Expert: XR - 11/3/2008

Question
QUESTION: I have a 26 year old daughter who was away on a buisness trip. I was asked to care for her cat. I stopped by one evening to feed her cat and thought while i was there i'd straighten up and do her laundry. As i put her clothes away in her dresser i was shocked to see her drawers filled with diapers and plastic pants of assorted colors. Upon her return i didn't mention to her what i found and let it go for a month. I stopped by one evening unannounced and saw her sitting on her sofa wearing only diapers and plastic pants drinking milk from a baby bottle.
She stood up and i realized she was wet and had soiled her diapers. I asked her what are you doing and she said she had a diaper fetish. I didn't know what to say i was shocked. She sat back down and continued sucking her bottle and she didn't care one bit that her diapers were wet and dirty. She asked me to leave because she said i wouldn't understand and i don't please help with an answer. She has always been a quite girl and kept to herself. The only thing she said is that it makes her feel good. Please explain if you can her behaviour.

ANSWER: She's a diaper fetishist and that's just her thing. It has nothing to do with you or anyone else. There's really nothing you can do or should do with this knowledge. It doesn't imply anything else about her either. Some people like to kick back by watching tv, playing video games, or knitting. She likes diapers and plastic pants.
 This isn't even a relationship killer fetish. There are plenty of diaper fetishists and adult baby people out there. You don't have to understand, you should just be glad that she's comfortable with herself.
 I wish you the best of luck on overcoming being weirded out. Maybe you can tell her that it's okay that it's her thing, it weirds you out, but that you'll make an effort to get over that.
 That's the best I can give you. Good luck.

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QUESTION: Thank you for your quick response. I can understand her wanting to be in diapers but using them is beyond my understanding. She seems very comfortable being in wet and dirty diapers, that's the part where i'm totally confused. She's a grown adult, why not use the toilet?

Answer
She's no doubt totally capable of using the toilet, but that's not her thing. There's nothing wrong with her. I don't understand people who collect teddy bears or little ceramic figurines, but I don't try to make them justify it because they can't make me feel the way that they feel. Of course I may have so many other things in common with them, so I don't focus on their ceramic figurine fetish.
 You don't have to understand, and you can't change her or fix her, so you can just let go of all the need to "do something" about this. You can just love her as your daughter and tell her when you're coming by so that she doesn't have to worry about you walking in on her.
 Also, keep in mind. She's not the only kinky person you know. You just don't know everyone else your interact with so well. People are just wired funny.