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Hi. I'm an 18 year old girl and I've always only been able to pleasure myself by crossing my legs and squeezing. Though not by stimulation of the clitoris like on many adult films or as I've heard from all my friends. I have a boyfriend now who really wants to make me orgasm (we recently became sexually active). He doesn't know about this habbit and i don't plan on telling him. I'm afraid that i will never be normal in his eyes of never be able to give him what he wants..
I have tried so many times to masturbate like normal girls but it doesn't work. Sure i can feel it's sensitive but it's just not pleasurable. Is there a way i can learn how to do it like on porn movies or is there a way my man can pleasure me in a way he'll understand?? Please help..

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Dear Laura,
Thank you for writing. Please stop worrying - you ARE normal.  Everyone has their own approach, and you have found what works for you.  Porn movies are just that - movies. Don't ever stop what feels good to you.
The best way for a man to please a woman is through oral sex.  Ask him to be gentle and to take his time and it will all work out wonderfully.
I hope that this helps.
Nikki

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I can answer all questions regarding female masturbation. I can help you reach an orgasm by masturbating, reassure you that your masturbation habits are normal, and assist you in discovering your sexual self. I am non-judgmental and caring by nature.

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I have studied female masturbation for over 20 years and am an avid masturbator myself. My research has involved one-on-one interactions, personal experiences, case studies, epidemiology, and field and computer-assisted research.

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I have a doctorate in biological sciences, but female masturbation has been a primary interest of mine even before I received my PhD. My goal is to assist women of all ages so that they learn that there is no shame associated with masturbation. It is a natural act that has been repressed (i.e., guilt provoking) for far too long. Women deserve pleasure the same as men, and masturbation is the best way to learn what feels good. Once they learn, women can show their partners what they like.

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