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I am a 36 year old married woman. Due to some lower back pain I have just begun visiting a massage parlor. The masseuse generally spends time massaging my lower back, buttocks and thighs. I have found that while he is massaging my upper thighs and buttocks I feel a surge of arousal. It's a pleasurable sensation that begins in my core and I actually reach close to orgasm although I have never climaxed. I have found that this pleasurable sensation is even better than when I have sex with my husband as he doesn't spend as much time during foreplay. Is it normal for women to get aroused during a massage? Also is it possible for me to orgasm without actually stimulating my genitals?

It is very, very normal! Your body doesn't always obey your mind and know that the person touching you isn't your partner. Have you tried asking your husband for a massage?
Yes it is possible to orgasm without stimulating your genitals though only certain women experience it, most do not.

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Ashley Morgan


I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children


I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

Church organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

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B.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.

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Dean's list, 8 semesters.

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Family (siblings and my daughter), friends, cousins, and those I've met online

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