I can answer the following questions about fetishism:
How to talk to your partner about your kinky fantasies
How to set up a "play date" for you and your partner so you can act out your fantasies.
How to practice your fantasies and fetishes solo.
The different organizations, clubs, or resources one want to contact
Crossdressers
How to approach your lover about your crossdressing fetish
How to play with your lover is s/he is a crossdresser
Different ways to can continue to make this fetish work for you
Other kinky specialities:
Animal Transformation
Foot Fetish
Role-Play
BDSM
Object fetish
"Unique" or "Uncommon" Fetishes:
Fantasies that involve supernatural creatures, celebrities, etc
Fantasies that may involve body growth, shrinkage, weight gain, etc.
Fantasies that include elaborate scenarios, scripted role-play, etc.
A combination of one or more fetishes
Edgeplay
Bloodplay
Watersports
Coprophilia/coprophagia
Roman Showers
Intense, consensual role-play with taboo or controversial themes (Rape-fantasy, animal-play, etc)
I can't answer the following:
In-depth information about medical play or bondage
If you need further guidance or coaching, then please call my phone line:
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Experience
BIO
Christina Cicchelli is a "Sexventurer" of sorts; she's spent over five years as a sex worker and has experience in a myriad of industries, including phone sex and professional domination. As a Mistress, she has worked in several NYC Dungeons and also visited devoted clients on an independent basis. As a phone sex operator, she maintained a large amount of callers who sought her guidance, creativity, and experience in fetish and role-play.
Christina is best known for her career as a porn actress. Under the non de plume, Simone Valentino, she's performed in a handful of films. She received an AVN nomination for “Best Actress” for her role in Afrodite Superstar and also won “Best New Starlet” at the Feminist Porn Awards in 2008 for her role in Audacia Ray's The Bi Apple.
Christina is a columnist for $pread Magazine and writes about all things fetish in own blog, A Fantastic Nightmare. She is also Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross’s resident Fetish Blogger on their sex-positive website (Dodsonandross.com) and coaches individuals and couples who seeking kinky inspiration in the bedroom.
Publications
A Fantastic Nightmare (Personal Blog)
Dodsonandross.com - Sex positive website and home of sex educators and feminists Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross
$pread Magazine - Printed publication for sex workers written and produced by sex workers
Education/Credentials
Graduate: The College of New Rochelle
Masters: English/Communications
Awards and Honors 2007: "Best New Starlet" - Feminist Porn Awards
2008: "Best New Actress" - AVN Awards
Past/Present Clients Confidential but verifiable references are available
Question This is a two-part question, the first question is if having a fetish for leather or rubber, for example, is a form of material fetishism? The second question is whether or not if sexual fetishes are formed as a result of early life experiences in childhood because of some kind of stimuli? An example of this is me because I found out at a very early age that I was sexually attracted to a particular toy I had as a child and still have today and it is one of those vintage fisher price little people houses that's made of plastic and wood, and I always had a thing for the plastic roof of that toy house because I would always literally make love to the plastic roof while masturbating and thinking of other guys. I have other examples of materials that I'm attracted to such as books with shiny hard covers and I also like rubber to, but I didn't develop a rubber fetish until my late teens and early 20s. I'm wondering what your thoughts about all this are? Thanks
Answer Hello David.
Happy Columbus Day! I would agree that both leather and rubber can be considered a form of material fetishism. The appeal to materials like latex, fur, or PVC can include its smell, texture, or appearance. Many fetishists enjoy seeing their lover wrapped in their favorite fabric and enjoy wearing it as well. Materials can also make an appearance through objects, furniture, and decoration. There are fetishists who like certain materials, but not others. For example, one who is aroused by leather may not like latex, or vice versa.
For many of us, our first encounter with our fetish starts during childhood. And, doesn't it seem to happen by chance? You have the initial contact and it does something to you that you can never forget. And you can't help but place yourself in an environment where you're even closer to your fetish-object. As children, we're exposed to many new places and objects. We attach ourselves to this new, wonderful, stimuli and we feel compelled to touch and rub against it. Even as we grow into our pubescence, we will constantly interact in new experiences. Some will have this incredible effect on us, and others won't. When you ask most fetishists why they still practice their particular fetish, they may describe to you the appealing parts of a fetish-object - the thick soft surface of rubber or the stretchy smoothness of latex - but to describe how these feelings occur and to describe their impact, well, it's more than what words can capture.
So, to answer your questions, the origins of a fetish can start during childhood. But, as we mentioned, that encounter can happen during our teens and any time throughout life. Suddenly, out-of-the-blue, we may come into contact with a familiar object that now has a deeper meaning. Or it could be an unspoken or even unnoticed relationship we've had since we were children.
