I can answer the following questions about fetishism:
How to talk to your partner about your kinky fantasies
How to set up a "play date" for you and your partner so you can act out your fantasies.
How to practice your fantasies and fetishes solo.
The different organizations, clubs, or resources one want to contact
Crossdressers
How to approach your lover about your crossdressing fetish
How to play with your lover is s/he is a crossdresser
Different ways to can continue to make this fetish work for you
Other kinky specialities:
Animal Transformation
Foot Fetish
Role-Play
BDSM
Object fetish
"Unique" or "Uncommon" Fetishes:
Fantasies that involve supernatural creatures, celebrities, etc
Fantasies that may involve body growth, shrinkage, weight gain, etc.
Fantasies that include elaborate scenarios, scripted role-play, etc.
A combination of one or more fetishes
Edgeplay
Bloodplay
Watersports
Coprophilia/coprophagia
Roman Showers
Intense, consensual role-play with taboo or controversial themes (Rape-fantasy, animal-play, etc)
I can't answer the following:
In-depth information about medical play or bondage
If you need further guidance or coaching, then please call my phone line:
(646) 250-4999. Call for a free 10 minute phone consultation. I also offer hour-long coaching sessions for the practicing pervert.
Experience
BIO
Christina Cicchelli is a "Sexventurer" of sorts; she's spent over five years as a sex worker and has experience in a myriad of industries, including phone sex and professional domination. As a Mistress, she has worked in several NYC Dungeons and also visited devoted clients on an independent basis. As a phone sex operator, she maintained a large amount of callers who sought her guidance, creativity, and experience in fetish and role-play.
Christina is best known for her career as a porn actress. Under the non de plume, Simone Valentino, she's performed in a handful of films. She received an AVN nomination for “Best Actress” for her role in Afrodite Superstar and also won “Best New Starlet” at the Feminist Porn Awards in 2008 for her role in Audacia Ray's The Bi Apple.
Christina is a columnist for $pread Magazine and writes about all things fetish in own blog, A Fantastic Nightmare. She is also Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross’s resident Fetish Blogger on their sex-positive website (Dodsonandross.com) and coaches individuals and couples who seeking kinky inspiration in the bedroom.
Publications
A Fantastic Nightmare (Personal Blog)
Dodsonandross.com - Sex positive website and home of sex educators and feminists Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross
$pread Magazine - Printed publication for sex workers written and produced by sex workers
Education/Credentials
Graduate: The College of New Rochelle
Masters: English/Communications
Awards and Honors 2007: "Best New Starlet" - Feminist Porn Awards
2008: "Best New Actress" - AVN Awards
Past/Present Clients Confidential but verifiable references are available
Question QUESTION: My wife is a bbw and has grown rather fond of sitting on my best friend. He loves it and told us that there is a fetish that people would pay for to have a bbw sit on them. Clothed of course. is this true and what is it called?
ANSWER: Hello Jason,
Sorry for the delayed response. This fun activity is called squashing and it is common. Just as you described, your lover is slammed or squashed by someone who is of sizable weight. Something similar to that is trampling, a fetish that involves stepping or jumping on top of your lover, as if to treat them like a human carpet. Last year, a couple appeared on the Tyra Banks show to discuss their enjoyment of squashing and also provided footage of their sessions. Regardless, unless you're looking for porn, it's tougher to find a website that proves informational to those interested in Squashing.
Yes, you can make money from this particular fetish. If you are interested in doing so, you can start by quickly building a website (you can sign up to use yahoo sitebuilder or google sites for free). On this website, you can list prices, include pictures of your wife squashing you or her friend, provide pictures of your beautiful wife in a gallery, discuss how arrangements are made, and provide contact information. I would suggest keeping a separate email account exclusively for potential clients. You can arrange to meet them at their apartment or you can rent space from bdsm dungeons and fantasy studios in your area. Prices can be based on hourly sessions - to get an idea of how much one would pay, I suggest doing a bit of research and determine what other Professional Dommes are charging for this service. Advertise on Craig's List and in different adult classifieds (she can block out her face to avoid being noticed) and eventually you should receive inquiries from those desperately in need of being squashed.
If you need more information about how to start your own squashing fetish business, please let me know.
Thank you!!!
CC
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QUESTION: What exactly do we need to know to start this type of business? How do we find out what a good going rate is for this service?
Answer Hey Jason,
For this particular business, you can go down several avenues. The simplest way to start is by placing ads that provide an email address attracting a client base this way Post seductive (doesn't have to be nude) pictures to persuade viewers. It's low-cost advertising and a faster way of getting through to customers. Plus, you need very few tools to start. Your wife should have a few pieces of lingerie or provocative clothing with nice heels available. But, remember, it takes an average of 6 mos to 1 year for a small business to see profit. Be patient, confident, and dedicated in order to see some development.
Another effective way to determine your rate is by considering the following:
1) How many hours does it take for you to prepare to go to a session?
2) How long would it take for you and/or your wife to travel from one session to the next?
3) How much would it cost to rent a studio? A BDSM dungeon or private studio could charge a small renting fee or (which happened in my experience) ask your wife to guest domme in exchange for servicing clients in their establishment.
4) How much does clothing and other necessary tools cost?
5) What type of clients would you like to attract (Lower prices could attract short-term guys looking for a quick session; higher rates could attract less clients but may draw in those who are sincerely interested in your wife and may prove most loyal)
Personally, as an independent professional dominatrix, I charged a slightly higher rate than other dungeon dommes (women who worked for a BDSM dungeon) because I did only outcalls and provided my own tools. Then, I would do dungeon domme work for my own studio space (often times I would even recommend clients with particular tastes to other Mistresses).
Check out eros.com and find a city near you. Look at the other dommes and check out their websites. Check out the going rates.. I wouldn't use this to make a final decision on your fees because their prices do not dictate the amount of clients they attract. Also, other dommes can do a number of things (for ex. phone fetish, travel, movies, webcam, etc) that changes their value.
I just recently found a Fetish Business Coach by the name of Mikayla Miles. I don't know how her services work exactly but maybe you can email her and ask for some information http://thefetishcoach.com/.
