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The thought of water sports drive me crazy!! I want so bad to do it with my wife (meaning her on my face and letting it flow like a river) How do I ask her... she is not too erotic
Hey Dave,
Sorry about the delayed response. I actually wrote a small article about water sports and other bodily fluid fetishes on my website if you want to check it out (http://afantasticnightmare.wordpress.com/2009/07/09/pisspukeshit/).
Since most people are squeamish about watersports, so the first talk should be about breaking down the yuck-factor of urine play and framing your ideal play session in a very comfortable and casual encounter.
The best casual encounter is in the shower. This can be before or after the both of you wash up. First let her pee on your foot and on your foot so she can get used to the sensation and you can show her how easy and fun it can be. Once she's up for the small but significant challenge, lie down on the floor of the bathtub and have her piss first on your chest, then on your face (The reason? She may be reluctant to kiss you or touch your face after she's peed on it).
The name of the game is baby steps. When you initiate the conversation, let her know that it's really fun and not a very big deal. Tell her that you can do it really quickly in the shower and you can wash off right after. But, it's very important that you package this fetish as a fun and positive experience for the both of you, one that you find very pleasurable and need to share with her. Make sure to give her time to ask questions and voice concerns. If the yuck-factor is still a big deal, then remember baby steps. Tell her she can pee on your foot for starters... then the hand... then onward. But, go at a pace that makes her feel comfortable.
Also, make sure to express the same pleasure and excitement you would feel if she was peeing in your mouth. You can let her know that ultimately it would be ideal if she can do this for you. But, for now, you're just as happy with her experimenting with the sensation of peeing on you.
Let me know how this goes! And good luck!
Christina
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I can answer the following questions about fetishism:
- How to talk to your partner about your kinky fantasies
- How to set up a "play date" for you and your partner so you can act out your fantasies.
- How to practice your fantasies and fetishes solo.
- The different organizations, clubs, or resources one want to contact
- How to approach your lover about your crossdressing fetish
- How to play with your lover is s/he is a crossdresser
- Different ways to can continue to make this fetish work for you
- Animal Transformation
- Foot Fetish
- Role-Play
- BDSM
- Object fetish
- Fantasies that involve supernatural creatures, celebrities, etc
- Fantasies that may involve body growth, shrinkage, weight gain, etc.
- Fantasies that include elaborate scenarios, scripted role-play, etc.
- A combination of one or more fetishes
- Bloodplay
- Watersports
- Coprophilia/coprophagia
- Roman Showers
- Intense, consensual role-play with taboo or controversial themes (Rape-fantasy, animal-play, etc)
I can't answer the following:
In-depth information about medical play or bondage
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Experience
Christina Cicchelli is a "Sexventurer" of sorts; she's spent over five years as a sex worker and has experience in a myriad of industries, including phone sex and professional domination. As a Mistress, she has worked in several NYC Dungeons and also visited devoted clients on an independent basis. As a phone sex operator, she maintained a large amount of callers who sought her guidance, creativity, and experience in fetish and role-play.
Christina is best known for her career as a porn actress. Under the non de plume, Simone Valentino, she's performed in a handful of films. She received an AVN nomination for “Best Actress” for her role in Afrodite Superstar and also won “Best New Starlet” at the Feminist Porn Awards in 2008 for her role in Audacia Ray's The Bi Apple.
Christina is a columnist for $pread Magazine and writes about all things fetish in own blog, A Fantastic Nightmare. She is also Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross’s resident Fetish Blogger on their sex-positive website (Dodsonandross.com) and coaches individuals and couples who seeking kinky inspiration in the bedroom.
Publications
A Fantastic Nightmare (Personal Blog)
Dodsonandross.com - Sex positive website and home of sex educators and feminists Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross
$pread Magazine - Printed publication for sex workers written and produced by sex workers
Education/Credentials
Graduate: The College of New Rochelle
Masters: English/Communications
Awards and Honors
2007: "Best New Starlet" - Feminist Porn Awards
2008: "Best New Actress" - AVN Awards
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Confidential but verifiable references are available
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