AboutXR Expertise If your fetish involves gear I can take it on. From electrosex to medical play I'll give you the best shot I can. I deal with some of the strangest things on an everyday basis and would be glad to help answer any question you might have, no matter how crazy or mundane.
*New* If you're under 18, I'm no longer answering your questions. I understand that most people lose their virginities before they're 18, and that getting good advice, or even treated seriously as a sexual being can be problematic, but I'm not comfortable that the 12 year olds or such who are asking questions are always really 12 year olds and not strange old men or FBI agents. So, for any underage kids thinking of asking questions, here's my response up front: Use condoms (you aren't ready to have sex if you can't buy condoms), and don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.
Experience I'm here as a representative of www.eXtremeRestraints.com. We're one of the biggest online BDSM and fetish gear retailers in the world. We carry just about everything you could possibly be into. We spent a lot of time finding quality kink gear to carry and make sure that it's all high quality and consistently satisfying, so we should know our stuff.
Question Hey there, I emailed you a while back about a diaper fetish I admitted to
having. However, after I discovered that I was also attracted to women, I only
masturbated to pictures of them, and refrained from looking at any diaper
photos. (I'm only 19, and hit puberty at late 16). This was about 6 months
ago. Recently, I have discovered that I no longer have a sexual response to
diapers, of which I had masturbated to for a year and a half. I was wondering,
have you ever heard of anything like this? I read an article once on
"masturbatory reconditioning" and thought this might have something to do
with it...I also never actually indulged the fetish, so would this have made it
easier to my mind to let go? thanks in advance.
Answer Hi Liam,
I have in the past suggested that people with uncomfortable fetishes try your approach. I'm not so concerned that someone might have a bizarre fetish so much that it might cause problems for them socially and relationship-wise. Anyone is best off being flexible in their sexual interests and not tied to one very narrow stimulus.
As for retraining yourself, orgasms are a very direct reward for you doing something particular. From a purely stimulus response theory you should be able to reprogram yourself in this way. Here's the thing, you should be able reward yourself and build up a healthy and natural attraction to women, but I don't see how that would wipe out your interest in diapers. Perhaps diapers just aren't all that powerful of an attraction to you anymore. Heck, I recall that at a certain time in my life candy was a much bigger deal to me. Then one day, I realized that I just didn't care that much about it anymore. I realized that I'd rather have a steak.
There's no reason that you can't train people to respond to different things as long as there's a fundamental reward. You likely can't change someone's responses and motivations entirely but redirecting or expanding them should be possible.
For anyone else reading this, I highly suggest trying this approach if you're really upset about your sexual preferences, and feel that you should have more well rounded sexual interests. Don't worry about having interests that you're conflicted about, worrying and agonizing over something isn't a great way to get over it. Anyway, many people have many different sexual interests. This only becomes a problem when that one thing you're obsessing over becomes your sole route to sexual satisfaction. I'm not going to advocate that you beat yourself up over your interest, only that you look to build more interests so you can function better in society. One key to happiness is being happy with the person who you are. You need to accept that you are who you are, but that doesn't mean that you won't grow and develop as a person.
Liam, if you ever return to your diaper fetish, don't take that as a failure. So long as you can carry on healthy relationships with other people, and an interest in diapers isn't limiting you, it's not exactly unhealthy. However, I do believe that you can change, and I'm glad that your a more well rounded person today.
