11 years on my web site HealthyStrokes.com, and I have been an expert in sexuality categories on AllExperts for over two years.

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