Past/Present clients Have steady "patients" and Doctors/Nurses who like to fulfill their fantasies. My "specialty" is in providing "newbies --- the curious" with an environment to experience their fantasy and to explore their curiosity without the fear of being rejected, laughed at, thought to be weird, etc. Many females are curious about becoming aroused during a GYN exam OR they want to be the Doctor/Nurse and find the man's prostate. I have helped them all . . .
Question Hi,
My boyfriend has a muscle fetish and I don't know how to find a happy
medium for us both. I'm 30 and I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2
years. I have always been a bit of a fitness addict so when we first got
together and he told me he had a thing for muscles I was ok with it -
although I did find it a bit strange as I had never heard of it before. Anyway
in the last 2 years, I have gotten a lot bigger through doing weights for him
which has been great for our sex life. However I am starting to feel
unattractive as I am feeling like I'm looking a bit too muscley. And he wants
me to get even bigger and he's disappointed that I have been doing more
cardio rather than weights lately. I don't know if I've made his fetish worse by
indulging him. He told me the other night that this is something that he is
going to need his whole life and he wants me to be aware of it and his needs.
There's a couple of concerns I have. One is that he will never discuss our
future together, he freaks out whenever I try to talk about it, and I have to be
honest in that I don't want to turn into this massive muscley freak if he
doesn't wan't to be with me later. I guess I'll feel like an idiot if it doesn't
work out. My other concern is what happens when I get old? or if I was
pregnant? What happens when I don't have a really muscley body? I kind of
feel like I'm committing to something here and he's not. I don't know if he's
asking too much from me or not? I'm just really confused about the whole
thing. My last issue with it is that although we have great sex he's hates
kissing and we pretty much never have foreplay. He basically gets naked and
asks me to flex for him. I've told him that I need more kisses and just
caressing and that I need him to make me feel attractive but I think he feels
like I'm nagging him and that I'm trying to ask him for something because he
asking me to do things like flex. I know that having a fetish is something that
maybe he can't control too much but I would think my needs are genuine
also. And I don't think I'm asking for too much. His argument is that I'm
always already turned on anyway (because I want sex a lot more often than he
does) so he doesn't have to do much to turn me on but I find it quite hurtful
because I do feel like I'm doing a lot for him to turn him on and I'd like to feel
that he wants to do the same for me?
Anyway, I guess I'm just very confused and not sure if he's asking a lot from
me or if really he's not asking much from me at all?
Any advice would be great.
ps. I was trying to ask this question to K. Fetish as I saw he has answered
questions on this topic before but it the site kept diverting it to ask yourself.
Hope you can help!
Thanks
Answer First, I'm not sure why K. Fetish kept referring you to me since my "area of expertise" is in medical fetish/fantasy! Anyhow, your boyfriend has issues that HE needs to deal with. You're trying to discuss it and deal with it and he's not. So - the good news is - you can probably save yourself a lot of time and frustration if you find out NOW that he's not going to be understanding. And, if it's all about the muscle thing and he doesn't want anything more than that - you're nothing but a playtoy for him! Do you really want that?
